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Question Posted Monday August 9 2004, 5:22 pm

i know i want to make it through high skool but you see i just barely made it through middle skool. im not good at ANYTHING that has to do with skool. i probably just fucked myself by not going in middle skool... and then i got mixed up in drugs and drinking and not going to skool and shit like that...ya know its just so hard for me to acheave something...i hope you can understand that word that i wrote cuz im not a very good speller either... but anyways... my life is just so fucked up... i don't know wat i should do... im not saying its cuz of other people that im worried about. i know its cuz of me... all me... i just idk im probably just starting to cumfuse you im starting to comfuse myself... but skool and life in general is just a probablem for me... everone in my family can do wat ever they want and everything is just so easy for them and they never do anything wrong its like im the dumb one ya know... well im gonna go now and plz write me back...thanx

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alisonmarie answered Monday August 9 2004, 5:31 pm:
Well, I sometimes look at other people and think about how easy their lives look. But you know, sometimes people look at ME and think that I'm great and smart and together. I think there is a big difference between what people look like, and how they feel inside.

I think you feel like you are ready to make a change. You certainly don't sound happy with the way your life has been going.

Junior high is school, yes, but it's not life. Even in the grand scheme of school, it's not mind-blowingly important. I guess you need to look at what made you start getting off track. If it was drugs and alcohol, then ease up. If it's feeling like you're just generally horrible at school, try to envision yourself NOT being horrible.

Have you ever heard of a self-fulfilling prophecy? If you think you're going to mess up in high school, then you are putting yourself in the mindset to screw up. The thing about high school is that it's a fresh slate.

You're at a new place. There are more choices than there were in junior high - you can pick elective classes. There's languages, music, art, drama, writing...it's not just math and english anymore. There are more people to meet, different kinds of friends to make.

There are teachers who don't know your history. There's probably one teacher who would want to help if they DID know - maybe it's about finding that person and asking them to be your mentor?

You aren't confusing me. I think you sound like a normal, confused, pissed off, scared person. We're all that way sometimes. Forget about how perfect your family seems and start finding things that your imperfect self can enjoy. Ask to speak to an academic counselor and share some of your worries with them - they'll be able to make sure you get the classes you really want.

You make the choices, they don't make you. Good luck.

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