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two loves
okay, so there is this kid i like fell in love with and we told eachotehr who we like and he likes me back and he knows i like him too. well that was over the summer and then when we got to school we talked and shit but we arnt as tight as the year before (WICKED TIGHT) lol and so now hes pretty shy when it comes to me and looks at me alot and i like know he likes me and evrything but he wont ask me out im so tired of waiting its been wicked long and hes had so many chances to and idontknow why he hasnt hes had a gf before so its not like hes not allowed to date or anything, so then there is ths otehr kid that i like a lot too that i just started liking him and hes much more comfortable to be around now and he flirts with me alot and oh my hes just so hot and sweet and so i dont know what to do i think im falling out of love with the first guy but its just cuz we aint talking that much anymore...im not sure if you can really help me but if you could try that we be so nice! thank ytou and sorry this was so long
<3 me
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I think u should stick with the second guy. I mean it sounds like u definitly have a thing goin w/ him and meybe u should be friends with the other guy. It sounds like it was a fling but that u cud still be good friends! Good luck! And if it dusnt work out w/ the first guy just ask out the other one!
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It's not the length you should be apologising for, it's the lack of punctuation. ;) No, really, I'm teasing ya, I don't need any apologies.
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It sounds like you want something solid to build on, and you're not sure if the first boy is worth the effort of persuing, even though he is your "first choice": you don't feel that his companionship is guaranteed, whereas the other boy is pretty much a sure-shot.
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What you're wrestling between is not so much the boys, itself -- it's your own standards of preference vs. ease. Would you rather have the best or the easiest? If you find that one boy manages to hold both of these, you have no disparity. So if that were the case, I doubt you'd be seeking advice! ;)
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But also -- and this is a big secret, like unlisted tracks on some CD's, and secret paths in video games -- you don't actually have to choose. There's a third option that many people don't consider.
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In the 1950's, people used to date around for a while before "going steady," exchanging school pins or something, and being exclusive. These days, we have a term for respectful, honest non-monogamy: when you're able to maintain more than one romantic relationship at a time, AND everyone involved knows, AND everyone involved is fine with it, we like to call the relationship style "polyamory."
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Before you take such a step, you should look up what poly is all about, and decide for yourself if it's right for you. To start, I'll give you links to a few of my own favourite resources to read through. I in no way want to convert or pressure you -- <b>poly isn't for everyone</b>, the same way certain religions, foods, and favourite colours aren't for everyone.
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But I like it when people know all their options!
My favourite Poly FAQ: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
A practical site by a poly family: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
And, inevitably, my own experience:
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Good luck, babes. I know you'll settle with whatever is right for you. :)
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