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talking to myself
Is it normal to talk to myself?
Sometimes when I am doing homework, particularly when I am just starting a task, I talk to myself...just little things like "so how shall we start?" or "what's next" or "okay, let's.....".
Also, a lot of times if I am doing math, I talk myself through each and every step: "now we multiply by two" "oh look! that works!" "how do we go on from here?...." One of my friends described it like I have a bunch of little men in my head telling me what to do. I don't feel that way, I don't feel like my head is messed up. She didn't mean it that way either, just to clarify.
Anyways, I am wondering, is it normal for me to do that? Can I talk to myself when I'm doing stuff?
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Completely normal, don't worry. I think everyone does this at least once, it's working things out out loud instead of your head, which is sometimes easier. If you're worried you're going mad or insane - don't! It's completely normal and there's nothing wrong with it. Everyone talks to themselves, I know I do it when I'm working something out, and I'm sure it's not just us. Don't worry about it too much.
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Believe me, I talk to myself all of the time. It might just be how you reason or problem solve. You just need to hear it to figure it out. A different angle I can give you is people who operate out of their throat chakra tend to talk to themselves more. Your throat chakra is the energy center of communication and creativity. So those are probably strengths of yours. I say don't worry about it and don't change a thing if it works for you. I would just make sure you are alone when you do it. You wouldn't want to be annoying people at work or home. Lol.
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Hon, I just want to mention that the other answer you got from advice man was meant for another questioner whom I also answered.
Now as for talking to yourself as you do, I am exactly like that. Have been all my life and I am in my 50s and still do it.
Mostly people may laugh, find it funny, cute or just not understand. I looked on line for articles on talking to one self. People who dont know you at all may think of mental illness but many talk to themselves who aren't mentally ill. Heres a link or two for you to read.
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In both links you'll see that its perfectly normal and in fact very good for you as long as you are not speaking negative things, name calling yourself and tearing yourself down. Most talk to themselves in their heads. Not everyone does it aloud.
When I met my 2nd husband, he talked some psychology with me that I'd never heard of. He said that each person has a subconscious mind and that is something everyone accepts, but that subconscious mind also has a subconscious character, or you can call it your 'inner child' a term more people have heard of, so its almost like having another more emotional you, inside of you. Our emotions seem to be part of our subconscious. I have witnessed people who seem to always be sabotaging or hurting or stressing themselves out, and basically, it means they have been fighting themselves internally, fighting their inner child which is also their emotions, feelings and subconscious mind. I just happen to have been best friends with mine since I was a toddler. Sometimes it feels like my conscious mind is the adult and my subconscious is like a little scared child and I recognize that I need to comfort the child and when I do, in essense, I am taking care of what is stressing me out.
Example: I hate going to the dentist. Once I told myself aloud (talking to my sub) you don't have to be scared yet, we haven't arrived at the dentist office yet. And miraculously, I felt no fear. Once I arrived, I told myself, you don't have to be scared yet cus you're not sitting in the exam chair yet. Once I was in the chair, I told myself, You dont have to be scared yet cus they haven't given you the novocaine shot yet. I always kepts pushing back the time at which I could be allowed to get scared. Soon, I got through it with minimal fear. The biggest fear is feeling pain and I know my subc. fears that most so I promise her that I will speak up the moment I can feel something that isn't quite pain yet but its a warning that the novacaine may not be strong enough for how my roots run, or it may be starting to wear off and the dentist will always give me more and so I come out of the experience stress free. If I ignored my subs feelings, I bring stress upon myself. I even have a name for my subconscious, my inner child. It makes sense to me since we are both separate parts of one whole. My husband told me when we met of the name of his and asked what the name of mine was. Well, I'd never heard of such a thing and was speaking to him, "How the heck would I know? I have no clue what the name is!" No sooner had I spoken those words than an indignant voice reared up in my mind saying, "My name is ......." and thats how I learned to become even more in tune with my sub/inner child, recognizing this as not merely talking to myself which is helpful but realizing I was my own best friend and to cooperate and treat my sub the same way one would treat a best friend, or the spouse you love.
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I believe everyone has the right to cry and crying is normal. Crying allows you to relieve what ever is tormenting or stressing you to a breaking point. Trying to suppress the urge to cry can only harm you in other ways.
Some people may tell it is unmanly to cry and to man up. Anyone who tells you this is wrong. Everyone has their emotional side and there are times when those emotions become overwhelmed for the reasons I stated.
If it was wrong for a man to cry then how would the former speaker of the U.S. House of Representatives remained the Speaker for as long as he did. He cried on National television. HE cried in the House Chamber and in his District Meetings. People can say what they like about the man's politics. HE was and is a very emotional man who didn't care who saw his emotional side.
In short my answer is; If you feel the need to cry, go ahead and let it out.
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Normal.
Human beings brains are DESIGNED to be able to look at ourselves from the outside. To imagine, that we are separate from ourselves, and observing what we are doing. To put ourselves in another perspective and understand what is being seen from that angle.
It's actually one of the thing that separates us from animals, and allows us to be an inventive and intelligent as we are.
It's fine to do this. The only thing to keep in mind is that is can be distracting or unpleasant for those around you. It's good to remember that although this helps you think and process it might actually make it really difficult for people around you. Try to be courteous and learn how to 'speak' to yourself, without actually speaking out-loud. Your future co-workers and colleagues will thank you for the effort.
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