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Q: How do you tell your friend that her boyfriend is just using her? And how can you tell her, when her boyfriend is your brother?

First off you need to have proof that he is using her, because other wise she'll just think your trying to break them up.

Get your facts straight is first then if you sure he isn't really interested then confront her, this way she won't get hurt.

-LT

Q: so tuesday was my first day of this class. i sit in front of this really cute boy. i dont know his name sadly or anything. and im not the super sketchy stalker type.

but we spent our whole half an hour break in the cafeteria stealing glances at each other and making eye contact, you know the occasional smile. and it wasnt like he just happened to catch me looking at him. he was always looking first.

he just has these friendly eyes and a nice smile. its like he's teh kinda boy you wanna know just by the way his eyes express things to you. sappy i know, maybe even pathetic..

what i'm getting at is, is this common or am i completetly random. to feel connected or to want to know someone just by looking at each other. because he's been on my mind for like almost two days now. how do you go about pursuing someone like in this situation. do i talk to him, or would that be weird. what if im the only one who feels teh connection/wants to get to know you better vibe and he is totally like back off.

im a very shy person by nature. but i'd really like to know more about this boy. he intrigues me and hes attractive to me.

help
!

well there is no natural way to do this, so one day make a motive to sit by him at lunch, introduce yourself and say something like " i've been trying to get the nerve to talk to you for a while, i kind of noticed you, " then if he's intrested he will say he noticed you too, and your new relationship will bloom out from there !!!
GOOD LUCK

-LT

Q: Female,13
Breakin it down:

Guy number 1: Cute, nice, musical, loving, lives close and alwayz wants to hang out, LIKES ME

Guy number 2: Cutish, nice, flirty(in a good way, funny and likes to talk

WHICH ONE??

Number one is older than me
Number two is younger than me

Number one Likes Me
Number two i like him

Ive described the perfect guy before: Cute, Funny, Crazy, Fun, Romantic, Loving, Lives close, Musical, always wants to be with me, and if i chose how he looked it would just be cute curly hair and blue eyes.

Guy number one is the nice one and lives close and plays guitar

Guy number two is the funny, fun to be with guy

One likes me, number two i like him,

Guy number one is excactly how i described the perfect guy in the nice way

Guy number two is excactly how i described the perfect guy in the funny way

number one lives close

number two would be hard to date because it would be another boring middle skewl thang

but i cant ever talk to number one beacause he doesnt like carry on the convo
and it drives me crazy

number two can make me laugh and he gets me

Which one should i lean more towards??
one who i can hang with and he loves me and what not like a perfect love story??

or one who can i can have fun with but not hang out so much because he doesnt live around here

Either way it would be difficult reletionships

NUMBER ONE?!? NUMBER TWO?!?

Okay, slow it down. Take a breath, and STOP anylizing. Love comes from the heart.

If it was up to ME I would pick guy #1 because i like Cute, nice, musical, loving, lives close and alwayz wants to hang out, type of guys.
...
but this is YOU. so keep this questions in mind:
Can I be with someone who doesn't live near me,
or cant carry out a conversation,
or might be a player (guy flirters usually are)

Just do what your heart would do.

Q: if a sophomore girl dates a freshman guy, is that weird?

cause i like this freshman guy and hes 6 months younger than me

so blahh. help?

Age is just a number. Of course an 80 year old dating a freshman would be weird, a sophmore dating one wouldn't be at all.
My parents are 4 years in age difference, and they've bean together over 17 years now!

So go for it, he could be the one. you never know. Message me for more advice if you need it,
LT

Q: this guytold me he liked me and i told him i did too. then over winter break he didn't talk to me at all, then IMed me saying ... "im bored" and i told him i was mad at him and he asked me why, but before i could answer he said, actualy don't. and then said something like, "do i still like you. yes." and then signed off. now i check facebook and hes in a relationship with his ex grildfriend. and her status is ... [his name]

First off this guy isn't right for you, he thinks you'll like him if your jelous. Wrong, you need to tell him " I am not going to wait around for you and I am not going to stand around like some jelous crazed girl while you go run off with your ex.
Then if he admits honestly it was a joke, then go for it, but if he does do something like that again forget about him.

Sorry that's life but guys like him an break your heart! I know message me if you need any further advice.

Q: I am a single divorced parent of four and very attractive. Although I am a 40 female, I often get "carded" or mistaken as my 20 yr old's sister. My delimma is that I have not been blessed regarding relationships whereas someone loves me as much as I love them. I started attending this huge church three years ago. I have always been active in church in another state. On my first visit, which was business related, the pastor, who was single, made a point to introduce himself to me. I brushed it off because I was seeing someone at the time. Recently, my friends who visits from other churches notice how he stares at me during service in a church of over 1500 members per service. I have noticed that he seeks me out and have constant eye contact. I brushed it off as he does it with everyone to engage them. The final thing that made me wonder was the fact that I was leaving the church and wrote him a letter. That Sunday, he stated, "I got your letter.....don't leave me.....I don't know what I would do if you were to leave." I have also "heard rumors" that he has it bad for me and that is why I am catching hell from other females in the church who have a crush on him.

I am beginning to have feelings sub consciencly. I don't know if I've been attracted all the while as was subpressing my feelings or if it is curiousity. The problem is that I think about him all the time. I am in a relationship with a wonderful man, but I don't love him as a significant other, only as a "best friend". He wants more. On the other hand, my pastor is communicating more with me and inviting me to dinner functions that are only suppose to be for church board members or deacons.

My pastor has even appointed me to key positions in the church, which makes me feel awkward because I want to earn positions based on my talent, not becuase of favor.

Although I am thinking of him all the time, I also have butterfiles when he is near and become speechless. I have noticed the same behavior from him. He compliments me every Sunday. This feeling is getting worst and I did not have these feelings at first.

My question is, should I pursue him, although he has never been married and doesn't have any children? How will the church look at our relationship? How do I "ask him out"? How do I truly find out if I am not reading into things? How do I get him off my mind? If we date, how do I save my friendship with two of my best friends who are "madly" in love with him? Please help!

Lonnie44
Atlanta

Stand your grounds and take charge:

Okay girl here it goes... First off you have to let this current "boy friend" of yours know your not ready for comitment! Then if he wants to stay with you cool, but at least he knows where your at. If he leaves you well, who really cared?

NEXT you've GOT to confront your pastor, draw the line tell him how you feel how you like him but you want to earn your way up for you position in the church. But that maybey if he'd like to get a cup of coffee you'd love that.

THEN if he agrees to set a time for your coffee, (date) then go through with it, but on a little black dress, and some make up and be there. IF things go well tell your other boy friend it's over and persue your "love life" with your pastor.

Also ignore the ugly glares from others, they're just jelous, or they don't aprove ( and if they don't aprove who cares you didn't need them anyways)

-lex

Q: this is weird.
but i like the smell of my morning breath haha.
is that weird? does anyone know why?
i also like the taste of it.
but not anyone else's. gross.
hah?

This is embarassing but i used to be the same way! But the key thing to remember is to brush before you make contact with people. Lol

What smells good or taste good to you may not be the same for you bf or gf, lol .

best of wishes

Q: Okay, you know those huge jumbo remotes that they sell?
If I get one, will it work for all tv types? I have a Samsung television.

Is there a certain kind I should get?

Thanks!

I love those, they're awsome!
My granny bought one for me for christmas, and I have a samsung as well. It's worked fantastic for me so far.

But if your conserned just read the back of the package It will tell you.

(don't be fooled the 10$ jumbo remotes at walmart and the dollar store, are JUST as good as the $50 + at any other electronics store)

bio

Hey, I'm lexi but i suppose that's pretty obvious. Well I am Ohio and i am going to a high school over here.
I am constantly and open book to my peers, going through every embarasing moment, to every akward silence with guys, teachers, and of course snoby toothpick wanna be girls.

So I am awsome at giving advice on stuff, exspecially stuff relating over to my life and so mayby one day I will truley help one of you guys :D !!