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I love the person, not the gender
I'm signed up at several pro-gay marriage forums and, every now and then, they email me information and petitions. About a week ago, a petition was emailed to me, I signed it. It was optional to put a comment, I stated, "One loves a person, not a gender." Since then, I've been realizing more and more that I truly feel that way. A few times over the past few years, I had toyed with the idea of bisexuality, yet never acted on it. Now, I find myself attracted to whomever I'm attracted to. I feel like I've had this dark space or room inside myself and I have, for the first time, lighted it. I actually feel better about myself!
My loving and respectful boyfriend and I have been dating for the past seventeen months. He is understanding and open-minded, not homophobic at all. However, he is quite conseravtive and a strong christian. I realize that, if he were to be disgusted by my sexual orientation, he wouldn't be worth my time. But, before I can find out how he would react, I would have to tell him (I have not yet told anyone at all)! Would you please give me some advice as to how I could/should go about this?
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I'm not sure you need to tell him unless you really feel like changing your relationship. Think about life before you knew... you were attracted to guys; tall guys, short guys, white guys, black guys, blonde guys, etc. Did you feel the need to sit down and say, "You should know, I'm also attracted to hispanic men." No. Because if he's your boyfriend and you love him, you're attracted to <i>him</i>.
I think it's great that your mind is open to different possibilities, but I think you're just going to scare him. Do you want to leave him for a woman, is that what you're saying? If you think women are attractive that's great, voice your opinions, but don't make the great "oh I'm bisexual!" statement unless you feel you must <i>act</i> on it.
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