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Does anyone kno any good names for an all girl band?I rate 5's! (link)
Teen Girl Squad


i need to lose like 4 pounds plz im tlking long term i have to this guy i love says he loves me to but his frineds say im fat it doesnt bother him but it bothers me plz help so i can put an end to this (link)
Just don't make your self anorexic or bulemic. All you have to do is eat healthier and eat only about 2000 calories a day. Work out a little bit too.


Ok well my dad and my mom got a divorce right so my dad started dating this girl with a son to who is divoriced ok her son the second i saw him i new i was in love with him and i m crazy about him already he feels the same way his mom told me and im not going to go out w/ him because thats really wired but besides that i really really like him and id really like to go out but that just be wired because our parents our hooking up. but he is all i can think about what should i DO ILL RATE 5'S FOR ANYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
I can understand both sides of this argument. your parents don't want you guys to date just in case they get married. then you would be brother and sister and whoah that would be extremey weird. I also know that you guys aren't blood related, so it seems like it would work but it proabably wouldn't. Also if your dad stopped dating the girl it would be okay to date her son.


i liked him.
and now hes an ass.
and he liked my bestfreind.
and he just wants to have sex with me.
PLEASE HELP. (link)
DON'Y HAVE THE SEX! thats all there is to it.


Me and my sister have never gotten along, but lately weve started to be more civil to each other. I am 27 and she is 23. She still lives with our mother.She recently told me that she quit her job, which sort of surprised me.
Well I'm really worried about something that I did. My dad (who is divorced from our mom)phoned me about two weeks ago and asked me how my new job was going. I told him that I was getting lots of hours and that I liked it.
Well then I mentioned to my dad that my sister should apply at the store I'm working at because she just quit her job. Then my dad said"WHAT"? I then said, "what, didnt' you know"? He was really mad and said "why the hell would she quit her job before finding another one"?
I told him to please not say anything to her.
I recently talked to my sister and she asked me if I told our dad she quit her job. I lied and said no, then she said she didnt want him to find out.
I did a really shitty thing but it wasnt really my fault, I didnt know I wasnt supposed to say anything. I'm really worried she will find out it was me that spilled the beans, how can I ever make it up to her? I already bought her a nice Xmas gift but don't think thats enough. (link)
She probably will eventually find out that you told your dad. You didn't know that your dad didn't know that your sister quit her job, so there is no reason to feel shitty. Probably the best thing you can do when she finds out is to tell her that you are sorry and explain the whole situation including the part where you didn't know that your dad hadn't found out about her quitting the job. Hopefully she will understand. Then try help her find a new job.


Okay, I know this might seem weird, but it makes sense to me.

Everyone in my family is doing extremely well with their financial needs. We all live pretty comfortably. But, every family has suffered to get where they are.

And I mean EVERY single family.

My aunt from my mom's side, and her family started getting rich about 15 years ago. Once they started racking in all the money, she was diagnosed with kidney cancer. She might not live for another year.

My Uncle from my mom's side always owned his own auto repair business and has always been making an above average salary. But, a few months ago he decided to open another shop across town, since his original one was doing so good. Well, for the past 6 months he's been in the hospital getting treatment for his blood cancer.

On my dad's side, my uncle also opened his own business and has been making good money. His wife and him now can't have any more children. The past 4 times she's been pregnant, she's had a miscarriage.

The list certainly goes on.

It seems that every time something happens to someone in my family, it's after they start making more money.

Well, my dad owns a law firm and he just closed a 15 million dollar case. We were all excited until a few days ago when he ended up in the hospital. My dad never gets sick and hasn't been to the doctor in over 20 years. But about a week after the closed his case, it started. We first thought it was the flu so we didn't worry. But one night he woke up with a sharp pain in his side (or stomach I'm not sure) and we had to rush him to the hospital. They told us if we waited even 30 more mins. he would have been dead. His gallbladder would have exploded.

Now I don't know what to believe because it all seems so crazy. But it makes sense. It's gotten me so scared that I don't want to make much money when I get older. I know it sounds weird but what do you guys think of this?
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Well if you belive in curses ok, but I personally don't belive in them. Maybe your family has some kind of weird medical history. Or maybe it's just a cuwincidence.


Right so I got drunk on Friday (really bad I know and Im not doing it again) and my friend was being really nice about it. But now all she can do is say how Im making a massive deal out of it and I was probably just ACTING drunk and that I wasnt drunk at all because I didnt drink as much as she did. I cant see why she doesnt understand that I really was drunk. I couldnt walk straight, I was laughing at everything and saying things Id never say sober and I had a horrible headache for the rest of the night and very almost chucked my guts up.
Im not proud that I got intoxicated, but I learnt my lesson and all I can now is forget about it and joke about it if anyone else brings it up. Im just not seeing why my friend is so 'OMG YOU WERE SO NOT DRUNK YOU COULDNT HAVE BEEN OMG OMG' to me. Ive never really had alcohol before and Im not used to it so obviously Id be more of a lightweight. I dont know how to say to her that I was drunk, without sounding like I was proud of it. Ive apologised to her for the way I acted (which wasnt bad anyway, I was just giving people hugs and laughing) and she says shes not angry at me. But she keeps on saying how she knows I wasnt drunk when in my own mind, I know I was.
How can I get her to see that Im not proud of getting drunk that night but I really genuinely was drunk and wasnt just acting to get attention?? Help please, and no bashing me for drinking, everyone drinks some time. (link)
I can understand your situtation here. Ok so yeah you had a little too much alcohol it happens! I think she is the one with the problem here! I wou;dn't be proud if I were you either! Just talk to her and tell her that you are telling the truth and she is making a huge deal about it. If she still says you were pretending to be drunk you obviously need to take a little brake form her for a while and let her realize that she was wrong. and that the you getting drunk thing won't happen agian.


I'm in this advanced choir. There's this new girl who just joined. She's 13, like me, only she's a grade ahead of me (I'm a 7th grader). I have to admit, she's pretty good. Everyone knows that she's got this beautiful high voice, a little like Sarah Brightman's. She's a bitch! She's always flaunting her voice. During camp, we all had to watch this documentary on opera, and she goes "I bet I could sing opera..." Jesus! She's only 13, right?!!!! She had to share a bunk with me. She's was a disgusting bunk mate. She was always spilling her milk all over my papers, bringing food into the dorm, not eating it, and soon there would be moldy peaches everywhere. She can NEVER stop talking about herself. It's always me, me, me, me, me, my voice, my hair, and my boyfriend. Once she was talking about herself and says "my friend and I were watching the Phantom of the Opera and I could sing that really high note at the end of the song 'The Phantom of the Opera.' " She sings the note and asks "Can you sing it?" So I tried, and of course I couldn't, because I'm not even a soprano, and she goes "ha-ha! i can sing the high E and you're all strained up. That's hilarious..." and goes off into another monologue about herself. Now I have to sit on the risers right next to her, and she's getting worse. She's also a brownnoser. She's always sucking up to our choir teacher, and so on...what can I do to put up with her? I don't want anyone to say "talk to her about it." It's not like she's my friend or anything. (link)
I have alot of people like this at my school too! Ok well fist of all she probably just want's to make a good impression on everyone. The next time she brags to you or something like that stand up to her tell her she is a suck up and that this doesn't make people like her. Tell her if she wants to have real friends she should be nicer and compliument other people indtead of just herself. She might not listen to you like a lot of people at my school would do but at least give it a shot! You will feel good about telling her that in the end.


okay my boyfriend wants me to have sex with him .....i really want ot because i'm 16 sooo what do i do? (link)
Well if you want to you can. Just make sure to use a condom.


heyy is this leah???
if it is i know you i am ur step sissy C__her___ (link)
um no this is Chloe


im 13 years old, and im afraid of the dark still. ok, let me rephrase that: im not exactly afraid, but everytime i am someplace dark, i feel very uncomfortable, like something is watching/following me. i know its not real, which is why i need help: first of all, is it weird that i feel afraid at 13, and also what can i do to make myself not scared? thx in advance ill rate all 5s! (link)
Well I'm the same way. It's because you have probably seen or heard about something that makes you think that what ever that scary thing is is there. Just think of something that makes you happy or something thats funny. It works for me. by the way a lot of people are like that so it's nothing to be embarrased about if you are.


Yesterday i killed the person i loved. And i dont know what to do... SHould i go to the police, should i run, should i kill myself? SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME (link)
Well i don't mean to be mean or anything but WHY THE HECK DID YOU DO THAT? THAT WAS PRETTY STUPID! You will always get caught in the end unless you kill your self. It would probably be best if you turn yourself in. I know it will be hard but just do it. Don't end your life like that suicide is not the answer.


okay well my best friend is turning into a big pain. she always says that she's better than me and makes me feel bad and everything. she drinks a lot and has sex and everything she shouldn't be at 15. she always talks about sex and she says im a stink at parties, but she's never been to a party with me. she thinks that im stuck up because im still a virgin. what should i do? please answer. 5's for those serious people (link)
Welcome to peer pressure! I would stop being friends with her. Talk to her and tell her how her actions can affect her like if she has sex with too many people she can can get an STD or aids, or get pregnate. Also if she drinks too much she could die of alcohol poisoning. You are the smart one in this situation. Stay the way you are don't give in to her. I think deep down she is insucre and wants someone to do be able to do those kind of things too. You aren't stuck up at all she is just trying to make you give in to her and tell her that if she keeps this up you aren't going to be friends with her anymore. Trust me it will be worth it in the end.


I cheated on my ex-boyfriend while we were together. I realized I did not love him, and broke it off with him after that. Well, I still loved him very much and he loved me, so one day we decided to hang out as friends. Well, one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. Well, I realized how much of a mistake that was, so I stopped seeing him or talking to him completely.

Now I found out I am pregnant. I am 19 years old and he is 20. My ex-boyfriend is a really good person and I think he'd make a very good father. If our problems weren't enough, here is the biggest issue.

He is foreign. He is staying in the country on a student visa. He will have to leave in 6 months unless we get married. I desperately don't want him to leave. Not for me, but for our future child. The flight to his country and back to visit would be 1200 dollars per trip. Everyone is pressuring us to get married so he can fulfill his fatherly duties and our child could have both parents around. We've research all possible ways he could stay, and it basically comes down to him marrying me.

What should I do? I can't see myself being with this person forever, but I can't see my child only getting to see his father once a year or so. I am seriously thinking about marrying him until he becomes a citizen, and then divorcing. Ugh, it's so frustrating, I don't even want to think about it!!! (link)
Well thats kind of hard to decide on what to do. If he doesn't know that you are pregnate tell him. Also talk to him about the situation and see his perspective on the whole thing. See if he actually would be willing to marry you and if you love each other you should get married. Marrige is about loving someone and wanting to spend the rest of your life with them. Some things are just meant to be and maybe you will find someone else to marry one day and be your child's father.




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