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cutest puppies
I want to get a puppy to surprise my boyfriend so what are the absolute cutest puppies? I know he doesn't want pets, but if I get the most adorable puppy EVER he won't be able to say no, right?
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Simply put: no. I can understand that you want a cute puppy, and I love them as well, however; he has already expressed to you that he doesn't want any pets and I'm sure that he has trusted you to understand that and not "surprise" him with a cute puppy. I think these things, as minor as they may seem, are always good to discuss with your significant other and those things are to be respected even if we may not like the answer -- unfortunately, he's already told you that he doesn't want any animals, so you should respect his decision and not buy any cute puppies.
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Razhie is absolutely right. I agree totally with her.
I have heard the "he doesnt want pets' growing up. It was Dad not wanting pets. So it didn't matter if the rest of us wanted one. Perhaps you didn't get to have a pet growing up and now you want one.
I don't know your age but if you are old enough to happen to live with this boyfriend and the two of you discussed pets before, and you are committed to this relationship with him, then the answer is no. In a healthy relationship, where an issue has the possibility of compromise, then certainly compromise, how ever if one partner votes no on any particular idea or issue, then its no.
What you are proposing doing is controlling and manipulating the outcome of a situation. I certainly hope you are not like this in other areas of life or you will never be happy in relationship cus any healthy individual will not put up with that behavior in their mate for long.
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Getting your boyfriend a puppy when he has said he doesn't want pets is a very bad idea. Puppies are a lot of work, and thrusting that responsibility upon your boyfriend could make him resent you.
If you want a puppy but cannot have one for some reason or you think he might really enjoy having a puppy, I would suggest going to a shelter or a pet store and spending some time there.
However, just buying a puppy and giving it to someone who doesn't want it is a bad idea and ultimately might hurt the adorable puppy if he is not loved as much as he should be.
I hope this helps,
Durga
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No.
Your boyfriend deserves your respect. He has told you doesn't want pets. Getting him a pet would be very disrespectful, and it would be cruel to both him and the dog. The dog deserves an owner who wants to love them, not an owner whose girlfriend tried to force a it on him.
Pets are life-time commitments and should never be given as surprise gifts. They change your life, your schedule, and your finances. Giving a puppy as a surprise gift is exactly how the most adorable puppies ever end up in shelters waiting to be put to sleep.
Don't do this. It is a horrible idea. Your boyfriend will resent you for giving him such a selfish gift - something that you obviously want but he has said clearly he doesn't - and he'd be right.
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