Member Since: January 28, 2013
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So I've had a lot of boyfriends.
but with most of them, I've never done anything like sex or oral.
just kissing or making out.
some of them I didn't do anything.
and yeah. most of them I said yes to because I felt bad saying no :( others, because I actually liked them.
but I would always end my relationships. idk why.
A lot of people say I flirt with EVERY guy I talk to, which is not true.
like to me, I see them as a friend, but people think I'm flirting when I'm really not.
that's my personality. really giggly, funny, chill, likes to make people laugh (boy or girl) always smiling, jokester. you get the picture
so yeah.
I'm a freshmen.
I'm still a virgin & not planning to lose it anytime soon.
I've NEVER even seen you know, a penis in real life.
I've NEVER gotten or gave a hickie(s)
I don't let boys touch me or my butt or boobs or anything.
not even if they're my boyfriend.
but yet, a lot of people in middle school called me a hoe and that I flirt w/ everyone!
so since everyone is saying it, I guess I am.
so how do I stop being a hoe? or stop flirting w/ almost every guy I talk to?
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Hello Lovely!(:
Your only a freshman, you have four years to turn this around! Dont be boy crazy, or your reputation will continue. No one likes the girl who always needs a guy! Your high school years will be miserable because no one wants to hangout with "the chick who cant keep her legs closed" or "the loose one" your name will be irrelevant to others and mean, ungodly things will be what you hear. We need more classy people in this world! Theres nothing wrong with being intimate with your boyfriend especially if you two have been together for a while! That’s natural, but don’t go throwing your cat at every guy that you think is attractive. Its not worth it. If your not a relationship type of person and just want maybe a one time thing that’s cool too, as long as you don’t make a habit of it. Hook up buddies are perfect, because its nothing serious! Its all just fun and its only ONE guy. So that does not make you a whore. Just watch out with what kind of people you talk to about that kind of thing: rumors happen fast and easy!
Basically: let me break it down
Tease: A girl who's all talk no action. Shows it off but never gives it up. Don’t be her shes annoying and no one likes her.
Skank: A step up from a tease, dresses kinda slutty, but has actually had some sexual experience. (not much, but enough to earn her the name)
Slut: A girl who is just plain trashy. Pretty much has a new hook up every weekend. Cleavage/ ass shots on facebook and every other social network
Whore: This is the worst, especially if you have been called this or have heard someone be called this and its not even true. This is a girl with ZERO class. All of the above^^ with the addition of actually sleeping around. Just dirty.
Stay classy and know your boundaries! but it is okay to have a little fun, but not too the point where your classified as any of these.
Sounds like the people your dealing with are pretty judgemental! As long as you have close friends that know whats true, dont worry about what other people think, lifes much easier when you dont care(:
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21/F Sorta long but PLEASE read I need help!
So I was dating this guy for about 5 months (he's 19) and at the beginning it was really fun, I mean A LOT of fun like I've never had someone who I can just talk to about anything and everything and be able to laugh so much with. Anyway, once I told him I liked him it kind of went down hill from there.
He started showing his insecure side he would say things like "how can you like me I'm a loser and I'm not going anywhere with my life" and I just let it go because he really was such a nice guy and I loved talking to him.
So we became official about a month after talking and the neediness subsided, at least so I thought. We talked all the time I mean all the time if I didn't text him within 10 minutes he would text or call me again. I guess I didn't really think much of it until the "honeymoon" phase ended for me and I was like dude I DON'T have to be texting you alllll day leave something for the imagination. I guess it doesn't help that I'm very very independent. I LOVE long distance relationships because i love my own space. I can't stand having a guy all over me all the time.
Well I eventually broke up with him because I couldn't take the "Do you love me? What do you love most? Do you see us getting married? Come lay with me. Come cuddle with me. I need you. You are the only thing I have going for me. If it wasn't for you I don't know what I'd do"
I told him we just need to be friends (we tried but he kept asking me why I didn't want to be with him like everyday so I told him we can't be friends anymore) But now he won't stop texting/calling me. Am I a bad person because I really really really don't miss him like at all. I miss laughing and joking but that's it. What do I say to let him down gently and to get him to just back off already!!! Him doing this is not making me want him but just making me glad that I broke it off.
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He's a cling on. dont feel like a bad person, that was a smart move! Honestly you can't be gentle with a guy like that because he wont get the memo. Just tell him you just aren't interested in him in that way and that if he wants to keep calling and texting you, you'll change your number or go to the police with a restraining order! You've got to show him your serious, you can do it!
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Hi,
My husband talk to her ex finance(also married), and I am totally fine with that, but he writes following things, i want to know , should I be worried?
-“hey gorgeous, how you doing? “then caries on with normal conversation.
-“good night gorgeous”
-She was sad for some reason and we live in different countries , so he wrote – “God loves when u smile. lot of people in far corners of the world feel better wen u do and post such pics online”
-“btw was watching some of your other pics ... you are a star babe ... really ... ssssuperstarrrrr”
Btw, if you are wondering how I got this, I accidently bumped into his FB message.. honest to god!
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Hello! My mother has a husband who cheated on her 3 years ago. And honestly, yes. I would worry. I would confront him about it. If he gets defensive, theres something going on. but if he is casual about it he obviously doesn't see anything wrong with it. He should be calling YOU those things not flirting with his ex. let him know your not comfortable with it and go from there!
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I’m a sophomore in a huge college and I'm having a really hard time. My best friend since middle school, who’s also my roommate, has changed so much that it’s clear we probably won’t hang out at all after this semester, the only guy I’ve ever had any sort of intimate relation with just withdrew and I’ll never see him again, and my only other friend is dropping out after this semester. It's hard right now, but I can't imagine what it'll be like next year when I literally don't have anyone. I’m really shy and awkward and I have really low confidence, and even in high school seeing the same people every day in school, it was hard for me to make friends. I feel like I have nobody to talk to. Recently I’ve realized that crying in my room every night was only going to make me more sad, so I went to the activities fair and plan on maybe joining this one club, even though the thought of that terrifies me and I'm not sure how much it'll even help. I still think about how with my personality, the chances of me finding a friend group to fit into (as a sophomore, when people have already established their groups and no one really cares about making new friends) are very low. I've been trying to distract myself so I'm not so sad, but you can only keep yourself busy for so long, especially when you don't have anyone to keep you company.
I know it's a lot but I guess I'm asking:
- How do I make friends in college, as a painfully shy sophomore? I never know what to say in conversations.
- Even if I do find a "friend" in class or in a club, like someone I make small talk with every once in a while, how do I turn that into a real friendship without seeming pushy or desperate?
- General tips on being more confident, more outgoing, stopping the sadness when you start to feel it coming, etc.?
- Comforting words just to make me feel better? (:
Sorry it's so long but thanks so much for reading and/or responding. (link)
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Just be yourself! say hi, tell them what your future plans are, ask them about themselves, dont get creepy, but keep it simple. before you know it you'll have tons of new friends! Getting close friends has to come natural. it comes from hanging out alot, maybe having classes together. grab some lunch, have some beers! i garuntee that half your college is just as shy as you! no worries you'll be just fine! need more help please ask(:
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I am really stressed out and a lot of people always come to me for advice and help with their problems, I never minded before but lately I've been down. It's been 3 days &I can't seem to leave my house, I only go to the bathroom drink a bit of water then go back to sleep. I stopped talking to my closest friend who I have had strong feelings for, for 3 years after I was rejected. I ignore my family's calls my fish died the other day from neglect I feel worse for that too. I'm ready to shutdown and give up. I need help. I haven't gone to work or called in I don't even know if I'll make it the rest of the week. I hate myself. I can't talk to anyone close to me, they tell me I'm being overly dramatic and baby, for me to grow up. Then they presume to talk about their problems or themselves.
I want to give up (link)
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I'm so sorry you feel this way. I can help because I was there once too. Alone, sad and just desperate for someone to care. Some people just don't take it seriously and it sounds to me like the people you talked to are selfish and only care about themselves. You are a great person and simply need to meet new people! Not for a intimate relationship, but for friends, you need caring friends who will listen and help. Harming yourself will not solve anything. Please, i beg you dont take your life. there are so many things to live for. as simple as a beautiful sunset. You already have a friend who cares. me!
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