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my boyfriend and i broke up in july, right when my 22 year old cousin died, and he had his friend break up with me. i had experiance 4 deaths that month, and he crushed me. i was on anti-depressants for the rest of the summer. i was truely in love with him and we we're engaged (like, 4 real, not that whole crappy, "omg we are like sooo gunna get married") but i dunno if i can ever forgive him for wut he did. therez another guy at school i just met and we really like each other, but my old bf wants me back and so does this new guy, and i dunno who to go with. HELP PLZ!!!!
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welll wait get to see the new guy and see wat hes like and follow ur heart hope i helped
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You should pick the person that:
Makes you laugh
Lets you cry
You feel comfortable with
You respect
You know they respect you
You can honesly talk to
You genuinely trust
Who values you and treats you like you deserve
Connects with you on the deepest level
Basically, the person you like more. Obviously, you have to consider your past with your ex - having a friend dump you when you were engaged shows not only that you two weren't ready for an engagement, but that he's not mature enough for any sort of relationship.
People are human and make mistakes. All you can do is shut your eyes - right now - and do what you gut, brain, and heart tell you to do.
I wish you the best.
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Ultimately, you will have to decide which is the best guy for you right now. But, I urge you to consider that having a friend break up with you during a time of family crisis and grief is clearly cowardly and shows a lack of common decency. This from a guy who you had emotional plans to spend the rest of your life with. I assure you that as much hapiness and joy that this life will show you, it will also occasionally throw you nasty curveballs and the partner you choose to walk through life with should be committed to stand at your side through EVERYTHING. Now, it is possible that he made a bad error in judgment and that he feels terrible about what he did and truly does deserve a second chance, but if I were you, I wouldn't take a blanket "I'm sorry" apology. Ask him to explain what he is sorry for and be listening during his explanation to make sure that he really does "get it". If he doesn't really comprehend how he hurt you and the extent of the severity of his abandonment, then there is no sense in trying to explain it to him. In addition, if he doesn't "get it" now, I fear he will repeat the same kind of behavior at another crucial time when you need him to lean on. Best of luck to you with your decision.
Kind wishes,
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