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Donno what to do
Hey, i think u give really good advice so i wanted to ask u something..
I met this guy, Nick, about a month ago. He's 17 and I'm 15. I heard he liked me and he asked me out and while we were talking I found out he had a girlfriend, so i guess he just asked me out as a friend. But then a few days later we talked and he said he broke up with his girlfriend, and then for some reason he assumed that he and I were now in a relationship, or were going to soon be in one. I didn't know what to say so I just went along with it. The next day I told Nick I was too young for him since I had just started dating. I told him i wanted to get to know him better first. But now i think he still likes me and he thinks i like him, but i dont. He calls me/texts me every day, and he asks me out almost every weekend. I thought i had made it clear to him i just wanted to be his friend, but maybe when i said i wanted to get to know him better, he took it differently then i intended it. He asked me to a dance, and not knowing what to do, i told him i would go. But now i dont want to go, and i dont want to hurt him because he is going through a lot of shit right now with his life and i dont want to make his life any harder right now. How do i tell Nick to stop calling and asking me out so much, and that i cant go to the dance, without hurting him?
thanks in advance
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Wow. That's a tough situation. now the main question is, do you want to be friends with him? at this point it seems like it would be kind of difficult to maintain a friendship with someone who seems so needy. based on the fact that he clearly didn't get the message that you're not interested, but yet still calls and text messages you all the time, i would be hesitant about going into any sort of relationship with him. i've seen people that get sucked into relationships with guys like that-who are very needy and pushy, and it sometimes turns abusive. but i'm not trying to scare you, because this isn't always the case. but to get him to stop calling you and asking you out so much, the only thing i can think of is to slowly stop talking to him as much. for example, don't answer his texts all the time, when he calls don't always answer you're phone, and always say you're busy on the weekends. i know this doens't sound nice, but since you already told him that you just wanted to be friends, there seems to be no other option. unless you want to try talking to him again. you might want to sit him down and really make sure he understands that you just want to be friends, and nothing more, and that him calling you all the time isn't necessary. then if that still doesn't work, try not talking to him as much. my friend has done that before, and it's always worked, and we've never heard of the guy being heartbroken after. as for the dance, unless you're really good at lying (which i'm not), you should probably still go, and maybe that would be a good time to talk to him about just being friends. i hope i helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to ask! let me know how it turns out!
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