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What should I do if my best friend has a new best friend? She sometimes even ignores me because she's with her other friend. It's not like I just think she was my best friend, we declaired it together. What should I do?
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You say she is ignoring you, but I'm not sure if it is when she is with the two of you at the same time or she is not having contact with you because she is with the other friend instead. Either way, it is still painful and hurts your feelings. She has a new buddy right now and she is taking it for granted that you will always be around. She probably has a lot to talk about with this other girl, because everything is new with the two of them (conversations, experiences, opinions, ideas, etc.). This doesn't make it any easier for you.
As you go through life, "best" friends can change. I had a best friend in middle school, that changed when I went to high school, that changed when I was dating (my husband), that changed when I began going to college, that changed when I began teaching. Actually, as I became an adult, I added several "best" friends. Two of them live in other cities and some of them have never met each other.
Since you are, I assume either in middle or high school, this is harder for you because you probably go to the same school and possibly even live near each other. Try calling her and setting aside some times to get together with just her (at your house, after class, etc.) to keep the friendship going. BUT....you'll need to start making some other friends that you can gradually become closer to as you get to know and like them. You'll be in different classes and have a different lunch time than your buddy and other interests & after school activities can develop for both of you. Since you can't always be together when school starts, keep in touch through calls, notes (we wrote a TON of these when I was in school!) and emails. In the meantime, if she is hurting your feelings, you can either tell her gently (don't argue) or start developing other friendships, in addition to this one. She may not realize that she is being insensitive to your feelings, because she is caught up in getting to know this other person. Good luck and take heart, because even when you grow apart from someone, the memories & good times are there forever to look back on.
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