|
Hi,
This is the first time I am seeking advice from an advice column.
My boyfriend lives in another country and we are trying to have a long distance relationship.I am a graduate student who also works and my schedule is pretty tight,especially during semesters.
I spend most of my week working and attending class and spend my weekends, ctaching up on class work.My boyfriend has a pretty light schedule at his workplace and spends his weekends out with his friends.Every night, I wake up at 2am just so that we can spend time together for maybe an hour or so ( the time difference!!!). Well, this Friday night, he went out with his friends and came back at 7 30am ,saturday morning.I have no problem with him having a good time, I like going out and having fun too.Its just when he came back,he came online ,and seemed really excited about coming home this "early".It bugged me a lot, it felt like he was trying to rub in the fact that basically I have no life.
I don't know whether its the stress which is affecting me, or his attitude.
I would appreciate some comments.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say that it's a combination of both the stress and the way he's acting towards you. Have you spoken to him about the way he made you feel? I'm not sure he did it intentionally.
My boyfriend went clubbing with his coworkers and didn't ask me to come when he knows I love to dance and never get the opportunity. It bothered me that he went and was talking to me about how fun it was, but he didn't do that just to bother me. See what I mean?
No offense to guys, but they can be heartless, totally unintentionally sometimes. We also have to take into account that they cannot possibly read our minds. There's no way he'd know that what he told you "bugged" you if you don't tell him. Point out to him, maybe, that you're stressed, too, and ask him to be sensitive to that. He should be able to comply. It sounds like your whole long-distance thing, though, is working. Just COMMUNICATE YOUR FEELINGS! A lack of communication is what really kills most relationships. Just keep talking and everything should be fine.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)
]
Its probably stress and how he is acting towards u...now this relationship might not last that long because ur long distance maybe u guyz should just be friends cuz its going to be wayy too difficult 4 u to have a bf n in college now maybe if he was on ur campus tht wouldn't be tht bad!
]
More Questions: |