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okay so , ever since the beginning of school there was this guy that I liked, Rob. Hes really cute and everything, hes a freshman and im a sophomore. Well. I never did anything about it because well, Rob seemed as if he were out of my league. and he never paid attention to me. Well I know his mom because his mom works at the school and i have 2 classes with her. So what happens is, last week. I go to lunch and my friend has bible study with robs mom....my friend told me that Robs mom said that Rob has been trying to talk to me for the longest time and everytime he gets a chance,I walk away by accident...So I didnt believe it at first, but then my friend goes, and she works at a resturaunt, and Rob went to the resturaunt alone...So since he went alone, my friend had a waitress friend of hers go talk to him so she goes up to him and askes "Do you know a girl named Kelly" and he goes "Yeah" and she goes" Do you think shes hot" and he goes " I think shes pretty, shes not ugly" and she asked a bunch of questions...so it ended up that he was supposed to talk to me the next day at lunch, I knew he wasnt going to , so my friend was like * FINE im gonna go talk to him* and im like * FINE i dare you* i didnt think she would...but she did...and i dont know WHAT she said, but i deicided to try to be unnoticable, but she pointed right at me when i was sitting on the cafeteria floor... well i got home, and i asked my this friend of mine Justin, who also knows Rob...for Robs sn...he gives it to me, and i told him to keep it all on the downlow that i asked for it...then he goes "lol do you know who he likes" and I was like " no who" and he goes " I donno 0:)* and he puts the angel face, and everytime i asked him ... he put the angel face. WELL then I go onto my myspace, and i see that Rob commented on my page and he says "Heyy this is Rob. Whats up? Oh, and your friend, really did ask me those questions just so you know...oh can i have your sn if you have one, comment back on my page and give it to me byee* and so i was like * woooowwww he asked for my screen name* but yeah, then i talked to him twice already online...and hes extremley nice, and well the second time i talked to him , we were talking about Napoleon Dynamite, and randomley he goes * so are you going to the dance* and the dance is on the 26th...and i was like * neh , who knows, I dont really wanna go if i dont have anyone to go with you know? If not, then im just plannin on going to the movies that night or something who knows :-)* and i was like what about you? and he goes * idk i might not sure yet* and so i was like * ooo cool* and then i told him that i saw him at the other dance with his ex, and he tells me how much he hates his ex now and he asked me if i had any x's and i go * nope* and he goes * oh you dont? Im sorry* and im like * nah its fine, ive had my chances blah blah blah * and then he goes * so im guessing youve never done anything with a guy...or have you* and i go * nah i havnt lol, id rather have a guy who likes me for who i am, rather than for what i do* and he says * good choice* and then he had to leave, but, yeah, me and him dont talk at school i guess its cuz were shy , but i mean... why would his mom say * hes been trying to talk to her for a while* you know? I dont know, do you think hes interested in me...do you thimk he likes me? or what....OH and I asked Justin if Rob liked a freshman and he said * yeah he likes a freshman girl* so me being a sophomore..its not me...and then Rob goes and tells me that Justin is dumb and that I shouldnt talk to him and i asked if he lies and he said * ummmmm yeahh* and i go *even when it comes to keeping friends secrets?* and he goes * yup* and so I dont know...what do you think?! HELP!!!

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its preety obvious that he likes you and that this justin guy is trying his best to keep his friends secret...isnt that super obvious

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hey im a girl and im bout to be 15..i feel like i *need* a boyfriend but i cant find any guy that i would want as one...every time i start "talkin" (thats what we call it here..it means that were both likin each other and we konw that we like each other but he hasnt asked me out yet hah) idk what happens...we talk for a lil bit but every time i like totally ditch him and i dont know why..i mean i want a boyfriend but im havin trouble gettin one in a way..i mean im scared im gonna get the reputation as a hoe or somethin bc everytime i end it with someone theres always a *back-up* i guess you could say bc a day or 2 later i have another guy..what is wrong with me? should i just leave the guys alone and be single for a while? is this jus a phase? do you think a lot of gurls go thru this?..

hey man!! theres nothing wrong with you
all u need to do is find a person who is perfect for you instead of "talkin" and "ditching"
dont go from one guy to another choose and make your decision wisely .....dont jus start a "talk"
and bang end it .....and you should just be single for now ..its the wisest thing to do ....it is a phase and yuo will soon get over it

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i am in two classes that has people that make fun of me so should i just ask my mom to talk to the principal so they can put me in a new classes? or should i stay there?

lissin find out why they make fun of you an try doing sumthing about it ok
dont let it get to your head be cool with it..eventually they will stop seeing that they are going nowhere and your not affected by it ....but if you do change classes they will have the pleasure of knowng that they succeded .....in making your life hell

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my friend doesn't even know where he wants to go to college. he's a junior in high school and let's just say he's not doing all that well and his GPA is the proof of that. he doesn't seem to care about this school stuff but he's constantly getting stressed out. what should i do to help him in this situation?! or what should happen?!

you should seriosly talk to him...tell him to take this stuff seriously ...cause he has a whole future ahead of him but if he does this he will just spoil it.....and help him in his studies encourage him help him find a good college....
if u really are his friend then you shoulld do everything you can to make him be good in studies(not super good) and think about his future...
but all the same have fun..hope i could help

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Hi...um i like this one guy and i think he likes me, but everytime i get one of my friends to ask him if he likes me, he says that he doesn't. He always is staring @ me in the halway and he smiles @ me and stuff! he's really cute and really nice and i really like him! HELP! i rate high!

14/f

hey.
he maybe likes you but too shy to express it ...especially to your friends
what you should do is go up to him and ask him yourself but if you dont have the guts to(which is perfectly ok) then you should probably try being his friend then maybe after sometime he will express it .......

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I'm fourteen and I hang around in a group of five girls. Let's call them Sam, Lisa, Hannah and Natalie. Individually, they're all fine, but when we're in a group then Sam, Lisa and Hannah turn totally bitchy to Natalie and I.
Natalie agrees with me about this but she won't stop hanging around with them as she's scared of what they'd do.
I'm not strong enough to leave my group of friends completely and although I have told other people about this, none seem to offer useful advice.
I'm finding myself being jealous of everyone else because they have better friends than I do.
Please help.

ok.. so lissin you have got to stick up for your self ..dont be dependant on them if they reallyy are that bitchy go have got to leave this group totally... if they try humilieating you and natalie then actr as if u havent heard a thing be cool dont blow watevar you do.give them the "talk to the hand cuz the face aint lissining" attitude....eventually they will give up....
and about natalie talk to her and tell her its not rite to just stand their bitchiness tell her that she has a choice she jus has to stand sum humiliation and after that she never has to stand the bitchiness ever again .....
ask her which is bettter standing bitchinessfor like a life time or standing humiliation for a short perriod and be free from the bitchiness FOREVER??...........
and dont be jealouse its better having ONE good friend rather than having a thousand BITCHY freinds.....hope i cud help

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several years ago, I was best friends with this girl , we were each others confidant, and could tell anything to each other. The rest of the crowd really didn't matter if we were together. It was after a year of knowing her that I realized that I was absolutely in love with her. I didn't do anything at that point because I was in the middle of applying for school.

It's been a couple of years now, and I'm still in love with her. She went off to college in another state, and our lives have gone off in different directions. Her life has changed (she's popular, beautiful etc. which she wasn't in high school), so i don't talk to her anymore, but I still can't get her out of my mind. I haven't been able to date or even be interested in another girl- because I know that she was the one for me. We both graduate next year, and I'm wondering if I should just lay it all on the line, and offer her my heart. WHat do you think? I rate well. -LloydDobbler-

P.S. This is a really complicated story and if you want to help me beyond this, i'd appreciate it.

lissin you were really close friends rite?.
so why dont u go ahead and find her # and call her. if you two were really goods friends ,like u said then i think she would be quite happy to hear from you ...sure she is popular but i am sure her personality is still the same ,
if you go ahead and talk to her and tell her how you feel and she feels he same way ...then alls well...but if she doesnt... i know you will feel beeter just knowing that you told her your feelings.
just dont back away from telling her cause you will soo regret it FOREVER

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