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Ending it for good...but I can't
(I'm 14) I've been going out with "James" for 8 months, and at the beginning it was all great, except for his ex, Sarah, who, I know for a fact part of the reason he went out with her is because she's...She'll MAKE you go out with her, she has a way of making you, because she can't get anybody because of a bunch of reasons but she's a VERY nasty person (if u get what I mean) and not even pretty, or popular and just...horrible. She accused me of stealing him, and about a month later, came up with a note that he supposedly written to her, stating that he loved me, but still wanted to be friends with benefits with him, and also said that she could go over to his friends house and they could "have sex since i haven't had it in awhile" The second he saw it he ripped it up and nearly bit Sarah's head off, was the angriest I've ever seen him, and really upset since I refused to talk to him. Sarah though, has been known to do ANYTHING to get a guy, and she's known for forging handwriting, and most of her old friends who now hate her, were pretty sure she forged it. It looked a little bit like his writing, but barely, and the way she said "aren't you going to dump him?" Put it into my head that it wasn't him. So I forgave him, then a couple months later she came up with some more "notes" and one time he looked at me pleadingly and just said "I didn't write those" which I forgot about, again, but they always stuck in my mind. Then she gave a note to my friend supposedly from him that said he still wanted to be friends with benefits, but HE had a note from HER that she had written to him, with HER wanting to be friends with benefits, she admitted it, that she had forged the note from him, and BEGGED me for forgivness, with bull notes saying "I'm SO sorry i'll never do it again" I'd never been more upset in my life, because I didn't know who to believe, and it took a toll on me that I did some things to myself I'm not proud of (think hard...) Eventually I "forgave" her, pretending to be her friend. None of it ever happened again, but that had been the third time. Ever since the first time, I've been paranoid, always imaginging him making out with her, and I know they did A LOT of stuff last summer. And now with summer, I hardly see him because we live a whole 5 miles away (sarcasm) and he always has to work at night (which i know is true, I've been there when he's working) and I've only seen him three times since summer started. I broke up with him once, right after summer started, because another guy wanted to go out with me, a guy that I knew I wouldn't have to worry about him cheating and a guy who could go to movies with me, even if I didn't love him, I could trust him. I lasted 3 days of crying and screaming to no1 inparticular before I broke down and went back out with him. A part of me is telling myself that I have to break up with him because everytime he has to go on the phone, even after the best conversations that last for hours, a cynical part of me thinks "Is he going to see Sarah?" and the part that for some reason he never wants me to go to his area makes me even more paranoid than I already am. It haunts me, and I know it's not healthy, but I also know if I break up with him, I'll be more miserable than I've ever been, but a tiny part of me thinks it's better in the end, but I have no idea. I love him, he's wonderful, he makes me feel wanted and loved and he's just...Wonderful. But the thing with Sarah, and that he doesn't want me arond where he lives (btw, two of his ex's live there) makes me paranoid. And I need to decide now, because I can't go on living with those thoughts of Sarah in the back of my mind. Sorry this was so dang long, and help would be GREATLY appriciated.
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ok so this guy ur in love with right? well then can't u trust him i meen sure it sounds jerky that he doesnt want u to ocme to his house but maybe that is because like his parents dont let him have girls over or something im sory to say this but if i was in ur situation i probly wouldnt brake up w/ him but i wouldnt call him or anything for like 2 weeks n if he doesnt call ou then something is going on and u need to kick him aside n try to get over him take a nice long bubble bath with dried out rose pedals in it(they sooth the tesion in ur skin and help you relax), read a nice romantic book n cry as much as you need if all else fails spend a weekend vegging out food makes the world a whole lot better!!-- rememba muh advice n tell ur friends
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Tell him that you want a break because you don't know if you understand some things.. and if asks what.. then say.. but before you got bak out with him you need those answers.. Maybe he doesnt like his house.. and he doesnt want you to see it? or other stuff just ask
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ok 1st off next time make this question shorter because ppl do not like to read a long questions.
2nd dump him because he seems very weird
love,
tiffany
hope i helped
p.s. IM me if you wanna chat at maytuff1
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Just go to his area anyways, make a surprise visit, don't let him know you're coming call him first off talk for a few minutes and make sure he'll be there (not making it obvious) and then tell him you gotta go, then go over to his area and see for yourself why he doesnt want you there
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wowww that was soo long lol.. yeah i think you should dump him, its gunna hurt and i know you don't want to but it sfor the best and if you really want to make yourself truely happy then you should... this sarah girl sounds like an obsessed crazzy bitch so i'd stay away from her.. she needs some serious help!<-and it makes herself look bad when she does that shit!
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Ok, call him on the phone and ask him up front , is anything going on between you and sara, if he stutters or anything then he's lying, then just say If you dont tell me the truth then i will break up with you, if he still says no then most likely he's telling you the truth, then tell him why you thought this, and ask him to help, and ask him to start seeing you more because you want to make sure. If he does admit to it (unlikely) but if he does, then dont spend another minute thinking about him, just move on and find some1 better, because you can do better(lol) anywayz i hope this will help, and i hope that i helped, and remember just talk to him and tell him how you feel about sara.
*Dee*
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