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Q: My mom and dad argue a lot but now some family issues have come up on my dad's side of the family and his brother needs money because his wife died in a car accident recently and he is in need. Anyways he is asking our family for a lot of money and my dad really cares about him and so he gave it to him without my mom knowing- and he tried to tell my mom but she was busy and had to leave. So now my mom knows that he gave the money to him without telling. And she is upset because we can't afford that kind of money to just loan out. And she is arguing cuz he is being dishonest. And my dad is angry because he loves his bro and he gave the money cuz he knew he needed it bad- and he trid to tell my mom, but my mom. Then this afternoon she said, "I don't care what u spend that money on, but i want u to ask me first" and now my dad thinks my mom doesn't care about his family at all, and so he screamed at my mom to just get out and go! Then he pushed her and that's when i went to my room and started crying my eyes out beecuz they have fought before but never physically and so i cried my eyes out and i left with my mom to pick up my brothers from practice and when we got back my dad was gone- I dunno where he went. I really hope our family is okay, i especially hope my dad is alright too. What is going on here?¿? How come they are both losing it?¿? Can i do anything? Or can i only pray for them? I'm really scared!!!

aaww sweetie dont worry!! my parents have and still do have their good share of fights!! what you should do is when your with only one of your parents, then when your alone with the other parent, you need to talk to them. tell them when they fight that it scares you really bad and you dont want your family to fall apart. and that you saw your dad push your mom and it made u cry your eyes out!!thatll help A LOT!!!!!!!hope i helped you if you need anyone to talk to about this talk to me because my parents have done it all except a divorce!!

xoxo good luck!!!

Q: how can u tell if ur a good kisser or do sumin bout it if u r kuz i dont want my bf sayin stuff now or after we brake^((i kno this sounds really gay but...))

ok to me there is two solutions. either ask the guy you're kissing if you are or say thirteen normally. if you tongue goes out farther than your teeth than your good at kissing if it doesnt then your not the best kisser. either way its your decision. hope i helped ya sweetie! xoxo loves ya sydra!!

Q: I sing opera - I have to be able to open my mouth, like, a disgusting amount to be able to put the right power, support and air behind my sound.
I have to kind of unhinge my jaw. Put two fingers right in front of your ear, on your jaw joint/hinge and open your mouth really wide. Feel that movement? Yeah.
Every time I go to open my mouth like that, my jaw cracks really loudly. Sometimes it hurts, sometimes it doesn't. It kinda scares me...
Anyone have any ideas as to what this is and/or how to fix it? It's getting in the way of my warm ups...

i dont sing but some of my friends jaws do that too. its because your jaw line/bone is straight it doesnt come to a point. its ok its natural. all i can say is that dont let it get to you. and maybe you can speak to a doctor about how you can help it not happen as loud or painful. hope i could help you!

loves ya!! sydra

Q: Hey, its your advice columnist NicoleMarie. I had my first sonogram yesterday but its still 2 early to see if its a boy or girl. But now i'm excited. Can anyone give any ideas for baby names? But nothing too common. Thank you!

for girls names i think..: sydra (it means star in celtic),mari (it means marie in german), macaella, chaim, tori, nika, nina, leena, madison, mckenze, shanna, jasmin, jeanette, jerrica, larissa, taylor, tara, mara, rose, quinn, mallory, marshawn, mia, rashenda, teena.

and for guys i think..: steffan, corry, sanjeev, petey (pronounced pee-tee), armonda, alonzo, bryce, cliff/clifford, cooper, diego, erich (ponounced eric), francisco/frankie, victor, lucas, luis, dylan, taylor, terry, vaughn (pronounced von).

hope i helped a bunch!! xoxo loves ya!

Q: Who is hotter Gabrielle Union or Halle Berry?

uum i personaly think Gabrielle Union is hotter! but i totally dont think of girls like that! i have a b.f!

Q: Who is do you think is better in bed Gabrielle Union or Halle Berry?

totally Halle Berry!

Q: Recently, my girlfriend dumped me...for, I'm not even sure why. We were togehter for about 4 months, and I think towards the end of the relationship...she wasn't liking me all too well. I don't know what it is that I did. But, I just wanted her to be happy, so I made the breakup easy on her..at least. She broke up with me over the phone, and I just said, "Alright" and tried not to act real hurt, so she wouldn't feel as bad. But, truth be told...I am so hurt. It's been about a month. I just really, really, miss the girl. And I think that...-maybe- the reason she broke up with me, is because there's always been this one guy she liked, but he's younger. Like...3 years, or something.

Anyway, I'm so lost. I don't know what to do. I don't want to confront her about it...she just, I don't think she wants to talk to me. She won't talk to me on any messangers, or the phone, whatever. I'm like..totally out of her life now. But I miss her. She's perfect. I just, want her back...

aww!! you poor thing! that is oh so sad. maybe she just didnt want to get into a steady relationship yet. or maybe she doesnt think its right to like two guys at once. whatever it may be, im sure she will talk to you if you politely and rationally go and talk to her about this. tell her how you feel. tell her that you like her a lot and dont want to lose her. she should understand. if she doesnt, then she wasnt and still isnt worth it. there is someone out there for everyone! hope you can talk to her and get her back! xoxo
.:*^Sydra^*:.

Q: rap or rock

rap! im not a total fan of it but rock sounds angry and depressing. hope i helped! xoxo ~~Sydra~~

Q: what is the kiss that guys like the most..?

id say they like french kissing the best. xoxo
.:*Sydra*:.

Q: I'm not sure if I should dye my hair back to my natural brown, or keep up the highlights in it! help?

i think you should do both! *hehe* you should go back to your natural brown but then maybe you should put like a lighter brown highlights in it!! have any more q's just ask me!
xoxo _Sydra_

Q: what are your turn ons?
do you prefer bad boys or nice guys?
do you like a guy who calls you every night or a guy who calls you every other week?
with a girl you havent seen for a while, but really like(it was mutual two years ago, but it didnt work out), how do you ask her if shes into you?

my turn ons are pretty much the usual. i like a guy who can make me laugh/smile, he has to be cute, sweet, someone i can talk to, and just fun to be around! i myself prefer nice guys but i want a guy who has done something. its boring if they are totally innocent! i like talking to the guy i like! so i do like a guy who calls me every day! *sounds kinda conceited but its not*

Q: I see some people have really cool backrounds on there column how did you get and where did u get it?

ok! you go to www.google.com(click images) or some website where you can do web searches. you type in the name of the thing/person that you want. then when you find the picture you want you right click and go to properties. then you copy the URL. then you go to edit settings on advicenators.com. and you paste the URL. its that easy! hope your page looks nice! oxox
~*~Sydra~*~

Q: My Situation is that I am different. I have a small webbing on my left foot. Its not like an ugly one or anything it's just different. And that is one of the things that I dont like... being different. I'm someone who wants to be perfect. I wish every day that i didnt have it. But wishing wont do anything. I've gone to a surgery place to see what they could do about it but they said that a standard proceedure like that will cost $5,000 and I dont have that much money. At school I cover it up by taping band-aids around it. Then when people ask what happened I tell them that its none of their business. But this gets very old. Am I stupid for feeling this way?

you are perfect the way you are! the reason people become perfect are by liking who they are and they accept their differences! no one is perfect! it may seem like people are perfect but they really do have problems and things that are different about them! everyone is different! dont feel embarrassed! its ok! xoxo hope i helped!! rate me! *SYDRA*

Q: I always wanna hang out with people. But when we come over to my house I dont know what to do. Do you have any suggestions for ideas of stuff to do. We always end up really bored!! I have cable but thats not a very fun thing to do when you have ppl over. any ideas would help!!! thnx

i can see how this is a problem. you should like have a bunch of girls come over and have like watch a bunch of scary movies and popcorn or tell stories, prank call people, dance to music, make home movies, play a game, do what ever you want!have a good time! xoxo sydra

Q: what do you do when your friends b/f starts following you between different class periods and your best friend gets mad because she thinks me and her b/f are goin out ,,,,what do i do

you need to talk to your friends b/f and get things straight! if he is following you, then you need to talk to him and ask him why he is doing that. and if you friend thinks that you and her b/f are going out or like each other, your friend doesnt trust you nor her b/f that much. if she is your friend then she should know that you wouldnt do that to her. hope things change for the better!xoxo *~Sydra~*

Q: OK i'm not blonde but it's just an expression. I think this is how people see me... just a dumb brunette. A lot of people say that I remind them of Jessica Simpson. In some ways I'm flattered (shes pretty, nice, funny, has an amazing husband) but also she acts ditzy. I know I do a lot of the time too but it isnt on purpose. I say things being serious and others think I'm joking... when really I dont know. Also whenever I'm hanging out with people I am ALWAYS the person who gets made fun of. I try not to let it bother me and I know I dont show it that often. what do I do with this??

Oh Lordy! i know exactly what your going through!! mi two nicknames are Dory(because she forgets easily and she does stupid yet funny things) and JS (jessica simpson!) i just took it as a compliment. i know that jessica simpson is funny, pretty, sweet, and she does stupid things but she either takes it the wrong way or she laughs it off! i usually just laugh it off. and if it just gets to the point where you cant take it anymore, just rationaly talk to your friends and say that you dont like being made fun of as much and that if they could take you more serious you wouldnt be as mad(if that is the case). trust me it helps! hope they quit a little! xoxo ~SYDRA~

Q: Ok i need some help. I'm 15, 5'2, kinda pretty I guess?? not the prettiest and not the ugliest girl in the school. The problem is that I'm shy. I know people tell me this all the time. I'm not shy around my friends at all, but when it comes to meeting new people I just dont know what to talk about! Nothing comes to mind when I'm around new people. and i dont want to say something stupid like "wow the weather is nice" or whatever. Help me! What should I say?? How do I become more outgoing with people? I think If i were more outgoing I might meet new people and meet new friends. am i right or wrong?

yes, if you become more outgoing you will meet more people. when you meet new people, you need to just make simple convo, say like "how old are you? when is you birthday?, where are you from?(only if they are new at your school)" and just find out basic info about them. then if they seem cool you could hang out with them more! if you want to become more outgoing then just join clubs, run for things such as president, secretary, VP, etc. in the end it really does make you more outgoing. dont be afraid to say what you think either! good luck! xoxo ~Sydra~

Q: I am 13 and female and my boyfriend is 15. His friends think he is really dumb for going out with me and i think he might start thinking the same way. What should I do? Keeping in mind that he is also my neighbor.

if he truly cares about you, he knows what he wants in your relationship. but if he has thought that for some time, then unfortunatly its not so good news. But, you really should ask him what he thinks. you should be open with him. and if his friends say that, its either because they are jelous, they dont like you, or they are immature. i hope everything works! xoxo rate me!! .:*Sydra*:.

Q: I work with mostly guys, and they're all really nice, but I'm a girl so I'm not sure how much they want to know about all my issues. Like today, one of them said I looked kind of down. I lied and told him I was fine, even though really I'm on my period and had cramps and my boobs were hurting and I had one tampon left that I had to hope lasted the rest of the day. Is that the sort of stuff that I should always just keep to myself, or you think I could just let it out and see what happens?