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ok.. so im really confused i have this one guy friends weve known each otha for 3 years now..n were so close we tell each otha everything but dan i found out he started likein me n i was confused cz he started saying i love you like 24/7 callin me 24/7 n he was lke completley obssesed n dan if he'd say hi n i'd have to go so i'd say gotta go he'd write back YESS!!!!!!! AT LEAST I GOT TO TALK TO U!!!! that made my day..im like? oookk n i sent him an email explainin to him that i loved him but jus as a friend afta that email things changed i guess he wasnt cool wit us jus beein friends so dan he gets mad at me n starts acting different..i talk to him bout it n he said his over me now "which i doubt" but then my otha friend comes a long n suddenly one day he starts sayin he loves her n that their best friends im liek how can u kno her so well u've talked to her jus once! (cz shes my friend n i introduced them) so they went to the movies n he came on to her n she doesnt like him at all but he does n since that started happenin now every time me n him talk get into this huge argumenT! we bearly talk now but wat bugs me da most is that i feel jealous? why i dont lke him at all! deff not as a bf n i kno that but dan why does it bug me so much that him n my friend r like really good friends n his always sayin i love u to her n tellin her eveyrthin liek he use to tel me but not nemore................whats goin on? i really dont kno n im srry for makein this so long.
"Desperate"
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dear "Desperate"
first off.. dont apoloogize for making it long! i love reading long ones! plus the longer they are, the more info they contain, the better i can help you! which is what im here for! so lets get to it: if ya'll have been friends for 3 years it sounds like a pretty good friendship. this guy was DEFINITELY obsessing over you, theres no doubt about that. but were you clear in your signals back to him? were u sendign him mixed signals that may have led him on? or did you maybe just not make it clear enough that you could never have a boyfriend/girlfriend relationsip with him? the next thing i have to say is mayb e-mail wasnt the best way to let him down. it def sounds lk this guy has relationship issues and wants to get the first girl he sees. and as for your jealousy, did it ever occur to you that he could be trying to get with your friend in order to make you jealous? and guess what, if thats the case.. his devious little scheme is working. if you know in your heart that you really DONT like him, then you might be jealous because he nevre talks to you anymore. it sounds to me like you used to condide in eachother and had an awesome, communicative realationship, and things between you changed and you lost that ability to talk to eachother. mayb thats whats makeing you so upset.. the fact that he doesnt talk to you and you miss that. if thats the case.. i think you two have a LOT of catching up to do. and this time, do it person if possible.. or over the phone. absolutely NO email or instant messaging. talk to him. you guys have a lot to get off your chests. hope this helps you!
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