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Q: Hello I'm 14 and I have a problem. There is a girl I like but she is dating a junior but in a way I think she also likes me. She's been single before and she's dropped hints but I am always too scared to ask. On the last day of school she kept calling me dads cuz her boyfriend wasn't around and held on my shoulder if she is single should I go for it?

If a girl is flirting and dropping hints to a guy while she's dating another guy. That should honestly be taken as a red flag. If a girl is doing that now, when you get with her.. don't you think she will do the same thing? I'd find another single girl in the sea that you see isn't the type to flirt with other guys while in a relationship.
I've seen this same scenario go down way many times.
And as far as her boyfriend being a friend of yours, another red flag. Bros before Hos I believe is the expression?

Q: So my frined... let's say her name is Sally. Sally dated this guy and then they broke up. While they dated, Sally introduced me to him and we became sort of friends, kind of.

We talk a little bit sometimes. It's never casual though, we only text each other if one of us has a question for the other. When him and Sally broke up, they remained to be best friends.

Anyway, all three of us are in a group chat. The other day I posted a Facebook pic and he asked me a question about it in the chat. I realized that he didn't like the pic, but saw it, so I told him to like it. When he did, he said "Like it just for u" and my friend was liek "Omg betrayed

No you shouldn't worry too much about it because it does sound like he was just being nice. Not that he likes you.
Guys tend to be more blunt. Typically, if they like you.. it doesn't take long for them to let you know that. Their hints aren't quite as subtle as girls usually.

Flirting isn't always the case, sometimes people just like to be nice. And sometimes people just enjoy conversations. I have a fiance but I still enjoy having conversations with people.

Keep it cool and assure your friend that everything is fine! Your friends feelings matter in this scenario. Chicks before.... yeah.

Q: I just found out I am 8 weeks pregnant with my (ex?) boyfriends baby. We both wanted to save ourselves for marriage and then we took it too far. That is why we decided to take a break. I am going to be a senior in high school and he is going to be a freshman in college. He doesn't really talk to me anymore, but his mom and I are still really close. How should I go about telling him I am expecting his child?

Be straight up. Dancing around the subject will do no good, the baby has a life the moment it was put into your tummy. So starting to think whats best for that child right away is going to be the best. And the best for the child would be to let them have both mommy and daddy in their life.
Waiting for marriage is everyones ideal image. But sometimes things happen. Thats life. Dealing with not only the expected but also the unexpected.
With religion comes faith, and in the case of what is happening with you.. faith is what should guide in knowing that things happen for a reason and that everything will work out for the best.

Hang in there and don't stress and worry too much. Baby is sharing that body with you!
Parents tend to freak at first, sometimes even fathers freak at first. But most of the time, after the storm comes the calm.

Good luck! And Congrats :D

Q: I have a boyfriend who I have been dating for 2 years and soon to be 2years and 3 months . But the thing is, I feel I'm still stuck on my ex . I don't always think about him but sometimes it bugs me that were not together. Me and my ex only talk like on mine and his bday.I had him for a class this school year and I feel he still likes me because he would look at me often .... but then he has a gf.... this upcoming year were both going to be seniors and might not see each other m his birthday is coming up . Should I invite somewhere public so we can juts talk for the last time or so I can tell him my mixed feeling or should I just have a long conversation on his birthday witch is july31st. ? I know it may be wrong at some point but I feel if I talk through all this with him and ask if he ever thinks of me. I will have to move on . I need to .I love my bf but like I said I often think about my ex here and there ....btw me and my ex broke up on goof terms we dated when we were 8th grade and broke up on half of freshmen year and now we're both going to be seniors

Hi there.
First off, love can be confusing as anything. It truly can. With that being said, as much as we may feel confused about things.. our gut can usually tell us what we need to do or listen to. You not being over your ex is a sure sign that you shouldn't be continuing with your said boyfriend now. If you are able to still feel those feelings for your ex then you shouldn't be dating ANYONE. Despite you wanting to have someone. Jealousy is a sign you are not over someone completely and that the love you are feeling just may not be for you. We will love many people in our lives, but not every single person we end up loving is meant to be with us forever. Don't wait til the last minute on deciding things because in the mean time you DO have someone that you are stringing along as if nothing is wrong and that's something none of us want to feel. Time will only add to that hurt when and if you end up hurting said boyfriend.

So my advice pretty much is to get to telling ex dude what is up, and despite what he says... maybe also the person you are with just isnt the one. I feel you would absolutely know if they were. Thoughts of your ex wouldnt be brewing.

Just saying. Hope all turns out well :)

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