|
What's my teacher trying to say?
A few weeks ago a teacher left my school and, as I was very close to him, I got him a thank you card (he's helped my an awful lot over the past year - almost acting as a psychologist for me). When I gave him the card he said that he'd open it when I wasn't there if I wanted (I told him he could open it then). I didn't think much of it but then my friend came in and gave him a card and he just opened it straight away without saying anything.
I didn't think much of it at the time but then I was talking to my friend a few days ago and she said that sounded a bit weird. Now I'm really worried about what he'd thought I'd written in the card or something... And thinking back he's said other things to me like 'you hide a lot' and 'is there anything you want to tell me'.
I'm just very confused and don't want him to think bad of me. It's been really bugging me the last day or two and I feel stupid for not noticing beforehand when he was still at school and I could talk to him about it.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Work & School category?
Maybe give some free advice about: School?
I would stop worrying about it. You and this other girl had two different relationships with this teacher. I'm sure your teacher felt that your card to him was far more personal, one you may have felt you wanted him to read in private. Whereas the note from the other girl he felt was more general in nature sort of like; thanks Mr. X for a great year, good luck at your new school. That sort of thing.
When you told him he could read it while you were with him. That told him that while your note might be more personal than others he was receiving, you would not be embarrassed watching him read it.
The other things he said to you are somewhat normal especially if he has sensed that you might have a crush on him. Good looking young male teachers know it is not unusual for young female students to form crushes on them. A good teacher will watch for signs of these crushes and ask or say things such as he said to you lest you embarrass yourself by saying or doing something inappropriate.
So again I see nothing here to worry about. Enjoy the new school year and your new teachers. Concentrate on this year and this years school work.
]
He sounds like he was thinking of your sensitive feelings in wanting to read it later but since you said it was ok, he did. He didnt have to ask the other kid cus he already knew that their personality was such as where they wouldnt be embarrassed or feel weird watching him read their card.
If you believe you do have problems with shyness, low self esteem, etc... and want to work on it, there are self help books at bookstores. Just ask a clerk, find the ones you want and if you dont have the money for them, put them on the wish list with parents for Christmas. Or talk to school counselors and get recommendations from them as to what to do.
Not trying to make a bigger thing of it than there is.
But I know that during the teen years, something very little and insignificant to us as adults was very big for us back then and became a problem if it affected our abilities to focus and study. So if you find your feelings about your incident just won't go away, ask for help locally.
]
I don't think it's really a big deal. I mean you said nothing inappropriate in the card, correct? So you shouldn't worry about what he thinks of you.
I think you're just reading a little too into it and your friend is putting ideas in your head.
Even if he thought something was up with you, it doesn't matter anymore. He's gone so don't over think this.
]
Nowadays the "little" things always turn into "big" things.
Not many students give out thank you cards, Although it was a kind gesture, It could of given your teacher the wrong impression or made him uncomfortable.
Sometimes it's best to just be a good student, Do your work and not say anything. Nowadays society is full of assumptions and accusations.
]
More Questions: |