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Is this guy right ?
I couldn't help but read your advice to a question , and i think that your advice would be valuable .(okay , you might be in some other religion , but just to let you know , i am a Christian )
There is this guy i like in my church , and i am attracted to him . I want to know if i should start flirting with him , or if i should leave him alone . He is three years older than me , making him 17 . I know that he is really sweet and would never hurt me , should we go out . How do i know if he is right for me ? Also , a not really relevant question that i wish to ask you is " Is kissing and touching in a relationship before marriage okay in Gods eyes ? "
Thanks for your time ,
Laura.
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Hello Laura,
I am a Christian because I have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. I assume since you call yourself a Christian, you have a relationship with Jesus too.
First let's address the flirting issue. My advice is to not flirt with him or any guy. Flirting leads a guy on and they are then put in a place of temptation. I say this because a girl desires an emotional relationship and the flirting may satisfy that emotional need for the moment, but you will want more and more emotional satisfaction. Guys desire a physical relationship and flirting will only intensify that desire in them in the form of lust. Lust is sin whether emotional or physical. If you truly want to please God, don't put any guy in that position. Christian men are still human and can fall.Trust your relationship with Jesus.
Second, kissing and touching in a relationship. I'm going to assume by touching you mean appropriate touch like holding hands. Kissing and appropriate touching in and of itself, I believe, is not wrong (in other words, it's not sinful). However, God sees the heart. And He knows where these actions will lead. Don't shop for relationships. By that I mean don't bother with dating. Dating leads nowhere but to a broken heart. It is probably more truthful to say "he would never INTENTIALLY hurt me". Hurt will occur in some form. Let God give you the man He has for you.
The enemy of our soul is out to get us, and he hates obedience to God. It can be tough when you want so much to be loved and your emotions grab onto someone. But you must resist. It's tough, even for Christian girls and guys, to be put under peer preasure (especially in this day and age) But you must resist.
God will show you the man He has for you in His perfect timing. Stay pure sexually, keep your emotions pure too, and you will reap awesome benefits.
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