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Q: I am a teen , and I was dating this boy and like we sat by each other all the time but me and him never really talked, I tried to start a conversation and stuff , it was just going downhill, so after three weeks, i got fed up with it and i broke up with him . He started talking about me behind my back at first but now he is okay with me . The problem is I think I still like this boy sooooo much . But I think he tries to make me jealous like he tells me has a girlfriend , and one time like a month after we broke up , he was all like , do we go out because if we do , i want to break up with you ?! But he knew we didn't go out , and his friends all say he really likes me , and I really like him, so what do i do ? Do I make a move , wait on him , give up on him , just what ?

Well girl... I would wait on him. Like I said, this is if I was in this sort of situation. If you really liked him, follow the voice that is yelling inside your head!! :D I garentee it would bring you to a great path with this boy.

Thanks for your time! Peace outt,
~*sweetsuga*~

Q: Hi, I'm Brittany, im 13 and I'm a girl so, yah....my question is about my boyfriend and his mom. His mother doesn't like me very much and he told her that I don;t like her either....he said that I should meet her but I'm kind of affraid to, if you know what I mean.....but anyways....I don't know what to do, what do you think? Should I meat her or not?

Hey Brittany! I think you should straighten that bond with your bf's mom and you by meeting her. Don't lie about yourself to make the mother like you for who you really aren't. Just like your boyfriend, he likes you because of your personality and stuff. I bet the mother will too. So, go on and be true and meet her, girl! :D

Thanks for your time on reading my advice!
~*sweetsuga76*~

Q: Hello My name is seanicka (female), im 18 and on my way to college for education. The problem is my boyfriend lives in nassau bahamas. I met him over the summer while visiting my family and we became so close over the 3 months. We decided that we are gonna keep the relationship going because he really likes me and I really like him. Well actually its more than like, I can say we fell deeply in love with each other over that time and made lots of connections. Now im back in miami and everyday I cant do nothing but think of all the times that me and him shared and its making me cry everyday. Im just really afraid that this might not work out because i've never really been in a long distance relationship. Im not worried about him cheating on me its just the distance. Sometimes I just wish I knew if this is gonna work beforhand so I wont be wasting my time. Im really willing to make sacrifices to make this work and he say that he is as well but like I said Im still afraid. Do you think this can work out for me.

Well, Seanicka... I think yes and no. My friend was going through the same thing but this guy lived in the city while we lived in town-- I told her to not fret about the distance. Who cares about the distance? I would email him or IM or call him. Just don't do those connections too much before he thinks you are going 'coocoo bananas' lol. Well, I hope it works out.

Thanks 4 ur time! Peace outt,
~*sweetsuga76*~

Q: well my best friend went on a mission trip and met this guy and now she really likes him. and then today they went out together and he asked her out and she said yes! they have only known each other for a week and a half and shes only a sophmore while hes a senior!! im really upset. i think it was really stupid. shes never had a boyfriend because shes usually smart about guys but now shes making bad decisions. they started holding hands and stuff before they even dated! and i wouldnt care but THEYVE ONLY KNOWN EACH OTHER A LITTLE OVER A WEEK! and shes said YES whan he asked her out!! i just cant be happy for her because now i know shes gonna start kissing him and im upset because i want to be happy for her when she gets her first kiss and when she has her first relationship but i feel like shes giving up for a guy she barely knows!!!! i of course will talk to her about it but what should i do? he does seem genuine but neither of us hardly know him! if shes thinks hes right shouldnt she at least wait a little? especially before she gives up her first kiss and who knows what else!! please help :)

most of the reason why im upset is im really worried about her getting hurt. a guy broke my heart and i dont want her to get close to him and trust him for him to betray her. if she knew him better i would feel more comfortable about trusting him but i cant trust a guy shes only known for a week 1/2! and i do think they should date just..not yet.

WOW this was a long question. [Stretching and yawning] Ok, well, I have the same problem with my friend too. What I did was to ask her if she's sure that this guy is her 'mr. right'? She said yes and became angry I was asking her sumthing like that-- Well, back to you... You should talk with her and ask her that. Tell her not to give out too much secrets yet. They are way too early in this relationship to start trusting and stuff. You also should stop getting too- um too upset over the small developing situation... Just leave it alone. Tell her that you are worried and tell her all the bad this you think he might do to her. SHe'll come to you when she finds out that this guy might not be the 'mr. right' for her or sumthing. Just don't be too crazy about the situation. Chill a sec and breath, gots me? :]
*~sweetsuga76~*

Q: ok well my boyfriend ask me to choose between one of my best guy friends and him and i choosed
my friend because i knew him way longer and then my boyfriend broke up with me....... was i wrong to choose my friend? also take in the fact that me and this guy friend use to date i still love him but he has a girl friend he's been dating for like a year

Smart choice! Your friend is so much important to you. I can see the big space for your friend then your ex-boyfriend. This ex-boyfriend isn't good enough for you if he's feeling a bit jealous of your friend and you and making you chose between him and your friend. Very, very nice choice, lol.

~~~Thanks 4 your time and reading my advice,
*sweetsuga76*

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Wuzzup?! I am 14 and live in da' US! I love to give advice and love to see the people I give advice to, see their faces brighten when I give them advice. Ask me anything and I'll try to answer! Thanks for your time! :]
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