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Real Confused!!
hi, it's me again who wrote before, "wat do u think" well bascially i have this male friend in college and his quite older then me, the thing is we have a good times by ourself or in groups but the thing is sometimes i'm confused in what things he say's to me and why? he say's thing's like it's just like being married to you? i mean wat was tht all about?? and he also said this in a joke way before that he said "you need relationship counselling i think" as in a jokey way though, then i replied and said; well look who's talikng when you are then one had lots of breakdowns in your past relationship and being dumped ny your ex-girlgriends then he say's; i actually dumped them when only he was trying to deny himself but when i said that he had a grin on his face and went red.
As in the other hand i'm single and i havn't been out with any one for a long time even though i had lots of guy's askin me out in college and out of college but thats not the point i didnt say this to him though because he was saying to me in a joke way and saying are you trying to play hard to get? wat was he on about there! not only that he say's that he has a great sociable time with me when were alone and has called me "you'r such an sex symbol" and no wonder why older guys prefer you more is because you are so attractive and nice/very mature and loving caring person etc...
He also said the other day i can imagine already bumping into you in 8yrs time having lunch with you while you tell me everything about your life.
i mean he does talk to me alot and has a happy smile when i say something to him or make him laugh alot and sometimes he goes red, i'm just confused when he says things tome and why does he say it and what does he mean about it's like being married to you. Recently he has been in a funny mood blanking me then talking to me and sayin is everything ok and how r u etc.. but then agian he makes me be the last perosn to be looked at while he takes his time talking to other girls but i don't mind it's just that why doe she keep me the last one to be listned to is it because he is trying to get my attention or what? and when he talks he looks deep down m eye even thogh my hair is in the way it's like he is trying to serach them and when he talks to teh other girls he always try to glance at me every now and then if i'm looikn or not or wat am i doing? also he does tease me alot and jokes with me alot and winks at me when ever he see's me and say's frount of people it's like being married to you, and he does say hi all the time or if i don't reply he will say it continously and tells me at least you can smile back at me or say hello! and not only that he said i remind him soo much of his ex-girlfriend as he was laughing but he used to say nice thing about her, even though it's his x and he said i also remind him of somebody else with a happy face but why does he mention these peculiar things to me or says it to me then somebody else and he always takes me as a game or a joke and somtimes not taking me seriously or listening to me apart from mirroing me with his face expression or when i say something he is trying to make laugh and always pull his eye-brow up and down but why it's really annoying and embrassing, but we are only gd frineds though we only known each other for 6/7 months. SO PLEASE HELP ME OUT I'M REAL CONFUSED LIKE HOW THIS PERSON IS ACTING AND SAYING THESE THINGS HELP ME UNDERSTAND WHY OR WHAT IS THIS PERSON TRYING TO SAY? ansd i never know what he means it's like being married to you he was realy laughing and having a grin on his face when he said that. well srry about this long essay and thanx ever soo much 4 ur reply tke care! bye sweet facex
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I've been thru this and on both sides of it-not fun. You gotta be your own best friend here. What would you tell a best friend who you really cared about if she had the same problem and asked you what to do ? This guy is sucking you into HIS confusion . He runs hot, he runs cold,he treats you like a little sister sometimes and other times like a "friend". Doesn't sound like he's over the last girl yet. The most and best you'll get from this guy is more of what you're getting Girlfriend!! These are some of the unhealthy ways we can get hooked on someone-thru confusion. It sounds like being taken seriously is very important to you and I'm sure there are many things that matter to you. Now, read that last sentence over again. Look on your radar and see if there aren't other guys looking to get to know you and that you might like to date. Your friends who know you well may have guyfriends to set you up with. ASK THEM-no harm done there. Even if you don't like some of the guys who ask you out,try to go out with them and spend time and talk back and forth and see what VALUES YOU SHARE and HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF after spending time with them!! You are worthy of getting your needs met. You just need to know how. I've given you 2 starting steps-- START DATING& LISTEN,LISTEN,LISTEN TO WHAT THEY'RE SAYING AND HOW YOU FEEL. You will know and there will be much less confusion. Look, you're still confused after 6-7 months trying to get to know this guy. He's shutting you out with confusion tactics. And yes, it is a little bit of work. Or even trying on clothes or buying a car-you don't buy the first thing you try on or drive. YOU ARE WORTH THE TIME TO FIND THE FIT!! It doesn't sound like you're having much fun with this. You don't really like this guy-he's just f'n with your mind--and even if this means he likes you-what a messed up way of showing it-eh?? Tell him you'll see him in 8 years and get outta there!! Don't be where your not wanted!! PLEASE-- Keep me posted-insight2020
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