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Friendly Fadeaway
ok i have this friend and well ill just say it one: all the time she acts majorly fake (the whole dumb blonde thing)when shes actually really samrt she wants people to like her and shes really desperate, but the thing is its just making people make fun of her they think shes a poser (which she sorta is) and everyone makes fun of her shes tried so many times to fit in and ive told her that she shouldnt care what people think about her becuz its really not important, she always tells me how perfect i am (which i am not) and its really annoying last year she tried to be punk this year shes a major prep and she shouldnt be either ive tried so many times to talk to her and she always promises to start being herself how do i help her help herself without tearing her down?
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I think your friend is just going through a phase... and I can guarentee you've heard that before. But it's true, and I'm speaking from my own experience here. I and a few of my friends have gone through phases like that. What you should do is take her on a shopping trip - make sure she has a decent amount of money to spend - and just be normal. When she asks your opinion on something, for example, "Does this top make me look fat?" just reply, "Do YOU think it does?" She'll (hopefully) answer with her own opinion, and then she can start being herself. And as for the whole perfect thing, just be flattered. If she does say, "You're so perfect bleh bleh bleh" just say, "I'm not," and steer the subject away from you. Also, it would help majorly if you complimented your friend regulary - if she's wearing a new top, for example, comment and say it looks nice or something.
I know this sounds pretty basic but if you do all these steps you both will be fine. Oh, and stand up for her - just tell other people to back off, or say something witty like "better a poser than a loser" (ok, maybe that wasn't that witty, but you get the idea).
She's just exploring who she is, so just help her get along, and do your best to bring her true self out.
Good luck!
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Well lst year i tryied to be punk... bg mistake.. and this year i am like completely oposite... so i kind of know how your friend feels... but she shouldn't act stupid to make friends... i mean if peopel are only your friends becuase of who you are pretending to be then they arent your friends... what i would do is sit her down and tell her how smart she is... and that she is just wasting it by being stupid... hope i helped a bit
good luck
-beccers_boo
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