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My sister gets more respect
Perhaps my sister is the "favorite" or there is something about me that cause them to treat me different. I think that I get defensive like someone else suggested, but I'm tired of their rudeness. I just want to be treated as an equal. My mother constantly tells me that I can't force people to listen to me, and to agree with me. I think that if a person cares, they should listen to what I have to say, but they don't have to agree with me, just realize that my point of view is just as valid as theirs. I'm constantly misunderstood. How can I get my point across, without seeming demanding, and that I always want to be right? Even my husband thinks that sometimes, when I just want him to listen to me. My mother-in-law says I like to argue. But I really don't. I feel forced to argue because people don't "get" what I'm saying. It's so frustrating!
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If that person cared, they -would- listen. or maybe want to...even if they (know they will) agree or don't agree.
it could be impossible or them, now, to take notice what they are doing wrong, for you let them for many years. and now that you are standing up for yourself, it's "rude" even if what you really want is the same respect.
i have to put up with that when i visit my grandmother, for i am not the daughter of her favorite daughter, *mary. even if mary's daughter is like me in many ways, she loves her more. mary treat's her mother like if she were worth nothing, but it's MARY! if it were my mom, she would be pissed at not only her, but my father and i as well.
behind my smile, i cry. you have to accept the way they are, even if it hurts. let them think the way they do...it's not the truth anyway. when you argue with them, they just dislike/hate you more. or maybe it makes them happy you suffer. they -want- you to argue, but you mustn't. calmly, politely, tell them your side without saying "you." but you don't have to talk back at all, YOU HAVE THE POWER! ignore what you don't have to hear. it's a rerun. it's all a rerun.
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