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What do I do??
M/17
This girl that like or have crush on,I dont know what to do anymore. This past few weeks we gotten really close to each other,we texted a lot but i dont if thats enough. I mean She knows that i have a crush on her,because I confess it to her,its suppose to be an April fools prank but I lost the oppurtunity to say the "April Fools" so I yeah she knows. Of all the girls that I have a crush on Shes the different one,because I didnt even bother to know those girls more,but this girl shes really different from the others....I dont know. I miss her a lot,because its summer vacation here in the Philippines,and Im not gonne see her at school anymore because were entering college soon (we have a different schooling system here) I think Im falling for her,and this my first time to make an effort to know a girl. Oh and never had Girlfriend before so I dont know what to do...so bear with me...Should I continue this??
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If you confessed on April fools day, then she probably didn't take you seriously. Take her somewhere nice and sit down and explain your love. Don't just say "I have a crush on you", tell her everything you love about her. Say you want to visit over the summer, and don't want to let college pull you two apart. Tell her all that you love about her, and that you want to be together. Yes, it will be very hard, and take all your strength to do if it's your first time, but if you don't tell her and you two go off to college with you never saying anything, I promise you will have major regrets. Ask a friend to help you prepare for telling her, so you will know what to say and not get tongue tied. It will also make it a little less scary of your prepared for whatever answer she may give you.
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The only difficult part if you two did decide to date, would be that you guys are going to different colleges right?
It's not impossible for it to work, but it's also a lot of hard work. Especially for being 17 and trying to balance a relationship and school. College will be more stressful and time consuming.
So make sure you take that into consideration before jumping into this.
If you do decide you'd like to pursue her, then go for it. You never know unless you try. Maybe first try hanging out as friends and see how that goes. If she seems like she's into it, then ask her out on a real date. If she says yes, you know she is at least interested in getting to know you in a more romantic way than just friends. If she says no, then at least you know she doesn't feel that way.
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If you are going to be in different colleges, that makes it impossible for a relationship to begin, let alone for an established one to continue and remain strong and healthy. As much as two people may love or have strong feelings for each other, when apart with nothing but texting, I hear of many that fall apart. Mainly, you're young and want to experience the romance and the more interesting prospect is the one you're going to see in your college, the real (in person) female, or male for her to talk with, hear them laugh at your jokes, enjoy the excitement of standing near them, holding hands, hugging, kissing. All that is non existant in just texting so LDR's (long distance relationships) tend to suffer. It's up to you if you want to give it a try in case she feels the same about you but you'd have to be very dedicated to making time to visit each other during your college years to help keep the relationship going. But now is the time. You need to say something. Especially since the way you described you feel, that you want to know her beyond just surface level, like looks, you want to know all about who she is on the inside, that is a stronhg attraction. For the future, don't pretend or play pranks when it comes to attraction or interest. It is always better to be clear and direct with your words to let her know 100% for sure how you feel, rather than hinting at it but not confirming it. Young males and females have enough trouble understanding what the other meant.
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You need to talk to her. If texting is your only way of communication, let her know that you are serious. Make sure she knows she stands out as different than all others and that you would really like to get to know her better. Talk to her in person if that's at all possible. If it isn't talk to her however you can. Just do it. :)
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I don't see why not. There doesn't seem to be any difficulties, and she probably likes you back if after you told her how you feel, she is still talking to you quite a bit and such. So I say go for it!
Hope this helps~
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