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Fingering
My bf wants to finger me? I'm ready but idk what to do while he is? And where should we? And how do I keep my vagina from smelling? Help!
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I can't give much advice about the actual fingering - I've never much enjoyed it myself, but everyone's different!
However you could try using a scented pantyliner in your knickers throughout the day and keep some feminine wipes in your makeup bag, that way when you're alone with him you can just go to the bathroom and freshen up quickly to be on the safe side :D
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It's perfectly natural to be nervous or apprehensive about doing something sexual for the first time, and to feel worried about not knowing what to do. All these things are just learned and perfected with experience - that's how we all did it normally beginning in our early teens. So just try to relax and enjoy it - there's no need to be worried - and just act and do what comes naturally.
As for the smell thing - just following a normal washing and personal hygiene routine is perfectly sufficient.
Have fun!
Ashok
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Sex and sexuality is a learned experience. Just like everything else we learn we start with the basics. You didn't learn to ride a 2 wheel bike without first riding tricycles and using training wheels. It is the same with sex.
What is most important while we learn to please are partners is communication. How do I know if I am pleasing you if you don't tell me. You need to tell me if where I'm touching you is pleasant or painful. Your clitoris could be very sensitive or will become very sensitive when stimulated. You have to tell me how to finger it so as to provide you pleasure.
The same is true for you giving him a hand job if you are not already doing so then when he asks you to. It will be more pleasurable for him if you use a lubricant like KY jelly. How you touch him is important and he needs to communicate this to you as well.
As to where to allow him to finger you. Try to find someplace that is comfortable for you and secure from intrusion or discovery. The more comfortable you both are and the safer you are from discovery the more enjoyment the both of you will have.
As to how you should act while he is fingering you: This will come naturally as he excites you. Start by making out then let nature take over when he reaches into your panties.
As for the smell. Every women has a natural odor that is very attractive to the male. It is what makes him want to procreate with a women. If you smell like something is rotten then you may have an infection and might need antibiotics.
One of the other writers is correct as to staying clean. All you need is your daily shower that are advertised will do you more harm than good.
I hope we have helped you.
One other thing. Fingering is going to feel good and it is meant to. It is part of foreplay meant to excite you so that you will lubricate so intercourse can happen. You don't say how old you are though I believe you are a young teenager. I'm not going to tell you not to let him finger you. That would be hypocritical of any adult.
What I will say is you are way too young to go any further than fingering. Your panties and pants are your best protection against going any further. Keep them on and allow him to reach in and finger you. Do not get naked with him. Once you are naked it will be hard to stop yourself from going further than intended.
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I am wondering if you are concerned about your own natural musky scent. that is not a bad smell and is actually much liked by males.
Now if you have a raunchy fishy smell, or like rotting garbage, then you may have an infection and need to get on antibiotics from your Dr.
Caution: Do NOT use douches or soaps or perfumed sprays labeled for "feminine hygiene". Its just a marketing ploy and is actually bad for you. Plain water is enough for cleansing. Anything more will not only strip away bad bacteria but all your good ones that keep the bad bacteria under control. Females who douche have greater risk of getting vaginitis and needing to see a Dr.
If he cleans his hands well and has any rough spots on his hands, fingers files and nails trimmed, there should be no problem.
Don't worry if you don't have much success the first few times, it actually takes a lot of practice for each person to getting the right kind of speed and motion to arouse their partners. Even older adults have the same learning curves with any new sex partner. So just relax and enjoy.
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Lay back and enjoy it. You should dk it somewhere safe and secluded. And, if you keep your vagina cleaned, it'll be fine.
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