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Help regarding an abortion at 13 years old
Ok, so I am I definitely pregnant, been checked at doctor, and I'm 13. My parents and I are trying to consider what would be best and right now we are considering an abortion. Just wondering, what's it like? Is it emotional? Sad? Painful? Thanks for any help
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Hi there. Sure we chatted earlier, and I hoped it was a false alarm. Appears not. There are a quite a few people even in our modern and enlightened society who hold the belief that abortion is 'always wrong'. They are entitled to their views but do not take it to heart. There are no such simple general cases as this thinking assumes. Each is unique and must be treated so. With thought and consideration of all the facts and circumstances. At the end of the day abortion is a safe, routine and common enough medical procedure which allows us to prevent the development and birth of a child when we may not wish it, or not be properly equipped to handle it right now. No more than that. It would be such a massive ask to expect you to have to handle the demands of raising a child at thirteen/fourteen, sweetheart. Massive and unfair. And of course what you have is still far from a child. Merely a fertilised egg. A glimmer. A few cells. The potential for a life but only if you choose it. If this is the path you go down you are not to feel any guilt or sadness. Or regret. Perhaps simply view it as a perfectly sound way to literally re-write a mistake, and try to quickly put it behind you get on with your life. I feel sure that one day a word from the doctor confirming you are pregnant will be great news and make you so happy. And you will be a great mum. But maybe that day is just not here yet? Best wishes whatever you and your family decide together my darling. CJB XX
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The experience of an abortion is entirely personal. Some women are very sad, no matter what their reasons for choosing abortion are. Many women are comfortable with their choice - they might not be happy about the situation - but they don't experience any depression or long-term suffering. I can't tell you how you will feel about having an abortion, but I can tell you that many, many women have abortions, almost 1 in 3 will have one in their lives, and the majority of those women go one and have families and live their lives happily. No one wants to have abortion, but most women who are surveyed after the fact believe they made the right choice.
There are different ways an abortion can be done. It depends on how far along you are, and what treatments are available and legal where you live. Most of them are physically uncomfortable, but not really painful. When an abortion is done by a properly trained medical practitioner, there is nearly zero risk of any complications or damage to your body in the long term. It's a very, very safe procedure.
If you have questions about what kind of abortion procedure it best for you, and what will happen if you choose abortion, you should talk to someone who works at a clinic. Many abortion clinics, or sexual health clinics (Like Planned Parenthood) will have someone who can talk to you knowledgeably about the facts.
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It is very very emotional if you want to keep the baby but can't, but it's probably emotional either way. Here are some good videos that talk about the different types of abortions and other options besides abortions:
This one is on the different types of abortion:
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This one is on putting it up for adoption:
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This one is on becoming a mother:
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