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Insurmountable fear of School
I'll try to make this as brief as possible, but I just hate school. I didn't always hate it, even when it was bad. I went to a christian school with extremely poor academics but a wonderful community for six years, then spent highschool in a competitive arts school. While I always had some kind of underlying depression and anxiety issues, highschool brought it out in full force. It was a terrible experience and I've told everyone who will listen that I will not re-live it.
I was pretty set on my decision not to go back to college because of this. I have never had a long term goal in life, the closest to one I had was to graduate high school, which I barely made. But with a dog and a girlfriend who I aim to do the best for, I realized I have to further my education in some way to get paid enough to thrive.
The issue still remains- I hate school. I hate it so much I feel sick and the thought of going back gives me such a fight or flight reflex that I feel like I should be medicated for it. The thought of putting a pencil to paper in a classroom while a teacher (or now professor) lectures about something, interacting with other students, taking tests- it all makes me want to flip. I despise every aspect of it, but I know I need to get over this to make money.
How do I get past this? Is it even possible to make money without going to college or trade school? I used to not care about being poor, but I don't want that for those who'll be living with me. I just... really hate formal education.
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I'm with ya about school. I also despise it. I went to college for a bit. But dropped out cause I hated it too much. I've worked with people who have college degrees and are drowning in debt because of it. Yet I make the same as them or sometimes more. Having a degree will make it easier to get your foot in the door. But the quality of your work will carry you further. I worked with 3 people with master's degrees and PHDs. I had to teach them how to do the job. When they company died out, they got rid of them before me. I did better work than them. Despite their fancy titles.
I worked in construction for a bit. Those guys make like 35 an hour. A lot of them are ex cons. Degrees don't matter there and its the same for many jobs. I have siblings with degrees yet I've made way more money than them. On top of that, they are STILL paying off student loans many years later.
Having a degree will make it easier to get a job. But that's about it, I think. Its the quality of your work that's gonna really make the difference.
Killing yourself trying to get a degree does not guarantee anything. I'd focus on learning a skill in a field you're interested in, if possible. I would say you need some skill/experience. It doesn't have to be fancy, you just gotta be good at it. I started off testing video games, those skills eventually led me to make some really good money, much to my surprise. The constructions guys
I worked with didn't know much of anything. Yet they made more $ than a lot of college graduates, plus, they're protected by a union.
The whole college education is blown out of proportion. You can still make a lot of $ without torturing yourself for a degree.
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I am not a doctor but it appears the first problem that need to be addressed is depression and the related anxiety. Once they are under control. If needed medication can help with both anxiety and depression and is usually taken while you address the problem with a psychologist in talk therapy. If your parents have health insurance the psychologist visits should be covered.
You start by getting a complete physical and ask to be screened for depression. Your family doctor can give you medication or you can see a psychiatrist for medication. I suggest a psychiatrist to treat you as most depression is caused by the lack of 1 or more chemicals secreted into the brian and they are the best doctors to treat you. Make sure the psychiatrist is board certified in psychiatry. The psychiatrist will most likely recommend a psychologist.
Once your depression is under control you will see things more clearly. Once that happens reevaluate whether you want to give college a try. If so I recommend you local Community College. The cost is less and you don't have the added stress of living far from home.
Should college not be a choice for you them consider a vocational/Technical school. There are vocations that pay more them most college degrees and some only require 1 or 2 years of training.
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I hated the school too
" The thought of putting a pencil to paper in a classroom while a teacher (or now professor) lectures about something, interacting with other students, taking tests " this is exactly the feeling i have about school
but their is important question, what are the options to have great life with amount of money that will let you have decent life?
i asked my self this when i wanted to quit studying
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"""""Is it even possible to make money without going to college or trade school? """""
if you have amount of money to make your own small business """that you have passion about"""", you can quit studying, and start with your own job and upgrade your self by time and get the money you want, but if you dont have that option, then you need to prepare your self, to get the job you love and make money from it
their important point
1. you should study something you will have passion about, because when you will get that ultra bored feeling about studying, the reasons will help you continue, you are studying what you love, you can ask your self " seriously is it really important that i should go every day to school to have good life " yes it is, the degree you will in that major """ you care about and you love """" will let you enter the company works in that major, and get the successful life
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every hate feeling in your life about something, their is reason, try to find the reason in you and solve it, and if the reason is only this " The thought of putting a pencil to paper in a classroom while a teacher", then you must think about the future because its not joke, nobody will be beside u when u will not have qualifications to get job and make money
think how much important to continue, and if your not studying what you love, then quit it now, and go study what you care about
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""""I used to not care about being poor, but I don't want that for those who'll be living with me""""
and if you are not interested in anything, and you dont care about any major, then you must make your self interested in something and work on it, and upgrade your skills in that major for the one you love and care about, so you can have a decent life with them
"The great key of continues is passion"
Find it
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