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A matter of losing a good friend or keeping one.........
hey i neeeed help big time my friend cuts..... she told me not to tell anyone this has beeen going on for 2 years (i meet her this year at my new school).... i want her to stop but she keeps on cutting over a boy..... should i risk my friendship and tell someone to help her ooor should i just let it bee??? you can im me on tropicalstars247 thank u :)
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most likely, if a person tells you that they are cutting, it means they WANT you to tell somebody. even they might not know it, but if they really didnt want anyone to know, they wouldnt tell even their best friend.
i would say def. tell someone. she may hate you for it in the future, but you can save her from blood loss and even death.
dont tell her that your not gonna tell anyone. if she tells you "remember, dont tell anyone im cutting myself. do u promise?" dont say yeah sure, then go off and tell an adult. sit her down and tell her you are going to get her help whether she wants it or not, because she needs it.
people always use the excuse it gets ur mind off things to cut yourself. that the physical pain is worth it over the emotional pain, but its not. especially when its something over a boy, the scars on her wrist in the future are just going to remind her over and over what happened, and in the end the emotional pain will get worse.
so what i suggest you do is go and tell an adult. then make sure your friend knows that she needs help (try sitting down and talking to her) and that you both are going to get help for her. then you can go and get the adult you told (it can be a parent of yours, hers, a teacher, a counselor) and all 3 of you can talk. it depends on what kind of person she is, but hopefully your friend will thank you later for what you did. i hope i helped and if you have any more trouble, dont hesitate to ask.
NOTE: i know its this way in my school, and hopefully it is in yours: in my high school, all teachers are obligated to get help for anyone who needs it. if you tell a teacher, he/she won't say "oh well i havent seen the scars so i don't believe it" they take action right away. they could get fired if they dont. so its always good to go to your parent or the friend's parent, but teachers can help just as much
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