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copycat friend Okay, so here's my problem:
I have a friend, and she copies everything I do. I know she's doing this because all of a sudden, she's into EVERYTHING I'm into...and she never used to like everything I liked. Now she's like a mini-me and it's annoying. She even tries to friend all the friends I have on my myspace, and she doesn't even know them! Also, sometimes I think she's trying to outdo me. If I go out and get a CD or something, she'll go out and get the same one plus another one I wanted the next day. I've tried confronting her about this, but all I get as a response is "whatever" or "that's not true!". I'm really fed up with this. I'm afraid to end our friendship though, because she doesn't have many friends anyway. What should I do?
14/f
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just think of it as this way... she doesn't want to copy cat you, or perpously (sp?)trying to annoy you. She likes you and see's you as a role model and an inspiration. you're the only friend she has right now.
Don't get all mad at her and start yelling at her to stop. What you can do is the next time you 2 hang out... annoy her! if you buy a cd or something be like "oh i want that" then at the last second be like "nevermind"... then switch back and be like "agh god i want this" then swtich back again and say "oh nevermind"
ya know what i mean?? ha ha it will get on her nerves
or the next time she askes to hang out with you, just say you are busy. I think you 2 need a little seperation time.. maybe like 3-5 days. Then hang out with her again.
Make sure that you are not rejecting her as a friend, that happened to me once and it totally hurt.
Wouldn't you rather have a friend who admires you always, then to have her as your complete enemy???
I hope all goes well!
-volleyball2150 ]
The reason why she is doing this is because she doesn't have many friends and you do. So her solution to this is to copy you to get friends since you have many. You need to tell her that if she's going to denie that she copie's you then you may not be able to be good friends anymore. Tell her also that she really is copying you, you notice, (she may not know she's doing it either)
She doesn't want to lose you as a friend but she may if she keeps this up (tell her that if possible)
hope i helped
- milly203 - ]
Awww... She admires you, but if it seriously bugs you then talk to her about it. Don't just bring it up once, sit her down and talk to her about it, and tell her how you feel and also how you think she has changed. Maybe she doesn't even realise wwhat she's doing, maybe she does.
If she continues what she's doing and if you feel it's nesecessary to end your friendship, then fine. Don't feel guilty just because she doesn't have many friends and don't stay her friend just because you feel guilty. It's not fair to either of you.
::Jasmine:: ]
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