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Backstabbers. Two of my supposed friends my friends have definitely been talking about me behind my back. How should I confront them?
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i have experienced that already. it's just an instinct inside me that made me open to them the matter. and they remained silent but after that they stopped doing it. so i suggest to try talking to them in a perfect time, and perfect place, and perfect manner. be ready with tissue paper... ]
That has happened to me before. First thing NOT to do is accuse them off the bat. They will accuse you etc. and then you guys will get REALLY mad and confused. I suggest you come up to them and talk to them normally then let the subject come up. That is when you make your move and tell them you know they are talking about you etc. (I suggest you get evidence first just in case, like ask ppl etc.) If they act innocent keep trying, do not try REALLy hard or they will gossip and completly ignore you all together. Ask them why and what have you done to them etc. etc. If you have to (and you are REALLy angry) be patient and act confused plus innocent if you are on your last nerve. Then, get some new friends, believe me there are a lot of good friends in the world. Your backstabbing friends are NOT true friends, so do not go begging back with them. Stand Strong. Hope that Helped! ]
first you should tell them that you've heard they have been talking about you & get the truth from them before you start accusing, nothing is worth than assuming the wrong.
& then if they admit to it, tell them you would rather them tell it to you than behind your back, and if they were any friend at all, they wouldn't have even said anything behind your back in the first place.
if this continues, i'd advise you to make new friends. ]
Tell them that you know that they have been talking behind your back, and if they have something to say, to show some guts and say it to your face. gossipers can really hurt people so the best thing to do is to confront them and just make them feel like a** holes, so that they know that your strong and think that it doesnt bother you.
Just be carefull not to return the gossip about them, because then things can get really messy.. ]
well,
theres nothing to a gossiper!!! all i can tell u is that everyone has 'em and the only thing to do is to tell them you know the've been talking about you and that you could never be best friends to them if they keep it up
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~bijougirl4 ]
Well you should talk with them one on one and just come out and ASK do you have a problem with me but dont hava an attitue .Be nice about it if you can but just tell them you dont respect them talking bout you behind your back and if they have sumthn to say they should come to your face and tell you and not behind your back ]
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