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well i have a question. =] (obviously)
i am usually 99-100 lbs. I like seriously think of being anorexic, but i'm sort of scared. I want to be skinnier and excercise and all that, but i don't want to like kill myself in the process. I am like obsessed over this. I always think about not eating or counting calories or even purging.
is this something to be concerned about? (link)
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Oh honey, trust me, you do not want to go anywhere near anorexia. In fact, you should probably seek help with a nutritional expert or a doctor because you need to avoid putting your health in danger at all costs. If you want to be skinnier, exercise. Don't not eat as that can actually make you put on wait and is very very unhealthy for you. Counting calories might be good, but don't set yourself a limit below the recommended for your age and height. Purging? No! If you exercise, you will become healthy and slim, and that is much more attractive than being a sack of bones. If you start getting tempted toward becoming anorexic please please please talk to a professional. Thanks :)
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my boyfriend is most likely going to finger me any day now, weve been talking about it. but im so nervous! ive never been fingerd before! i mean, how much should i shave "down there"? to the point where its completely hair free? and how do you make it so it smells good lol, cuz i always here guys talking about how they fingerd a girl and it smelled horrible. any advice? (link)
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Well firstly, you need to make sure that you're comfortable with him doing this to you. I don't think you need to worry at all; if your boyfriend is caring and loving (as I'm sure he is) he'll be concentrating on making you feel good. It's not "required" to shave/wax it all off or even at all, however if you're worried about the aesthetics, you can shave or trim your hair. If you have good hygiene, you shouldn't smell bad, but I hear that pineapple juice can improve the smell and taste. He shouldn't complaining about the smell or the hair at all! Good luck and enjoy yourself
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OK- here's my story:
I am blessed to have the greatest job in the world. My grandfather was an acclaimed prof. photographer- the best man I've ever known. He passed away, that was the worst pain I've ever felt. I salvaged my life (from partying & getting into trouble- I'm now only 21) and decided to follow in his footsteps. I work for an amazing portrait studio, where all of my dreams are coming true. I've worked here for almost 4 years now. It all started when I began taking photography classes that were given by the owner & chief, master photographer & CEO. (This company has 4 seperate locations, it's kind of a big deal, the most prominant & well known studio in the state, can you tell that I feel important to be a part of it much? lol) Well, now that I think about it, it started when I had been here for maybe 2 years. The owner would make little comments here & there, I ate it up though, I loved the attention. He's 62 years old & I admire him in the same respect that I admire my grandfather- there's only two people I hold in that light, him & my grandfather. I called a psychic when I was struggling & the psychic told me that my grandfather wanted me to know that there's someone in my career around the same age as him that is my guiding light, & for me to go to him when I wanted to give up. This was a sign I thought for sure, so I told the owner about it, & he proceeded to tell me how much he cared about me, & he was making it his duty to see me succeed. So now, after photo class one night he calls me into his office. We chat about life for a minute (he decides to tell me how unhappy he is in his marriage, & I proceed to do the same & complain about my engagement- yes- that's the kicker- I'm engaged!) He tells me he wants me to model for him semi-topless, & he tells me he doesn't trust himself because he is extremely attracted to me, & tells me to stop him if he makes me uncomfortable. So I agree (I know, I know, but I've always liked way older men & the thought of turning him on, turned me on I can't lie.) So the next week I go to class knowing what's going on after hours. Everyone leaves, we start the shoot- he makes the move & I took it, hook line & sinker- kissing nothing else. That was a confusing time for me, sorting out exactly how I felt (Is it because I admire & respect him so much? Why am I so turned on by this?) So things snowballed & we both have fallen in love with each other- I can't lie- I am 21 years old, in love with the 62 year old owner of the company! He sees me for who I am, he makes me feel so special & he says things to me that I have been waiting to hear all of my life & he means them. He is a wonderful man who sees the drive in me, & he is pushing me to better myself, & making it his own business to see me succeed. He has told me more than once if I ever wanted it to end he'd be upset but he would never treat me different, he feels selfish because he is so much older than me & knows I deserve better, he just hopes I find someone that treats me better than my fiance. Here's the kicker- I just moved to another one of his studios- the one ran by his son. His son is 32, attractive, charismatic & we get along really well. From the moment I came here I had feelings for him. (I came here before the affair started) When the owner kissed me that's the first thing I thought of, what would his son think? And I've been battling myself as to whether or not I should've told him from the start that I had feelings for his son. I know he see's the chemistry between us, everyone does. His son has a girlfriend but flirts with me nonstop, & the owner has told me he's had dreams that me & his son end up together. He's also said "I hope Jason (his son) finds someone better than his girlfriend, but I hope it's not you." So I know he has some apprehensions about this. Jason & I are also both unhappy in our relationships- & he is realistically someone I could see myself being with, for one he's much closer in age. Like I said, I've had feelings for him before the affair started with his father. Oh here's something really exciting I can't leave out: The owner & I are in his office one day after hours, getting busy if you know what I mean. The doors are locked & we're going at it.....the door downstairs slams! We scramble to put our clothes on- there's a knock at the door- the owner stutters "just a second!" opens the door- it's jason! Unreal right? I'm hoping he won't be suspicious. Of cousre the next time me & him are alone he starts making wise cracks about the door being locked & so on- we always joke inappropriatley with each other so I acted like he was crazy & told him he just wished I was in his office with the door locked lol So....what do I do? Do I tell his father how I feel? Am I crazy for being in this love triangle? I would really love an outsiders opinion on my whole situation here....even my mother is at a loss for words- I mean I can't blame her this is kind of crazy. Please help Thers's so much more I could tell but I think you get the basic idea. Ugh- help please- this is mentally draining! (link)
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Wow.
Firstly, I want you to know that you should not feel wrong or guilty or disgusting in any way for having feelings for the owner and vice versa. What you really have to deal with here is the affair. You're engaged, he's married, you like his son too... I'd advise you to break off your engagement. It can't end well if you're doing things like this. And this could also ruin the owner's life if his wife found out, and possibly your future. Speaking logically of course, I'd advise you to break things off with the owner, but gently, and hopefully he'll continue to support you and your future looks bright. As for Jason, I don't advise looking to be with him, as it may cause things between you and his father to be bitter and if he finds out about it...
Of course, this is all head-talk. If your heart wants either of these men, follow it, but please try not to hurt anybody, including yourself, and your future.
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My boyfriend and I have been talking about having sex. We have had sex before, but he thinks it would be cool if we try something new. Like having sex with one more person. He wants a girl obviously. I wouldn't mind cus i'm bi. But should we or not? will this hurt our relationship? (link)
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Lots of relationships have been ruined by threesomes, but lots of people have found them to be an enjoyable and fun way of mixing things up. The main reasons it hurts someone's relationship is because the girl is only doing it to make the guy happy or vice versa, the girl has jealousy issues, the guy isn't happy with just the girl, or the extra person likes one person more than the other.
You need to have a proper and long conversation about this, and need to talk about these things:
1. *Why* he wants it. To spice things up? Because it would just be more fun? To try it out and experiment? Because he'd enjoy seeing you with another girl? Or... because he's not satisfied with you? because he just wants 2 girls for himself?
2. Why you want it. The questions above, but modified obviously.
3. *What* he wants. How far does he want to go with this girl? How far do you want to go? How far will you go with each other?
4. What *you* want out of it. Again, same for you.
Before you actually do it, here's a checklist:
* All 3 people treating each other equally. No concentrating on just one person for all of it. Maybe no penetration, as it tends to leave one person out, unless you're doing something in a circle (eg person a penetrates person b, person b does oral on person c, person c does oral on person a)
* Talk about it before hand with the other girl and identify your limits.
* The girl should be bi too, obviously, and preferably someone you don't know too well, who either has a crush on both of you or won't favour one over the other.
* You *and* your boy both have to like the girl. It's no good if she's just good for one of you.
This shouldn't be just an offhand thing, this should be something you should think about a lot, but if you do, it can be very fun and rewarding. Good luck :)
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The other day my friend and I were going through a album of all of our friends. We were talking about how much we missed our friends. I was having so much fun with her. Then she leaned in. I thought she was going to tell me a secret, but instead she kissed me. I'm a girl too. I was stunned. I just got out of a relationship with a guy 2 weeks ago. I have never been into girls, but when she kissed me it seemed...right. I just looked at her in shock. She didn't say anything. She got her stuff really quick and left. We have been friends since 7th grade and now we're sophmores. She called me that night and apologized. She told me she had a crush on me for a long time, but never knew how to tell me. I told her to come over (because she was histarically bawling). When she got here she kissed me again. I didn't pull away, but I'm still not sure what to think of it. I like her, but I don't think I'm bi or lesbain. The only thing is is that when she kisses me I do feel something. Which scares me. What should I do? Should I give it a shot? or tell her I can't do this. I'm so confused (link)
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Ok. Well first of all, you have to decide (ignoring all bi/lesbian labels) if you really do feel something for her. It sounds like you do, and that's awesome, don't be scared, because two people who feel something for each other being prepared to be together is a great thing. It doesn't matter if youre bisexual or a lesbian, but if there's even the smallest spark, it might be a good idea to experiment, just so you don't miss out on what could be something amazing.
Try not to be too scared by this. Go with the flow, relax, and don't worry if it's normal or not. Talk to her, once you decide if you'll give it a go or not (I think you should) and tell her you just want to try it out and that you're not sure but you might feel something for her (or whatever is the truth.) If you try it and it works out, awesome. If not, it's not your fault - don't feel bad about ruining a friendship, because she instigated it.
Good luck. I'm interested to know how it goes :)
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I really like this guy. I am pretty sure he likes me too. We always flirt with each other... and it seems like both of us go out of our way just to run into each other at school. He is always picking on me in a good natured way and we always have fun together. ... problem? he has a girlfriend that goes to a different school :( ... What is the appropriate thing to do in this situation. I know he has a girlfriend, and I should stay away... But I really LIKELIKELIKE this guy... Like if he gave me a chance I know I would fall like head over heals in love with him. i can tell he likes me too... ... but ugh I guess what would you do in my situation?? (link)
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Think: is he *really* flirting back? If he has a girlfriend, maybe he's not, or maybe he's just one of those people who flirts with everyone. If you suspect there might be something there which means he'd be with you, it's your call, you can...
1. Carry on and go for it. He might leave this girl for you, and then you'd be all happy together and stuff. But consider - might he do the same to you? Leave you for another girl? His faithfullness might be an issue. Or, he might reject your advances and it would ruin your friendship and get you an enemy somewhere at another school.
2. Leave it be, at least until he's single again. This way is more frustrating and has no guarantee of happiness, but then again, neither does the other option. If he really does like you and would prefer to be with you than his girlfriend, he'll leave his girlfriend in good time.
Personally I'd leave it be, but based on how he treats you and how his relationship with this other girl is, going for it may well be the right thing to do.
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after i masturbate or have sex and the sperm comes out and everything like later on little pieces of sperm will just come out and like ill have wet spots in my boxers.its uncomfortable and annoying.is that normal.if it is how do i stop the after dribbling?i cant even feel it come out (link)
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from here: http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/askthesiteqandas/sexualhealthqandas/postcum
It's normal for the penis to leak some excess semen after ejaculation. If this has only started to happen recently you might want to speak to someone who is medically trained to make sure everything is OK.
It sounds annoying but there's really nothing you can do apart from keep a piece of tissue in the front of your boxers or something XD
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ok i really want to tease my boyfriend and act all sexy and get him really turned on and excited. we both agreed no sex we dont even want to go to 3rd. actually we havent gone to 2nd but gotten reeeally close. we have had dry sex though. the last time we hung out we had dry sex a couple times and made out A LOT and he put his hands up my shirt right under my bra and kept asking to take my shirt off but i said no. he was really turned on tho and even had really red cheeks! so to make him happy and get him excited i want some more ideas for that. he knows we arent gonne go to 3rd or have sex so im not like being mean or anything. he likes it when i do sexy things. also i dont feel comfortable doing like a stripped dance for him or rubbing him 'down there' but i am cool with some sort of game if anyone has one. thanks so much and i will rate!! :] (link)
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You could try and take 'control' of him, some guys like that a lot, hold his hands out of the way, pin him down, don't let him touch you, whisper things in his ear, lean forward to kiss him and then pull away. There are many ways of teasing, including maybe eating food sexily, or dancing - not a lap dance, but just music with a slow beat, that lets you move up against him.
The main points are:
1. Keep things slow. Sometimes even painfully slow, so he wants more.
2. Don't always give him what he wants. Make him wait for it, then he'll enjoy it even more.
3. Keep him guessing. You don't have to go anywhere past 1st, but maybe hint at doing more, make it so he doesn't know where you'll put your hands next, and then his imagination will go wild.
As for games, you could use food items like honey/cream/chocolate and lick/kiss it off each other, although that might be slightly further than you wanted to go.
Good luck, hope I helped :)
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well im 13 old and a female and i have this amazing boyfriend who is 14. the relationship is fine and everything except there's one problem. his ex girlfriend still wants him back. she's determined to get him back. she even told his sister that she's going to marry her brother ( my boyfriend) she keeps saying that she loves my boyfriend more than i too. and she's leaving messages saying that someone else is was telling my boyfriend all these things and that kathy( the ex) isnt real. but i know she is. what can i do to stop her please help (link)
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You need to talk to him about it and let him know she bothers you, and try and get him to tell her firmly but kindly to back off, for your good and hers. Don't feel threatened by her, obviously she's a little bit crazy. If you're close to his sister, you could try and get her to persuade the ex that no, she actually isn't going to marry your boyfriend. Good luck :)
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I don't understand why, and I dont want to have to consult another adult. But every so often I get extremly depressed and I stop eating for like a day or so and it scares me because what if it gets worse and I stop eating alltogether? I think it has to do with my dancing, because I'm the biggest girl out of all of them and when we get measured and such I am always really embarissed. And I always feel like I'm leftout a bit while I'm dancing but then other days I'm having a blast at dance with everyone. I also play 3 different intruments, sing, and do theatre, french immersion, and a smart people math. Is getting myself into all of this trigging off something? I dont really ever feel stressed but am I actually? Please help! (link)
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This sounds like it might lead to an eating disorder. Firstly, please, don't worry about your weight. Comparing yourself to other people is only harmful. But if you decide that you really do want to lose weight, you might want to take more controlled steps about it rather than stop eating for a day or so, because that might actually cause you to gain weight as your body thinks it is being starved. Because you sound like you do a lot, you might be stressed - I don't suggest giving one of these things up, but perhaps making sure every day you have time to relax and think properly.
If you really are worried it might be time to consult another adult; someone you trust or a medical professional, and if you do stop eating for longer, tell someone because that would be very serious. I hope it doesn't come to that. You sound like a cool person, and I really hope you sort things out. Good luck! :)
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