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ok...my friend has a lot of family problems, her sister who is 16 hasnt made some very good decisions. it makes me so mad becuz sometimes my mom is like "don't spend too much time around her, i think she's having a bad influence on you" and blah blah...but she doesn't even know her!!! how can i prove to my mom she isn't what she thinks she is??? also...my friend is thinking about moving. and she's my BEST friend in the whole entire world! how do i handle it? thanks so much!
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this is pretty difficult to answer. You and your mom obviously have pretty different views on what you need in a friend. You could try talking to your mom calmly (when she is in a good mood)and just tell her hey mom i know you think [friend's name] is a bad influence on me... but i'd like for you to get to know her a little better... and if you still think she is a bad influence i'll try not to hang out with her so much. She has had some problems at home, but all in all she's a good person. I was wondering if maybe i could invite her to dinner (or have her come to another occasion with ur family). If your mom agrees make shure ur friend is polite and on her best behavior. Have her make a good impression on your mom, and your mom may be more willing to allow you to hang w/ her. Also try to be open and ask your mom to explain to you why she thinks your friend is a bad influence. listen, and then if she says something about her sister just say [friend] is nothing like her sister... she has problems with her family, but that doesnt mean she's a bad person. keep insisting that you want your mom to meet her and stuff.also with your friend movin... make sure she knows you dont want her to leave and how important she is to you. If she does end up moving.... try to keep in contact by phone calls, email, IMing, and snail mail. If she doesnt move too far away then invite her to go do things with you! hope i helped. if you need anything else please post again or AIM me best of luck to you!
~Kayla
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