Member Since: December 22, 2015 Answers: 9 Last Update: March 7, 2017 Visitors: 1114
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HI :) at first please read it all ..i know its long but its really hard for me to explain it all...im girl and im 17 and i know it sound really weird and i dont know how it is possible but i like him (he´s 27). how it is possible that you can have some "romantic" feelings to your family..he has girlfriend and for almost a year ago he moved to prague..he goes home (in city where i live too) for holidays like now he came home for christmas...its been hard for me because how i feel and because he´s my cousin..i told him i feel 2 years ago and he was and is so supportive which great..now i came to peace ..and its ok but sometimes i have my moments when it hurts me ...before i told him how i feel about him i´ve been ignoring him ..i was hiding my feelings and everyone in my family knew i "dont" like him...and when i started to talk to him im scared to talk to him in front of my family ..and yesterday we went to wish a merry christmas to my family (grandma,uncle, aunt) and i wished it to everybody except HIM because like i said im scared to talk to him in front of my whole family.....and i dont know if i should text him to say im sorry and also we texted that when he will come that we would meet and chat like just face to face ....should i remind him ??..we talked just two of us alone but it was just once after i told him i like him .....and one more thing .do i ever stop liking him...it became less painful when i started to like boy in my school...but i still get depressed about it...i know it is a long text and also complicated but please help me ...i would be so grateful ....THANKS :) and sorry for my grammar (link)
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Hi!
You're a young girl, you're only 17, I really do NOT think it's a good idea to go after your 27 year old cousin. Your feelings for him are understandable but that doesn't matter, DO NOT GO AFTER HIM. There will be so many other boys in your life, your cousin who is 27 should not be one of them. You can still hangout and be friends with your cousin but don't try to make anything romantic happen, he also has a girlfriend so DON'T!
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Hi :) its me again...the problem is I don't have him as a friend on Facebook because I don't know him...should I add him on facebook even we don't know each other ? ...if yes what should I text him ?...or should I write him a note anonymously because he don't know me ...and sorry if Im annoying.. I just really like him ...;) (link)
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Hey! no worries, you can message me whenever you have a question! Yes, the first step is to add him on Facebook, it's not weird at all since you guys still do know each other. After you add him, just message him saying hey what's up or thanks for the add or something in between those lines!
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Hi :) you answered my question...i just wanted to add something...the boy i like is a year older in me and he talks with girls from his grade so i cannot just say hi to him...and he also talks to girls from my grade but i dont know them too ...so i cant just go and say hi to him..i dont know what to do ? should i text him on facebook ot not ? im also very shy :/ please help me and also i dont know how to message you because im new here :) (link)
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Yes! If you are friends with him on Facebook, you should definitely message him! Just say hey what's up or comment on a picture through messaging on FB! Don't be shy, you can do it! :)
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My friend likes a guy that broke my heart and he likes her back. I'm not sure if I totally moved on. What do I tell her? (link)
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Your friend should not date or go for someone who broke your heart, trust me, I've had a lot of experience with this. Tell her it's either you or him.
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I seem to always have had a hard time making and keeping friends. Im 24 now and it just feels like if I try to make friends with other girls Its forced. The few friends I do have have kids or their always busy. I have a coworker whose said she wanted to hangout, but she never texts me. And if I text her she doesn't answer. She has a daughter as well. And then there was this other girl around the corner from where I work and I gave her my number and I never heard from her. And this one girl at the gym who works there gave me her number and it didn't seem like she wanted to. Whenever we talk it's always me texting her. The last time we talked I texted her and she said she was going to the gym, and I said that i might go but I didn't because I was with my mom and we planned to have dinner together. I don't know what to do anymore. I used to have friends but they weren't very good people. They were into drugs and I started doing that but i eventually stopped, because I didn't want to get int trouble And i don't have facebook or any other social media because I got into trouble recently. Some idiot emailed my mom at work telling her the very personal details of my sex life, and how i cheated on my last boyfriend (which I truly regret) so she got upset of course and made stay off social media and I had to get a basic phone as well. I've tried to make her understand that I need friends and I want to be on social media, but she just doesn't get it. I'm so sick of feeling like this. I mean I want for once to hangout with someone on the weekend and not parents. It just seems like everyone already has their own friends and they don't need me in their group or even their life. So what should I do? What am i doing wrong? Thanks. (link)
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hey!
I know exactly how you feel, I've always went through stuff like this and I'm even kinda going through it right now. It doesn't matter how many friends you have, you just need a good friend or two, who will always be there for you. Let me tell you what I learned, if you have attempted to make plans but they haven't worked out for the third time because your new friend keeps flaking our or canceling, get rid of that friend. Those aren't friends and they aren't worth keeping, people are busy with their own lives but if they aren't willing to say yes or no quickly or even grab coffee with you when you guys said you would, forget that friend. They aren't friends, just time wasters. I don't know where you live but if you live in a city, that's excellent news because there are soo many ways to make new friends and acquaintances. Go to a new church and try to find a community there or look up classes or fun groups of hobbies online that are near you. There are also phone apps for meetups and fun stuff to meet people. You can also try going to a bar and just get a drink and look around, there are interesting people you can meet, trust me you;d be surprised. Don't worry about this being your fault because it's not, some people just suck and aren't real friends. There are really awesome people out there, you just need to keep looking and trust me you will find great friends. You can message me back if you want more details or more questions.
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Hi, I'm the girl who made the post about finding a Sugar Daddy to help me with my financial situation. I wasn't sure how else to "message you" like you asked me to in your answer. (link)
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Hi,
sorry if that message was short and abrupt but I needed to get your attention on it because I don't want you to ruin your life. Please listen carefully, I know that a sugar daddy seems cool, fun, and everything you need to pay off your debt, it won't. You seem to have experienced it for a bit and you saw that they weren't so great. I am also a college student, I'm graduating soon and I've lived with one of my best friends for the past 2 and a half years and she has been a sugar baby for the past couple of years and she is just ruining her life. She went on at least 30 different dates with different sugar daddies and she is also a very attractive and smart girl with a very bright future and GPA. She comes from a middle class family but she did it because her family is falling apart and she is also worried about her financial situation. She made only about 3,000 dollars in total and we live in New york city (manhattan), a place where it is filled with really rich sugar daddies and she still barely got paid to pay for anything decent. Her reputation is ruined and everything in her life is getting worse and she is not emotionally stable and she might have ended up with an STD and she's had many pregnancy scares.
You seem like a beautiful and smart girl and I know you're worried about your financial situation, you probably go to a private college, avoid sex work. First off, if you think you're not getting enough financial aid, APPEAL, IT WORKS! I've appealed many times and i come from a family that isn't wealthy at all but can afford my education for now but the financial aid office helped me. GO TO YOUR FINANCIAL AID OFFICE and explain your situation and ask to appeal! Also, if you're only piling debt, you should take a break next semester and figure out on getting a full time job for only a semester to at;least catch up with your financial situation, if it's that desperate. It's okay to take a break, the average graduation rate is 5 years for college students, NOT 4, that's a myth so don't worry if you graduate later, it's better than piling more debt. Also, consider transferring to a cheaper program or school. Btw, what are you majoring in, maybe I can help you figure out what you can do in that field and how you can go about it, I'm pretty good at things like since my relatives are counselors on stuff like that. If you want to email me more about this stuff, please don't hesitate, my email is jenniferk5858@gmail.com I know what you're going through because I've seen this happen to many people, I go to a school and live in an area that is full of kids like this!
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I feel like I'm in a really bad situation. I'm currently in 5k of debt at 21 after an ex ruined my credit. I also have 7k of student loans out and am supposed to be continuing school in January in another city. I just found out my cosigner got denied on the further loans it would take to continue college and now I'm stuck even though I have two scholarships and financial aid, they won't pay my entire tuition with dorm.
I absolutely have to move in January, I don't have a choice because I can't continue living where I live now. None of the rest of my family is in a good enough financial situation to cosign or help me out.
I can pay my school in monthly payment plans so I looked at getting a full-time job while being a full-time student, but I just don't think I can make it work. I still think my bills would be too high and I would be insanely stressed out.
In the past I tried looking for a Sugar Daddy (which I know is sex work) but the area I lived in just turned up a bunch of idiots and losers. None who were financially stable enough to actually be a real SD. One of them wound up harassing me for an entire year and at that point I swore I wouldn't do it again.
Now I'm rethinking things. I'm attractive, young and smart and I'll be moving to a bigger city. I just don't see another way to make ends meet right now as the average wage for a full-time job is just not enough without a college experience to support myself and I come from a lower class family who can't help me.
I especially feel horrible because I just got into a serious relationship a month ago and I love him, but if I have to resort to being a sugar baby I'd rather break up with him than put him through that.
I'm so scared. I don't know what to do. I feel like this is my last resort and if it fails and I wind up in 12k of debt, no college education and no where to live, I'd rather just kill myself. (link)
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Hey, before I give you advice about other stuff, like how you can find a job, listen to me carefully. This is coming from someone who has witnessed this from someone who I lived with and is close with, DO NOT DO IT, I will explain to you what I know after you get this message. Message me after you read this!
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I am a girl, currently in Grade 12, and I have had a crush on this guy in my grade since halfway through first semester grade 9.
He is really cute, and he loves singing and history. He is really funny, but can also be quite serious. He tends to be quite loud in class, but he is so sweet and nice that the teachers rarely get mad at him.
I am quite shy when in a group setting, but one on one I tend to open up a bit. However, I only ever see this guy in class, in choir, and when our two friend groups (occasionally) hang out together.
He is always hanging around with this one group of girls, but he would never date any of them, so I know that's not an issue. The problem is that he's always with them. I get along well with all of them, a couple are even sort of my friends, but it would be awkward for me to just join their group when they are talking or whatever. I have in the past, like if they are in my class and my regular friends aren't but its just a little awkward...anyways yeah I feel too awkward to get closer to him that way.
He jokes around a lot, and when we are in a small group of people together, he sometimes teases me more than the other people in the group. In class the other day, he was rolling around the classroom(we have chairs with wheels) and he came to talk to me. He has done similar things in the past.
I guess what I want to know is: do I have any chance with him? and how do I got about getting that chance? (link)
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Hi,
I think that there is nothing to lose by trying to get with him and yes I do believe that you have a chance with him, maybe he's also a little shy to approach you, too. You said that he tries to talk to you sometimes, don't wait for him to come to you again. When you see him by himself, just roll over to him with your chair and talk to him and get to know him more and let him get to know you more. Also, you should also try to ask one of the two groups of friends that you have common with him to all hang out one day, it's not weird, trust me. Don't be scared, just go up to him whenever you see him alone and just start ask him what's up and if you see a group of people, who you know, like the girls, with him and they all look like they're just opened to having a conversation with anyone, just go up and say hey guys what's up how was your weekend or what's up.
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Hi :) im a girl, im 16 and im 3rd grade in high school, i really like one guy from our school but he is in 4th grade , i only see him on school halls during break but he never noticed me :/ everytime i see him i have butterflies in my stomach, he has short curly black hair and he also sings in school cords which is so cute :), i dont know how to start to talk to him we never met face to face, he talks mostly to girls in his grade but sometimes i see him talking to girls which are in my grade , i dont know how they started to talk to him , im no so outgoing like they are, im shy :/ ...should i text him on facebook or not ? what should i do so he would notice me ? please.. :)..im sorry for my grammmar , english is not my mother language... but i tried :) (link)
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Hi!
I think that you should just go up to him when he is in a small group of other girls, when they are casually talking. Just go up to the group and say hey everyone what's up and ask them what they're going to do on the weekend and if he doesn't know your name, this would be a good time to introduce yourself to him and the rest of the group. Start from there and naturally see what happens! You can message me to tell me what happens!
-Jennifer
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