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Ex boyfriend
Well, it's a long story but I don't really know how to deal with it. A couple of years ago I was dating a young man for a long time. We were engaged and were planning to get married within a year or so. I loved him like I never loved anyone in my life and he loved me, but one day it all had changed. He grew distant and cold and kept me and all of his best friends in a distance. In addition to the distance, he started treating me really badly and after a long long time of tollarating it and trying to understand what's on his mind and help him as much as I can, I couldn't take it anymore, all my attempts to rescue that relationship crushed and died and I gave up. We broke up. About 3 month later, I've heard that he'd started dating another woman and after another 2 month, I've heard that they've got engaged. As a result from that, My EX had lost ALL of his friends because, as they say, he became completely intollerable. It took me almost two years to get over him (I was overseas for a year which helped a little), But now I came back home and every little thing reminds me of him and that I really miss him and I do still love him, but the thing is that I love the man he used to be, not what he'd become. I don't have any news about him because he'd totally lost touch with "the outside world" and we don't have common friends anymore. I know that I should get over it and go on with my life but I just don't know how, I had tried and it worked for a while but now that I'm back home, I'm surrounded by things and places that remind me of what we used to have and these are things that I can't avoid seing. What should I do?
(I'm a 23 y.o. woman)
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I wish I could just say..get over him. But I know how it feels to miss an ex. I'm dealing with that right now. But you said that he treated you badly---that's all you need to know! There is someone out there who will treat you like a princess. By giving your ex all of this energy in remembering him, you're wasting time that could be spent meeting someone amazing. It's normal to be reminded of him, but make sure that with those memories, you don't forget how much he hurt you. Use that pain to give you the strength to do better for yourself, and not settle. Maybe we never stop loving people, but it's more important to love yourself.
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It's hard to get over anyone, and I can identify with every little thing reminding you of them.
"This chair...it was sitting here the whole time while we were dating, and it hasn't moved since."
You tend to associate everything with him. Now, obviously it would be kind of expensive to just up and move out of town and get new stuff. But at your own home, something as simple as moving some things around may help. Try to make your living area seem a little newer, fresher. When you go to places the two of you used to go to, rather than thinking "We had so much fun here...", think something more along the lines of "Hey, I bet if I found a new guy, I could take him here and have a blast!"
I know you'll be feeling nostalgic for a while, but the thing you have to keep telling yourself is that the man you fell in love with is dead. And why not? It's true, isn't it?
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well, it is very hard to let go of ppl.you can just erase him away thow allot of ppl try, he will always be in the back of your mind,HE MAY BE THERE ALL THE TIME BUT.....there are othere ppl in the world and he might just come your way.and when he dose u will not care anymore.
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hes ur ex, get over him.
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