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Latent Feminist Wife
Dear spacefem,
I have been married for 16 years with 2 wonderful daughters. During our marriage my wife started to become slack with her duties and obligations as a wife and mother. These were all of her agreement, and some due to her own choices proir to and during the marriage. I have tried to approach the subject with concern and respect, usually ending in conflict. Lately she has decided to do whatever she wants when she wants, even it means neglect to myself or our children. I try to understand her feelings and viewpoints, for myself and for my daughters.(They are well aware of her laziness and ask often.) I would have NEVER married her if I knew she was this way. I feel that life is too short to spend with the wrong person. We are growing apart each day, I personally never expected much from this world as far as romance, I've never been the ladies' man. But I would like to provide a better life for my children, I don't think this is a good example of relationships/ marriage for them to observe. If it was just her and I, I would drop her like a bad habit and never speak to her again. Any advice or suggestions?
Best friend I never had...
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After 16 years, she's just suddenly gotten like this? Something is up. You need to talk to her and find out what's changed. It almost sounds like you've given up on her. Maybe she's uncomfortable with the "agreements" you made before and these need to be revisited. I think agreements are good in relationships, but they need to be somewhat flexible too. Relationships take a lot of work - if I were you, I'd work to salvage this one.
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