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Q: I think i'm ADD (not literally) i alwayss get distracted from my homework...i know thats normal b/c its boring, but how can i just pay attention and finish it b/c next thing i know its 11:00 and i still have to study and do other things (like right now haha)

pleasee help.

Just try setting a schedule for yourself. If that doesnt help, maybe set goals or rewards for yourself like, Once I do this homework, I'll get on the computer for half an hour, or somehting like that. That's what I do, because when I get home, I want to get on the computer instead of doing my homework, so I have to kinda punish myself. So like, I take away something that distracts me, and tell myself that I can have it back once I'm done studying and doing whatever else. I know it seems dumb, cause its not like you cant just walk in the room and turn the PC on, but try it. It works for me :P
Hope I helped.

Q: My dad says that I'm too skinny and need to put on about 10 pounds. I'm 5"1.5, and I'm 86 pounds.

I'm almost literally skin and bone. If I put on weight, where would the weight go? Is there any way to control where it goes, so it doesn't all go to my belly or my thighs?

I have a friend this height and weight, and no one really thinks she needs to gain weight so I guess it just depends. Are you eating right? I mean cause if youre not, then yeah maybe you would need to put on a few pounds, but as long as youre like eating enough and stuff, I don't think you should worry about gaining weight.

Q: My friends really think I've got mental problems! Not seriously, but it's getting out of hand. I have always been like a kid--- i still love cartoons, video games and i still talk like a kid when im not nervous; like if around my friends, Im completely myself. And thats always been a problem because whem Im myself, Im crazy and hyper. So lately, my friends and people i hardly know from my school are saying that I have a mental problem. I know it sounds dumb, but I hate it!
I told my friend that there is nothing wrong, and they all say they are just joking around when they say i have ADD or OCD, but the other people at my school dont know this. Sure, school is almost over, but I really dont want to continue with this stupid rumor! And I can't even set the record straight that I have no problem, because the rumor is based on how I act, which is kidishly. I really cant sit still or I play with things and I make up wacko words.
Is there a way to show, well sure, im not normal, but just not crazy? Thanks.
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I'm the same way. When I'm with my friends, I get really crazy, and act like a little kid. I make up words, I play with things, I move around alot, it's just me. There were alot of people who used to look at me weird, or say I had mental problems. All I can suggest, is ignoring them. I've tried to change peoples opinion of me, but it didn't help at all, so I just learned to ignore them. Don't pay attention to them, just let them think what they want to think, especially the people you don't know, because they're just judging you without taking the time to get to know you. I know this doesn't exactly answer your question, but I've been through this exact thing, and just wanted to let you know how I delt with it. :-D
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Q: what is lax? people always say they have a lax game.

It means Lacrosse

Q: ok well i am a 17 year old male, and of course my problem involves a girl. i have a major crush on this girl, i mean the whole nine yards. sweaty palms, loss of words, clumsiness, you name it (which is wierd because i NEVER have problems with girls). the cool thing is that i think she has a crush on me too. the thing is, my best friend (17/M) also likes this girl a lot, although she doesnt like him. i need to know what to do in this situation, because it is driving me insane. i will provide feedback. Thank you so much!

I think first you should talk to your friend, let him know that you like her and she likes you, and make sure he's okay with it. If he really likes her, he would want her to be happy, and she likes you, so being with you would make her happy I guess. Yeah, So talk to him and then make your move, that way even if he is a little upset about it, it wouldn't be as bad as him finding out that you were dating behind his back. Hope I helped!

Q: Hello, just wondering how I should go about telling a girl how I feel about her. I am semi-overweight and not really that confident yet. I just want to give it a shot anyway whether it ever happens or not. I have known her for a while so it's not just some random pretty girl that I've never talked to.

I was think about sending roses and etc. with a secret admirer message...would a girl like that? Just looking for some advice on how to handle this..

Girls would love to have flowers sent to them, and I think the secret admirer message is a good idea. It feels nice to know that someone likes you enough to send you these things, so yes girls would like it. Also if you do that, and you see that she's excited about it, I think then would be the time to approach her and say, Hey it was me, and just tell her then how you feel.

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Hi! I don't really know how to describe myself. Um...I guess overall I'm a nice person, or atleast that's what my friends say. A few people have told me that I just tell it like it is, but honestly I don't know. I've had alot of experience in the friendship area. My friends and I have been through alot. No question is stupid, so ask away!