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i need to ask my mom for tampons
I am 12 almost 13 and I have had my period since I was 10 my mom told me everything before I got my period and she also told my that she hates tampon because they took her virginity I know that is not possible and so a few months ago at a gymnastics meet I used one of my friends tampons well now I have a swim team tryout and I need some tampons and no I cannot buy them myself because I have no store of shop to go to right away help please
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Hey!
Let's get this straight, a tampon DOES NOT take your virginity away. Putting a tampon up your vagina is not a sexual intercourse, in that case it DOES NOT, and WILL NOT take your virginity away (that's just a myth), but it actually can be dangerous if you forget you have it in. However I do believe that tampons are better when you're doing sports, because it doesn't stick to you, and it's great especially when you're swimming. There's really no specific age to when you're allowed to use a tampon. I think the best way to confront her about it is to do it directly, and give her reasons why you want to use tampons instead of pads. You could even do research on it, and print out papers to show her (that might be a little too extra, but it could work). Just be responsible about using it.
Hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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You should try a direct approach. Why not grab what you need and plunk it in the shopping cart at the grocery store, Wal-Mart etc. when with her and tell her that they are a requirement for swimming when on period and any problems to talk to the coach.
You can also explain that classmates, friends and women she knows wear them an it has nothing to do with sex or virginity. You could also have your doctor talk to her if need be about tampons and your need to use them. Odds are if you put them in the cart you'll go unchallenged as nobody wants a scene and you wouldn't get one in public to begin with.
Another idea would be tell a friend's mother that you want to be on the swim team badly and the tryout and period will be happening at the same time. Explain what your mom thinks and that there's no way to participate unless you have them. Explain you have no money of your own to buy them and ask if she would be wiling to purchase what you need or talk to your mom ontop. I am sure she would help.
Have you spoken to any of your close friends? Perhaps they could spare a few too so you can make it through the tryout. That solves your immediate needs but over all after that you would be on your own and would need them into the future so I would talk to a friend's mom or even an older adult female you can trust.
You could talk to the coach but if talking to people you don't know as well as friends parents over this would be difficult or embarrassing try for friends or adults you trust because someone will help and perhaps if desired set mom straight.
Your mother may have also come from the era of toxic shock syndrome and have wrong idea from that alone. Today's feminine products are relatively safe if used as directed. I hope it works out for as I'm certain it will.
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Just in case you aren't ready to believe all of what adviceman said, I am an older female and all of what he shared is correct and right on.
In case your Mom still isn't sure about or not willing and your coach is a male so you don't want to ask him to speak to Mom, I've got a video from a you tube blogger, Laci Green who does sex educating and talks on relationship related things. She has a short video on what she called Hymen 101 "You can't pop your cherry" and used a visual to explain what the hymen is and isn't. She's funny and jokes alot so she's entertaining for the younger generation being in her twenties herself but she does the research and does share the facts so I feel this one particular video may be a way to get the info across to Mom without there being much issues.
Here is a link to the video:
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Yes you need tampons if you are going to be on the swim team.
Today's teenager is better educated in the facts of life and human biology then your mother was when she was your age. She believes the Tampon ruptured her Hymen. It is possible that the tampon did rupture her Hymen because of her physiology or her mother never taught her how to properly insert one.
This may sound strange given your mother is just one generation older than you. At that time many girls still felt and some still today feel that if they lose their Hymen they lose their virginity. This is not true. Today's active teenage female can cause her Hymen to rupture through many of the athletics she may participate in. Running, jumping, swimming, Ballet, bike riding and many other sports.
Today and even when your mom was your age a female or male remained a virgin until the vagina is penetrated by a penis. Once this occurs for even a fraction of a second both the female virgin and the male virgin are considered to have lost their virginity.
You need to do one or both of what I'm going to suggest.
The first and easiest to do is to ask your coach to either write you mom or call her advising her that you need tampons so you can be on the swim team. I am assuming your coach is a female so you should not be embarrassed. Your coach I am sure has had this problem in the past as there are other moms who do not want their young daughters using tampons. Mostly because of concerns for septic shock from failing to change your tampon as required.
The second one is a bit harder for now you may have to educate mom on the facts of life concerning virginity and the loss of one's hymen. I have a feeling mom may know better but used this as an excuse to say no. So start with the fact that you can't swim using a pad and need tampons to be on the swim team. If she still insists it will cost you your virginity them you may have to explain things to her.
I would suggest you ask you coach to call her as this I believe is what may work better for you.
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