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Im Frustrated.....
HI Wisewoman,
I have been contacting his friend regarding THE GUY.. and he said that when he tried talking to him he didnt want to talk about it. I don't understand why he would act like that. I have been nothing but nice to him. Yes, I've been a bit crazy with the emails and stuff.. but that was in the past. You would think that knowing what I've done that he would be more accepting. He emailed me once and told me this: You don't need to worry about me too much. I have some family issues that I need to deal with. I will talk to u later. and after that I got no response. Those msg's I sent where b4 he sent that msg to me. I don't understand why hes got to be soo secretive that he can't even share things with me.. His friend tells me: Do you think you should hold on to him especially if hes not responding to you? I don't really know what to do.. its hard lettting go.. esp whenever I hear from his friend. I somehow subconciously beleive that there is hope when I hear from his friend.. I dunno. I think im crazy.. wat do I do? pls help
-ss
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Dear ss
It's always hard to let go of someone you care about. But you have to.
Stop pushing this guy to share things with you. By pushing him to open up to you, all you're really doing is pushing him further away.
It sounds like he doesn't want to talk about it to you or his friend.
Let him be.
Respect HIS feelings. He needs time, so give him the time he needs. You're not helping by putting pressure on him.
When HE is ready to be with you or even talk to you or open up, he will.
Until then you need to back off and let go.
Stop reading into everything so much. He has his reasons for what he is doing. You cannot force someone to talk to you, nor can you force someone to care about you. That is the harsh reality.
Why do you think there is hope when you hear from his friend?
What does his friend have to do with how he feels about you?
Darling wake up and smell the coffee. YOU are driving YOURSELF crazy by holding onto something that might never be. You're becoming obsessed, and most men don't like that. In fact it totally freaks them out. So just back off.
I've said it before and I'll say it again...
Let him go! If things are meant to be and if he wants to be with you, he will contact you.
You're not closing the door, instead you're sitting in front of the open door waiting and hoping for something to happen.
You need to move on with your life.
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