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so i have this friend, he's cool. i have this huge crush on him since i've gotten to know him a lot better now. but he always says certain things to make me feel like he feels the same way. but then other times he's just like w/e. i don't know what he's trying to do.

for example, the other day he went to chinatown and i texted him have fun, he writes back: can't ur not here :'(
what does that mean??
and other times its just like chill, so i don't know what he's doing.

Okay, from what it sounds.. i think he likes you. Guys do that sometimes, they're not always in the mood for the lovey dovey kinda stuff. Either that or, sometimes when guys are around their friends they tend to pretend like the dont care that much, when deep inside they really do. If you become bf/gf with this guy, don't let him do that to you, because you deserve better than that. But the whole china town thing is a HUGE hintt! ;) he definitely likes you.

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hey there i was wondering if anyone could recomend some good sad songs, preferably hip hop, but i listen to anything if it's good. Thanks in advance.

Justin Timberlake- Goes around comes around
Chris Brown- With You
One Republic- Apologize
Hope I helped.. lol sorry its just kinda hard to find hip hop sad songs but well i tried my best :)

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Hello,
well i was being all show over in my cheerleading class and well yeah i can hti my splits fast and well when i went down i think i pulled something right under my butt. bc i felt a pulling watery feelings righ under my butt and i was like oh sh*t lol excuse my language and yeah i was trying to ingore the feeling get on with the parade dance and well it was killer and no im in my other class and well im sititng down ad it hurts to pick up my leg should i go cheer at the basket ball game?
well i was wondering what work out do you know on how to make a my under part of my butt more toned bc i dont want to be all showing my butt wiht "frumple". some excersies that dont take up alot of time bc i have to much wokr on my hands :\ -MissCheerGirl0811

K, well I'm a cheerleader, too so I know some great workouts to tone up- or should i say down- there. lol. Idk if you should cheer at the game, though. If you feel like a tight cramp in that area, you probably pulled a muscle. I would say just relax for the day and eat lots of pottasium. (like bananas) If you're feeling up to it and you want to try a workout, go ahead. I have a great one listed below.
A great workout to really work on your toe touches, toning up the upper part of your legs, and your butt is okay: You sit against a wall, with your back against it, and put one hand behind your butt flat on the ground and the other one like near the crotch area flat on the ground also, palms facing down. Then lift your right leg first, about two inches off the ground, and make ten small circles with your leg, toes pointed. Next, try the left leg, same thing. Once you get really good (believe me, its tricky at first) try them both at once. After doing these once a day, you'll see amazing results.

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i changed schools in the middle of this yr and its a super small school. i really like my friends but they are very judgemental and all have money. i have no problems with them and like them a lot but my bf is not that attractive generally and doesnt have much monay at all. i want to bring him to the dance in a month or so but im afraid my friends will judge him. im seriously not trying to be stuck up or anything but i dont want them saying something mean...i hope you understand and please im def. bringing him to Prom and this is only Sadie's but its the only other dance and i want him to so...idk thanx so much! :]

Okay, I see what's wrong. Well, personally i think that if you really truly like him you'll bring him to the dance and just don't care what anyone has to say about it. If you really feel like you don't want to show your friends this guy, maybe it's time for you to find a new bf.

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since spring is just around the corner, i really wanted to get a cute rain coat (not like an llbean coat like my mom suggested, haha). the problem is, i can't find any for teens! i just wanted a trench coat that looks kind of like a peacoat-except it needs to be waterproof, obviously. does anyone know where to find one?
websites would be very helpful. price isn't a big issue as long as it's under like, 100 dollars.

thanks!!

Okay, I know your limit is $100 but I can not resist. This coats so cute I want to buy it!
http://expressfashion.com/products.jsp?category=Her&groupid=22

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I am in shape, I guess. I am 5 foot 4 and weigh between 110 and 116, but I'm not muscular at all. I am the pear shape. I am VERY skinny on top and got a small rack (which I love). ;) My lower stomach, butt and thighs are a lot fuller.

I do a few exercises everyday (bicep curls, pushups, situps, squats, etc.), but how can I tone up the top inside area of my thighs, near the crotch I guess, and the lower part of my butt?
It seems that squats and such are for the thighs, but not that part of it. And these excercises for butt muscles never show any difference, and are very awkward to do. I want my booty all toned up with a clean shape, not pudgy.(?)

I'm fine with my more feminine hips but I definitely don't like excess fat around my butt and top of my thighs. ;)

Okay, well yes it does sound like you're in shape, yet you choose to form some muscle. Well, the BEST way that I've found to lose some extra fat and gain some extra muscle is just flat out running. I know it sounds rough, boring, etc. But boy are there quick results. You don't have to that much, though. You just have to do it at least 3 times a week and be consistent. This requires a lot of endurance. Just start with a couple blocks in your neighborhood and slowly work your way up to a mile. I particularly HATE running (lol) but i just plug in my iPod and go! If you absolutely positively can't STAND it, pick a sport that has running in it. I don't like running because i need something to do with my hands or just SOMETHING to make me more excited and less frustrated. I love basketball so much, and with your height, you could be a good point guard or something. Lacrosse, and swimming are great, too. Any further questions just post them again and I'll answer them as soon as i can.

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I have a guy friend, let's call him Joe. Joe and me talk quite frequently, and we just started this thing where we walk to class together sometimes. I want to know how to flirt without going overboard. Keep in mind that I'm not going to change myself to match his interests, and I know the whole speech about being myself. I just need some simple, foolproof tips that he can pick up on. He's very shy, and isn't one of those guys that flirts with every girl.

We already talk between passing period in the hall, but today, I was walking to Art, and he actually went out of his way to walk with me. :) Also, I'm not asking to be his girlfriend [although it would be nice], I just want to get 'closer' to him.

Sounds like you're doing a great job to becoming great friends! I think it's a great thing that you want to get to know him more. I see where you're coming from with the whole flirting thing. If i were you, I would ease my way into the flirting. After talking to him more and more, you'll both continue to get to know one another more and thats obviously a pretty good start to any relationship. Now for the advice on easing in with the flirting... I think that just by smiling at him would be a good way to warm up the friendship bar. Have a good sense of humor. Stubborn in a girl is a major turn off. Laugh at his jokes (even if they're stupid) but don't over do it. HOWEVER, since he's a shy dude, triple check to make sure he's really comfortable with you before you make any serious moves that could improve or destroy a relationship. A good way to start is by talking to each other alone, not with your cliques around you. Another major turn off, besides being stubborn, is talking about how hot other guys are. It makes him feel unimportant and unappreciated. Try not to be too bossy. And, I know you've said you know all the be yourself crud, but like if you're too much of a tomboy all he'll really think of you is a friend.

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