Hey there! I'm f/16 and I'm here to give honest and advice to anyone who needs it!Lovelife, friends, family, school, work...what ever your topic, I'll certainly do my best to help you out! so don't hesitate to throw me a question, and i'll respond ASAP! cheers!
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Location: New Zealand
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Age: 16
Member Since: August 16, 2008
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exactly what does that mean?
i asked you a question about my bf leaving him to college and you said to put a pinecone in his stuff with a note that said that so explain? Thanks! (link)
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Hahahha, oh dear, I thought that was an obvious one. Pining simply means to yearn/miss them immensely. So the pine is actually a pun on the word. You're simply saying you miss him, with the actual pine cone as a little joke ( play on the word "pine"). Sorry Im not sure if you can understand?
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So I'm 15 almost 16.
My EX boyfriend was my first boyfriend, and he broke up with me the first week of our relationship, and then we got back together like a week later so we were going out with eachother for like a month and then I found out he asked a girl out while going out with me, and was gonna brake up with me, I wont forgive him, maybe I'll`forget. I have just gotten over it and im officially talking to him again, I kinda still have feelings for him and recently he told me its not gonna work out with him and his new Girl friend, I didnt realy care, but I do want him to be happy, So the other day he told me he still loved me and he did the wrong thing, and he asked me what I would say if he asked me out again, he didnt say he was gonna just wanted to know what would say, I said I didnt kow, and to drop it for now. I dont know what to say to him or to say if he asks me out again.???
Kinda confused, plus not many people want me going out with him. (link)
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Hi there!
I skimmed through your question before leaving the site, and after I finished reading I realised I had to answer you before I leave because it's important that you know this!
I can tell you're pretty mature for your age, and atleast you're asking people for help which is great. So consider this. That boy of yours was an immature and foolish enough to go behind your back to ask another girl out. It's good you haven't forgiven him, it's very smart in fact. Because he doesn't deserve forgiveness!
Secondly OH COME ON!!! he's a wimp and a fake for "what if i asked you out?" thing. It's pure b@#$ s@#$ because he needs to grow a set of balls. If he thought you were special enough, he'd have apologised way earlier on, and made a huge effort to see you more, even just as friends, to earn your trust again. He hasn't made a true effort, so why spend time on a such a lazy immature guy?
By the sounds of your question, you are a kind, considerate person. But please, look after yourself first before others. Make sure your happiness prevails before his. Don't date him, you can't forgive and you WONT forget what he did. what he did was unforgiveable ok? Good luck miss nearly-16!
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i know it's normal to experience sexual urges, especially at my age. i recently have been fantasizing myself with two of my best guyfriends (NOT AT THE SAME TIME.) although i don't have crushes on either of them, and both have had crushes on me. i'm not at all attracted to them but i just keep thinking about it. it's really weird for me and i'm really confused. i'd never date either of them but what should i do?! why is this happening, and why with THEM? is it just because i talk to them often and i'm really close with them? has this ever happened to anyone else, and what happened? (link)
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hey there, well why don't you like either of them romantically? if you're sure you don't, then it's probably because you've bonded with them in everyway...emotionally, intellectual, and common interests. the only thing left is the physical. Don't worry too much about it, it'll pass i promise.
And by the way, if it's because you think and feel you can take your friendship to a romantic level, don't be afraid. It's worse if you look back and kept asking "what if...."
good luck!
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Before this summer started I really liked this guy named Matty. Matty had told me he liked me to and we went to a party together and I was really excited because I couldn't wait to see him. We were together all day/night but after a few drinks I didn't know if he was all there, he kissed me, and I was really happy and kissed him back. When he sobered up he acted like nothing had happened and before I left the party he came clean adn said he just wanted to be friends because we lived too far away. It killed me.
A month or so has passed and we still talk all the time. I find out he still likes me (he doesnt know i know) and I still like him but I don't want to admit it. He talked to one of my close friends about how horrible he felt that he hurt me and how it wouldnt want to do it again and such. Now i dont know what to do? Im hanging out with him in a couple days but im kind of afraid. I really like him but I dont want to get hurt again. How do i know Matty won't do this to me again? (link)
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Hun, you'll never know if Matty will hurt you again or not. It's human behaviour and you can't predict such a thing. But to win in life, is to be unafraid of life's failures. So hold up your head and dive in. You'll learn from any mistakes, learn more, if you succeed. You've got nothing to lose in the long term. relationships take practice, so don't hide and gently confront him. Announce that you like him FIRST and ask if he feels anything.
But do give him credit for being honest about living too far. talk to him, and remember to smile and hold eye contact, to show you care for him. All the best!
Fruitloop highschooler
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okay well, i have a boyfriend and he told me he loves me, we have only have been dateing for like 3 weeks and he loves me?? it werid, but anyway then there is this boy elvis who i like, we went out and then we had to break up, cuz he was going to brooklyn for the summer,i was hurt and he said that we would get back together wen he gets back, now he is back n when i saw him all my feelings went back to him, dont get me wrong i really like ly bf, but i dont like how fast he is going, and just so u no, i have never had this happen to me, never in my life have i had a boy tell me this, im 14 and it like werid, so what do i choose the one i love or the one that loves me?? (link)
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I agree with sammxox. grab the chance to be with the one you adore more, obviously elvis. But make sure elvis can make you as happy as your current bf. DOes he make you feel good? feel special? No matter what happens, I hope you choose the guy that treats you the best. Best wishes!
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Whats the difference between a person being nice to you, or a person showing interest? How do you know if the guy is just talking to you or if he might be flirting? (link)
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Well it'd be much easier to know for sure if you hang out with the person more often, and at different sorts of situations ie. family gatherings, school, work, or just around friends.
The difference that's easy to pick up is if they're interested, they'll be joking about sexual stuff, around you. It'll seem like a joke, but deep down they probably want to take it to the next step and date you. But yeah frequent sexual jokes like that refers to you directly is a dead give away as a flirty gesture, and not a simple nice joke:)
good luck!
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**15/f**
I get weirdly nostalgic about things. I can't throw away stuff from when I was younger because I'll just have this guilt tugging at the back of my mind forever. Like, three years ago I gave away my dollhouse and I STILL feel guilty about that.
And then when I look at old pictures I cry because I know that I'll never get to go back to that time in my life ever again. That's why I can't throw things away, because I feel like I'd be throwing part of ME away. Does that make any sense?
I gave away two old Britney Spears CDs last year because I figured because I don't listen to them so why still keep them? Well I felt so guilty (over throwing out CDs of a singer I clearly don't listen to anymore) that I had to go all the way out to the store and replace the two CDs. And now they're back on the same shelf they were before, collecting dust.
But it's nice to know they're there.
Weird right? I really hate this, it sort of takes over my life you know? Is there any advice out there that could help me get over this? (link)
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Yes I agree with the last comment placed. It would help if you can approach a trusted adult, or older cousin or sibling and ask them to contact possible counsellors or support groups to find out more about your situation. If it's OCD, there's definitely effective help out there for you, so the first step is to reach out and ask for help. things will fall into place from there on. Good luck:)
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my boyfriend of 2 months is leaving after college starts August 25th for me. I want to give him a gift but I dont know what to give him. It can be either I give it to him before he leaves or put it in his stuff when he leaves that way when he gets to his outta state college he will see/ find it. which sounds like a sweet and good idea.
i already wrote him a note that I will put in his stuff. I have only been with him for 2 months, so scrapbook isn't a good idea because we don't have many pictures taken together. he has pictures on his camera, of me and us.
i've already wrote him poems for our one month. I was thinking about cd, of love songs which I have been working on but I'd like to do more because he will be gone for about a whole year, but we will see each other twice a month and on breaks (christmas/spring)
btw he's 20 im 18.
thank you for all your help everyone! (link)
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Hi there!
Well it's great to give a branded wallet, or a watch because these are the things he'd use almost everyday. And everytime he uses it, he'll think of you. great for fashion concious guys, and give him an exchange card so he can change it if he doesnt like the particular style. DOn't be offended if he changes it, it just means he'll be more likely to use it everyday, and thank you for being a wonderfully considerate girlfriend.
Those two are ideas of gifts you can give BEFORE he leaves. And a gift you can put into his stuff is well...a pine cone! no listen, i'm serious, find a clean pine cone and add a note saying :"I'm pining for you!"
HAHHAHAHA that's hillarious. it's humourous and very original! plus he can keep the pine cone on a window sill above his study desk. the thing will last for ages and will constantly be reminded of ur thoughtful good humour.
GOod luck!-Fruitloop highschooler.
by the way, if you could help me since ur older with experience, how do I help my bf overcome shyness to kiss me? I've put up my question on the website just now so do check it out! Thanks:)
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i have known this kid for about 2 years and we dated for 8 months. we were really serious. he was the first and only kid i've ever had sex with or done anything sexual with. i was also his first time. i broke up with him because he wanted to be a lot more serious than i did. he would always tell me he wanted to marry me and i wasnt sure about that. he is two years older than me but he dropped out of school a few times so hes stayed back twice. hes coming back to school this year and hes going to be in all or most of my classes. i was the one to break up with him so obviously i feel bad that i broke a really good friend's heart. but my heart was also broken at the end of the relationship. i havent really talked to him since we broke up and our class will only have about 20 kids in it. how am i supposed to deal with seeing this kid, who was my first ever love and first serious heartbreak, daily when i'm not ready to? (link)
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Hey there, I'm guessing you're in the last year of highschool? and so is he?
Anyway, I feel for you girl, it's heart wrenching to have to face your heartbreak everyday at school. You're not ready, and you can't speed up that process because if you do, you'll get fake results, and you think you're over him, but you're not....and perhaps you'll have a nervous breakdown and can't get up again. So give yourself space from him. Ask to change classes if you can...or even change schools? Make sure you get emotional support from whom ever possible, if you are forced to stay in that school.
And if one day you feel ready to talk to him, talk to him one on one where he can't escape. Tell him gently you're truly sorry for what happened, and that you hope to atleast be able to act civil with each other. He may now respond positively, but you can give him a smile across the room, from then on, and offer to help with homework if he needed it. Just make sure your body language is neutral and not hostile.
He may not change himself, or the way he acts, but you have every power to improve yourself, by being emotionally stronger, and mature faster so you can deal with his coming back rationally. All the best, Fruitloop highschooler:)
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