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My name is Stephane-Lane. I'm 15 years old and I study creative writing at Interlochen Arts Academy. I've been through pretty much everything and gotten through it all. I'll answer all questions to the best of my ability and offer insightful, helpful and honest advice.
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I just found out that the guy i like is friends with my worst enemy, whom is really very rude to me, and now Im afraid to talk to him. What should i do?
Do you already know him well? If so, tell him that you don't feel comfortable around this friend of his. If not, then I would suggest talking to him in a private setting or in a setting with mutual aquiantences so you feel more comfortable.
I can't seem to get a boyfriend. I am fat but im a good friend. Im also trying to lose weight. I have only had two boyfriends in my life, one in second grade, and my last boyfriend lived in Virginia (I live in Missouri) and he didn't know what I looked like. I think im desent looking aside from my weight. I don't have really that many guy friends eaither. I was hoping someone could give me tips on how to get a guy.
~*~Britt~*~
I don't think you should worry so much about the way you look. You want a guy who likes you for the way you are. You shouldn't have to change yourself to appease others -- that's not to say that if you want to lose weight you shouldn't, I just think that you shouldn't be doing it to get a boyfriend. I'm overweight but I've dated plenty of guys in the past, all of whom have been attracted to me for my intelligence and self-confidence, as well as the way I look. Relationships should be more than skin deep!
Well I am 14 years old and in 9th grade of high school. I have this really cool girlfriend who goes to a different school and we have been going out for 4 months. I also have this girl who's my best friend who I've started to like too. I can also hint that she likes me and I've been thinking about possibly asking her out. I mean, I love my girlfriend but i don't know what i should do. I know it isn't fair to like someone else while you're going out with someone so I wanted to know what you guys thought.
Thanks,
Confused
Often times when you're in a relationship with the same person for a long time, you start to notice your attraction to other people more. Attraction will always occur, regardless if whether your in a relationship or not, and regardless of how you feel about anyone else. However if you think too much of this attraction you'll start to consider the possibility of having a relationship with this person, even though you already have a great girlfriend.
I think you should just ignore your feelings for her, especially since they're not very strong and since you're already in a healthy relationship. If things start to get more intense, I would suggest just taking a break from relationships all together to figure things out.
how can i get a hot bikini body b4 spring break?!!?
Buy one.
iv'e been depressed for a really long time now, when i first told my friend i was depressed a really long time ago she said it was just a phase that everyone goes through and i'd get over it in like a month. well it's been almost 6 or 7 months and i keep getting more and more depressed. i feel so lost all of the time and i cry a lot but i don't exactally know why. i mean, i have friends and a really great boyfirned... i also went through 2 "phases" i guess, were i would cut myself [don't worry, i stopped. but i didn't ever get help so i'm afraid its going to start again] when somthing bothers me, i'm not the type of person that would make it stop.. i just kind of keep it inside and deal with it later. i also am becoming over sensitive, like the other day my friend reiss was messing with me and i compleatly lost it.. i ran out of the room and skipped two clases. i don't know whats wrong with me or how i can make it stop.... please help
Even if it is a "phase," if you feel bothered or scared by your emotions you should seek professional help. It sounds to me like you don't understand the way you feel. Yes, lots of teenagers experience it, but it doesn't mean that it's "okay" and that you should ignore it. Check and see if you have a school psychologist or social worker, and if so, talk to them about it. I would also recommend bringing this up with your parents to see if your family has a history of depression, since it can be hereditory.
Also, good for you for stopping cutting! I know it's one of the hardest things to do if you become too dependant on it, and I also know that it's scary to be faced with the possibility that you might start again.
You have a good head on your shoulders. Keep it up.
i told this guy i liked him and he told me he likes me. well we are unable to go out cause of his grades in school and because he can't have a gf right now.but today was weird cause i got something on my shirt and he wanted me to take it off. and then he put his hand almost all the way up my shirt. what does this mean?! he did that so i pulled on his boxes and i think he liked it. this is definitely flirting i know it!
This is WAY more than flirting, honey. This guy needs to have his priorities in check. He won't go out with you because he thinks that a girlfriend will distract him from school, but somehow thinks that hooking up won't? You're starting to become emotionally involved with this guy so talk to him about this stuff, otherwise you might end up experiencing a lot of pain.
My dad is always playing halo 2 on X-box live and lately he has been acting like the teenagers on there and he is 38 years old. And today he asked me to do something and when I did it, it was wrong and he said he was going to beat my ass. and I said do it and i will call the cops and he said call them now so they can take you away bitch. and that mad me so sad and I am crying right now and before he played halo he was so nice but now I hate him but when he isnt playing it he is nice sometimes and he yells at me all the time. I tell him all the time about I dont like him becuz of halo and hes is like the game isnt changing me..BUT IT IS...
That's really odd, but a lot of times when people become "obsessed" (for lack of better word) with someone not anchored in reality they go a little crazy. When people get really into video games, books, or even online forums and start to focus their life around it they can act really strange. I recommend talking to another adult that you trust, like your mom (or therapist, if you have one), or your school social worker, if you have one. Tell them that your dad called you a "bitch" and that he threatened to beat you. It might seem awkward to involve outside people right now but ultimately it will better the situation.
what does it mean when a guy says "he can't have a gf right now?" is that a way to let the girl down easy or is it the truth?!
In most cases it's the truth, unless you see him with some other girl a few days later. I've avoided plenty of relationships in the past because I wasn't ready and I'm glad.