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Girl thinks im mean
this girl said i was mean after making a playful comment to her which kinda came out wrong... lol. what should i say to her if she ever brings up me being mean again without sounding like a bitch. thanks
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said i am sorry..and explain to her that you not mean to..
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You should just apologize to her. Let her know that it came out wrong and it wasn't meant to be hurtful. I've said some things that hurt peoples feelings when I had no idea it even bothered them until they brought it up again. I ended up apologizing to those people.
I'm also very sensitive. Sensitive people talk playful comments a little too seriously sometimes and don't realize it wasn't meant to be heard that way.
So the best thing to do is apologize.
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Next time,If someone thinks you are being mean when you didn't mean to be, let em know you didnt mean to hurt feelings and if you truly have no clue as to what upset them, then ask. That way you can avoid making the same mistake again.
So ask,"Hey I didn't mean to be mean or hurt your feelings, really. I guess I don't know you well enough to know what things might easily upset you. Please let me know what it is if you're comfortable telling me, cus I don't want to accidentally do it again in the future. "
As an adult, I made some comment to a new adult neighbor, something teasing about her not really paying attention when I answered her questions. End result, i find out later why she was upset, she had hearing problems due to a birth defect, and couldn't afford hearing aids. Heck I had no idea! when I saw her next, I apologized and After that I was careful to never say anything that she could take wrong about her hearing ability.
The safest policy is to not tease anyone you don't know really well, to know if they like and engage in teasing, playful comments themselves.
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