|
what you do if you are going out with someone, but they stil
what you do if you are going out with someone, but they still don't really know who you are because you are scared to show it? MY FRIEND has this problem with their boyfiend. She is quite a geek actually, but she does not want to show this side to her current boyfriend for fear of rejection. She has asked me what to do but I am very bad at giving good advice, so I thought I would ask the queen of advice.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
I don't think your friend should worry too much, most guys (well, most guys who aren't worthless) won't be turned off by a girl with a geeky side at all. It's downright cool, yes? I'm kind of curious about why she's so insecure about it, myself. Sounds like she needs to change her perception of geeks... geeks are smart, and smart gets you far in this world. If you can't believe that, you should change.
I'd tell her to show him her geeky side with actions, not words. Sometimes people have a hard time believing words because so many people want to act geeky but they aren't. What does she do? Take apart computers in her spare time? Fix cars? Read biology textbooks? When he asks what she did last weekend she should be honest and not hide it. I don't think he'll take it as hard as she anticipates.
If she really can't be herself then this relationship isn't worth anything in the first place and you should try to split them up.
]
More Questions: |