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I just don't know what to do!
Hi, this is the first time I've ever written you. My name is Jeanne I'm 15 and I live in Colorado. Ok here's the problem. I kind of have a "thing" with this guy. What I mean by thing is we hang out all the time and everynight he walks me to my door and kisses me goodnight. I know he likes me because he has told me before. The problem is I want him to commit to me. I mean I want him to be my boyfriend! I'm just too afraid to ask him out because I don't know for sure if he will say yes. The other problem is next year he's going to be a senior so I don't think that the relationship will last very long but you never know. I just really want him to ask me out.. what should I do??
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Hmm, well I think I can help you out with this problem because one of my best friends was just recently in the exact same position. First of all, having a "thing" with a guy is a lot different than having a relationship. And, it's good that you want him to commit to you. Now, I'm not saying it's wrong to kiss someone you aren't going out with because everyone has a different opinion on that, but I would definately say not to do anything more with him just yet. The reason for this being, because you really at this point don't know his true intentions and you don't know his feelings and if you were to do more (sexual) things with him he might get the wrong idea about you and it'll just be a friends with bennifts kind of thing..and you'll get hurt in the end. So what you need to do, is next time y'all kiss when he walks you to the door..you should make a subtle comment like "You know, I usually never kiss guys that aren't my boyfriend." This way he'll get a lil' idea of what you are trying to hint at. Also, say something along the lines of "I kiss you every night because I really like you and I'd like to think you like me to and someday soon we can be more than just a "thing"." This way, you aren't totally asking him out but you are for sure getting the point across to him and he knows you're not just some girl he can kiss without anything attached! If he trys to do more with you than just kissing then you know that his intentions are not sincere and he's not as great as you had hoped and he's not looking to commit..if he responds well to this..well then he'll definately know you like him and want to be with him and he will most likely ask you out! Sometimes boys just need a lil' push, so this way he'll get the hint and respect you! The fact that he's going to be a senior..I know it seems like a big deal now, but at the moment it's really soon to say that you don't want to pursue things..my bfs gunna be a senior next year too..but I know how I feel about him and I know how he feels about me..that's all that should matter to you for now..just play it by ear and have fun with what's in front of you! Don't stress things like that..if y'all are meant to last you'll be able to endure anything! Worry about the hardships after you have the fun! And always remember, everything happens for a reason and things that are meant to be will happen how they are suppose to! I hope that I helped..if you have anything else to ask, feel free! :)
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