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i have a friend in another town, and i really cherished her as a friend because she didn't know anyone from my school and i could always say whatever i wanted and not have to worry about her biased opinion.
however, for the last few months, one of my good guyfriends (who used to have a crush on me) got really close with her and would often ask her for advice regarding his situation with me. even after he stopped liking me, he continued talking to her very, very frequently.
i am not jealous that he talks to her so much, but it really bothers me how close they are. my guyfriend often says things like, "oh yeah ______ is doing this" and i'll think, i don't remember her telling me that. why is she not telling ME?!
i have tried talking to my female friend about it, and she admitted that she felt awkward about the whole situation (there was a time period that he got a girlfriend and i stopped talking to him cause i thought he didn't want to be my friend anymore, and even through that, my friend and my guyfriend continued to stay close), but she won't stop being so close.
i hate controlling her friends; that is not my intention. i just wish she wasn't so close with him because it's very awkward for me, especially, since i really cherished her as a friend BECAUSE of the fact that she was not friends with him.
i don't want to be a bitch about it. and how am i supposed to go about solving this situation? it would come off as, "stop talking to him." i know that is, initially, what i want, but i don't want to do that to her because she does like him as a friend.
do you think i should try talking to her again or just try to forget about the whole situation? do you understand my dilemma? any suggestions?
i really really really like both as friends, just. not together. i know that some people might say "well it's better than having them both hate each other!" but i'd actually prefer that. (link)
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HI.
My advice for you at this point is that you should just tell your friend. Just tell her you feel uncomfortable in that situation that she's putting you in and if she's really your friend she'll stop.
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I have been with this guy for five yrs now and we have a son who will be three soon.There are many things about him that have just changed in the past four years and I'm only with him now for our son.I know I love him because he is my sons father and for the time we have been together but I'm just not in love with him. he has disappointed me so much.All the promises he made...he didn't accomplish not even one. He doesn't give me enough attention or time and he's just all about himself and not even since he has no car now and a sucky job so he isn't doing anything for himself anyways the list goes on and on....i have tried leaving him plenty of times but he just won't accept it even before I got pregnant and now it doesn't feel right trying to leave the father of my son. it doesn't feel right trying to look at anyone other than him for comfort but what should I do if I'm not happy by his side anymore? should I just keep sucking it up for my sons sake or try to move on and try to find love and happiness?? would that be selfish on my part? this is something that just kills me. I'm so confused and have mixed emotions because I also feel like it would be hard starting another relatinship now that I have a son, many guys don't want anuthing serious with women that already have children. and I want to get married and not have to date around...I'm 23 he is 26.please I would love to get some different opinions and just weigh out my pros and cons to conclude this dilema. thamks to all who respond. (link)
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Hi i'm Michelle, I think you should take your son and leave him. If he doesn't treat you like you want to be treated there's no reason you should stay with him. And if he all about himself you've got to let him know that you don't agree with that. Maybe he'll change if you let him know what he needs to change. I'm sorry your son has to go threw this,
Michelle
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male, 17
how can i tell if a girl likes me? Im really bad with women, but how do I know the difference between her being really friendly vs her wanting to start a relationship. When we first met, she was really quiet ad I had to do most of the talking, but now she talks to me like a friend, and when we are at school sometimes she comes up to me and starts a conversation, and online she messages me about everyday. sometimes we play around in gym class, like we are back in elementary school, outside throwing grass at each other and one time we played duck duck goose. so what i need to know is that if she is being really friendly, or does she like me? (link)
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Well, there's alot to girls. I'm one so i'll help you. She's defenitly being flirty with you. She wants to be more than your friend. You should ask her out. But before you do that make sure a guy didn't just dump her, because when girls get dumped they can start flirting with their guy friends. If you have more questions you can ask piperreid.
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I was with my ex bf for about 2 years opn and off....I was sooo in love wit him...he wasnt the best bf...he was very controlling i couldnt do anything ...I had enough so I broke up wit him....I was happy for a while but now i want him back...How can I still love and want to be wit a guy who treated me bad...I have guys who ask me out who r really nice but I dont know why im so stupid ...i could have a nice guy but instead i want my ex back....what do I do im such a nice girl ....i dont diserve this.... (link)
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I understand have an ex and i'm still in love with him. But if he controls you find a better guy. You can probably find one 4 u. If you have any other questions ask piperreid
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17/F
My mom is always mistreating my dad. You can tell she's discontented, but honestly that is her problem. She chose to marry my dad and he tries his best. He just got over his depression and she is there to pull him out of every good mood that follows. This relationship makes me unhappy and very sympathetic for my dad. I've said so much, but she is immune to anything I say. She refuses to go to family counseling. I'll admit, my family doesn't have any baggage rooting from the past, but there is no point of being in a relationship if you aren't going to appreciate the person. Help...how can I change her outlook? (link)
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Make a list, be polite but explain to your mom everything your dad has been doing for your family. Maybe that will help her appericate him more. If not ask piperreid.
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I know people get sad, its going to happen, but for at least a month, ive been feeling really sad. I thought about cutting myself, and did it once but not too deep, not enough to kill me, but deep enough. And people at school have just been so...mean and guys have been rude and arrogant, and my parents are fighting and may be getting a divorce and my sister verbally abuses me,i've been doing worse in school and idk, im just DONE. How do i get out of this sadness? I just cant have fun or be happy anymore, and what can i do? I need help and dont want to ask my parents for a therapist, and i try to talk to my friends, but gossip makes it too hard in my school, so i just need some advice on how to get happy again! Thanks (link)
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I totally understand with all the abuse going on don't worry, you WILL be okay. STOP cutting yourself all you need is a REALLY good friend or a stuffed animal pour your feelings out. You will feel SO much better. But DON'T try to kill yourself, if you can't do this ask piperreid.
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I have been trying to keep as calm as possible .I think I have a lot of self-control for a person who is so angry. All I want to do is sit in a corner and cry. My mother and I have always, generally, had a very good relationship. She and I have been the best of friends always. But now, it seems as if she is my worst enemy. I am seventeen right now, and I believe that at seventeen, this should not be happening, or at least, start happening. I understand that these types of conflicts happen with parents and teenagers, but I assumed this happened at a younger age, and that I was home free. Usually, by seventeen, I thought things started to get better for teens and their parents. Well, it’s definitely not that way in this case.
My mother is a single mother. I live with her and my grandparents. I am an only child, so I feel as if I am quite suffocated. The only reason I have not gotten my license is because I have not had time. But if I did, I definitely would not be home as much as I am right now. These are not the types of conflicts you are imagining. There is no door-slamming, and constant fighting, throwing things across the room. I think this is partly because I have learned to deal with the beast. I don’t show her I am angry because I don’t want to give her the pleasure. She is jealous of my self-control. This I know for a fact. The calmer I act, the more arguments she tries to have with me. I am not witty, nor am I disrespectful, but she definitely is. I am a teenager right now, and I definitely don’t need a teenage daughter. She is the one who comes up to me looking for an argument, and screams at me for no reason. She gets vases and throws them across the house for no reason at all. She slams doors and curses throughout our home.
Being it that I am a concerned person, I worry for the sake of my grandparents. This is their home, and they were nice enough to let us live here. She has no right to be throwing their ornaments throughout the house and slamming doors. I don’t like to argue with her in front of my grandmother. This is why I try so hard. I really try. I want to avoid arguments with her at all cost because I know it is not my place to act like a spoiled brat at my grandparent’s house. I would get my car and leave to avoid her, but I can’t. I will be able to soon, but until then, I need a way to handle her and her mood swings. She is like this and refuses to do anything about it. Please let me know how I can avoid this. I really depend on her for a lot still. I depend on her to take me to school, to the gym, and everywhere else. So, I can’t cut her out of my life completely. I just need to find a way for her to leave me alone. I spend my time looking at apartments and real estate online, because I can’t wait to leave this house! I don’t know if you would say I am selfish, but I don’t think I am. I think I am just frustrated.
Thank you in advance
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Have u tried talking to her, she probably has something depressing on her mind. I wouldn't worry keep being calm, but before she starts fighting with you ask her what's been going on in her life, there's probably something that's bothering her if not, try to get a car soon -help
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25/f. Dated many guys, here and there. Had 4 serious relationships. Met a guy about four years ago. We have never had a serious relationship, but have been out a few times. He always comes and goes out of my life. I really feel a strong connection to him. He lives about 5 hours from me. (driving) I think that I may like him because he is so far. haha. I would give it a chance, but i feel like he is very distant and doesnt want a relationship with me. However, he is the one who always contacts me. Should i just move on? I know, in my head i should...but my heart feels differently. (link)
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I had the same problem a while back I liked this guy, and he liked me but didn't want to be my boyfriend. Then I got mad at him for liking someone else 2. And now we're not even friends. WE CAN'T STAND EACH OTHER. (Just kidding we still sort of like each other, but yet we don't want to be near one another. So get a friend to ask him out 4 u. If he says yes GREAT. If he doesn't blow him off because if he doesn't like u then he's just missing out on alot. Find another guy if he says no.
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okay this is gonna be really long. okay so ive been dating this guy for a year and a half. but 7 months ago he moved to florida and i live in texas. but he is moving back in late summer. but after he moved i became good friends with one of his friends. he is very nice and sweet and i like him. i have also heard from some of his friends that he likes me. part of me feels it is because my boyfriend is so far and he is here. a couple of weeks ago my boyfriend told his ex that he still liked her and she told me this happened. he told me it was because he thought about her but he knew he didnt like her and he wanted to stop thinking about her. i truly do love my boyfriend and i plan to be with him a long time. if i told my friend i liked him would i stop like my boyfriend did? or should i just ignore these feelings until my boyfriend comes back? or should i try to be with him? (link)
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Relationships are iffy it's ok, but if you don't like your bf as much as this other guy. You should break up with him and date the other guy. If your boyfriend tells somebody else he likes them and doesn't see what he was, he's stupid, DUMP HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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i call her a dork or tell her to shut up. she then truns around with a look of daring in her eyes and smiles and say "you are just asking to be slapped" she hits me when i joke with her only playfully joking and hitting. she grabs my stuff (cell phone,pen,book ect) while i am using it or holding it. when i do it to her; she gets offended and says "you are going to get it." we play around like we are kids. but the way she plays with me always have some kind of shining glare in her eyes as she smiles at me. we are best friends and girls. i am bi and like her but she not interested so i moved on but the way she plays around with me feels like flirting. if she is, why does she flirt with me?
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That was weird i'm sorry.
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me and my friend both have a crush in the same person what do we do -irratated (link)
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You both stop liking him that can only lead to trouble. -Help
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