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OK I am asking you this because I saw you have been through this.
My friend and I were talking about stuff and she told me that she has been raped. She hasnt told me this till now and it happened like 5 years ago when we were 12! I cant believe she didnt tell me! Now I feel like she holds everything back from me!
What should I do?
And are you a CHristian?
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Well some people arnt as open! When something that bad happens to someone its not that hard to open up and tell some one something happend like that. You feel like someone has be-trayed your trust. You feel like shit. You dont understand whats going on. You feel like its 'YOUR' fault when its not. I mean its a scary thing. Makes you sometimes crazy like depression and scuicidal. Its not something that you can just open up too. Even if its a friend or a relative. You have to be strong. She was scared. I was scared when i got raped. It was my neighbor. I told someone who had been raped before. She told me what to do. Read the book "SPEAK" by LAURIE HALSE ANDERSON it will explain things and any kind of rape book if you want to get an idea of this incident to feel how violated people are. Atleast she told you! Some people just keep it to themselves forever til they die. They dont tell there loved ones. Those who speak are truly blessed. Its just difficult. You should tell your friend how happy you are on her getting the guts to tell you. It takes a SHIT LOAD of guts to be able to get something like that out of them. Its like trying to get a war story off of a man who fought in war its hard and it makes them cry. It takes courage and strength. You should recommend your friend to get checked by a doctor to make sure who raped her didnt hurt her inside her 'AREA' so then she doesnt get any illness that effects her body, her periods, her being able to get pregnant or aids or anything like that. She must get her blood checked and see if she has aids or any other kind of diseases. Even if a condom was present it can still be a chance of an infection. Im really sorri this happen to your friend. Try to be there for her 24/7 she needs someone to take care of her. Someone she can lean too when she has nightmares of flashbacks. Most people who get raped have those alot and its scary. Help her get back on track in life. Its a very horrible thing to happen to someone. I should know. Serious issues happens alot like this. You feel like your wall is crumbling down and cant trust anyone. Makes sure u still trust her even though you would want to know earlier about it but your very glad she told you at all, and that you know she could have held that away from you til ur dead and she's dead. Its a very secret thing. Nobody likes to brag about it but its better to talk about it then just let it eat you up inside. I did that and i almost was so close to scuicide. I told my parents before it got that bad and my friends and family. To warn them from the CRUEL guy who did that to me. That was my neighbor and a good friend of mine. But, he took advantage of me. Its really hard to let people knoe something like that you have no idea. You feel embarassed and like a slut at times. But she's not, it was nothing she could have done. Like me. What she really needs to get through her head is " IT WASNT HER FAULT" maybe talk to her to get counseling or talk to me. (305) 393-6201 thats my cell and my name is Samantha if i dont pick up tell her to leave a message. I dont go to skool anymore ever since this evidence. I can help her, if you feel like too much of this is for you. Shes not holding anything back from you hun. She was scared. Out of all people she should feel like the one without trust from anyone because of rape. Its not your fault. You didnt know. But dont get all pissed off about it, it just makes matters worse. If she told you something like that!!!!! You should feel very respected and trusted. She wouldnt keep secrets from you if she told you something so seriious and tragic like that, you shouldnt feel like she's hidding anything from you. So you should be very proud of your friend for talking!!! Also for you if u have any questions call me. I been through counseling and im very good with talking to people. Dont be afraid. Im some one who is a teen and knows things been through alot. But seriously, give ur friend a break dont be mad at her now. be her friend her support. To answer your question. Am i christian? Well I do believe in god.. Yes! Im catholic and episcapalian (Pisscapalian)I have been raised Baptist since i went with my friend Chelsey my first 5yrs of my life. Ill put some info here about rape just so you know. Well im always here. Ask me anything. Thank you for coming to me. I hope i helped you! and gave you enough advice, I tryed to give you my best. Wish you the best. <3 Sammy Sam <3
Alternate Names : Date Rape, Sex and Rape
Complications
Some women are never fully able to emotionally recover from a rape. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a common complication. Symptoms include recurrent nightmares or intrusive memories (flashbacks) of the event, social withdrawal, depression, anxiety and numbing of emotions. Cognitive psychotherapy and antidepressant medications have been shown to be effective treatments for PTSD.
More than 50% of rape victims have some difficulty in re-establishing relationships with spouses or partners or, if unattached, re-entering the "dating scene."
Any pre-existing psychiatric disorders may be exacerbated. Suicidal behaviors, depression and substance abuse may develop or become more prominent.
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