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my size and wheter guys still find interest in me
I am in grade 8 and I am a chubby female.Do high school guys in grades 8-10 still look at me with interest of getting to know me or dating me?
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High school can be a rough and confusing time in a person's life. But as far as your question goes, there is really no one size fits all (no pun intended) type answer.
Different boys, and later in life men, like different things. Sure, a lot of them might like the stereotypical image of beauty shoved in our faces by magazines and media. But, others will certainly like girls that fit a different mold.
There are boys out there who are visually attracted to girls who are fuller figured, ones who people might call geeky, one who have a goth or punk style and just about every other type of girl out there.
Some will say that's it's what's on the inside that counts. That may be true once you get to know someone but one of the big things that really appeals to both genders is confidence. Be confident in who you are and go from there.
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Some of them will, some of them won't. It's impossible to make a blanket generalization of such a large group of people!
I would guess, however, that it might be a little rougher at this age than it will be later in life. Boys at that age are often still very immature, and we all live in a very fatphobic world that brainwashes people into looking down on larger people, especially women and girls. It takes time to grow out of that - and unfortunately, some people never do.
Does that mean no boys will like you? Absolutely not! Most likely, some will. It may be no problem at all. There's no way of knowing until it happens.
What I want you to remember, regardless, is this:
1: Boys (or anyone else) who judge you or treat you poorly for your appearance are not people you need in your life. You deserve better.
2: Your body isn't the problem. Prejudice is.
3: You are still very very young and you don't need to worry about it if boys aren't interested in you. There are so many other great things in life to pursue while you wait to find someone special. Even if boys don't like you now, doesn't mean they won't when you're 16, 18, 22, etc!
Be yourself and don't worry about the opinions of others. You are beautiful!
Good luck and God bless xo
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You must take into mind that boys at this age are fickle, or not sure yet of what they like in a female, or afraid to date anyone different in looks from who their pals are dating, and its all due to a lack of experience in life in this area of relationships and dating plus a lot of immaturity tossed in.
There are always exceptions to the general rules...so even in high school, you will find that there are boys who don't buy into the crap that media feeds society as to what the perfect girl looks like. Some have no preferance in looks, some want the natural look--no make up or colored hair or painted nails. I see women of all ages, teens on to older adults where the female is chubby to obese and the man who is her partner is a skinny pole of a man.
You may have to be patient and wait for a guy to come to his senses which is more likely, the older he is. I know it may feel lonely now if you find it difficult. But don't give up. I have read about what interests men more in a female...if presented with a beauty who is a bubblehead with no personality and suffers a low self image, compared to the female who lacks the model type beauty, but has a great personality and has great self confidence, happy with herself and doesn't see herself as lacking anything... and that dear speaks louder to males than the other type of woman. Confidence and a good self image is sexy on a gal and guys go for it. As I said, it may not happen yet at your age because compared to guys 25 and older, their brains are still not fully developed so they lack ability to make best judgements yet. All humans, females too have brains that aren't completely done growing until mid twenties on, so its not just a male thing.
So don't let anyone tell you that you are ugly or unwanted or undesirable for a girlfriend. Kids can be cruel but what they say, just isn't so.
I will tell you a little story of one of the few times I went to nudist clubs and while there got to see two very obese women with their husbands who were thin. I know how most people would have a problem with others seeing their bodily imperfections including the extra weight and folds of skin. But I found as I studied the two women that I was being affected by their attitude of themselves before I even realized it. Even as a female who is heterosexual, I can spot and appreciate beauty or handsomeness in women and men without any sexual tone to it. So as I watched them, I noticed that I felt one of these obese women was very beautiful, I couldn't shake that feeling, whereas the other came across as very unattractive. They had extremely similar looks so what was the difference? It finally dawned on me that while one was completely okay with her looks, not only content but believed she was beautiful, the other must have said the words that she was pretty but not really believed it. If I as a female could pick that up, how much more so can the males? Hang in there honey. You will have male friends and males who want to date you. Depending on well well your self image is, it may be sooner than later.
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