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Q: so there's this guy...
i never met him before, but my friend was like in love with him (but i didnt know at the time that she liked him at all, so dont think i'm some sort of back stabbing bitch!) so she wanted me to meet him
and we went to the movies
and we kinda um. hooked up...

and i like him now
but i dont really know him
and he keeps calling/IMing me, but i feel SOOOO bad
and we havent told her yet

should we?
i dont think we should, but i feel SOOOO BAADDDD i mean like, she's been my best friend foreverr

yeah its sucks
help please!

first off you shouldnt have hooked up with him in the first place but you did and you cant take it back. i think you should break it off with this guy cause you dont even know him, and its not fair to your friend. then you should tell her what you did but say its over..
hope i helped
-erica

Q: Okay so Iv'e had a girlfriend. We broke up. I was fine accepted it its okay. Then i asked out antoerh person. She said yes. It was a good relations ship. It ended 3 weeks ago. Now i just don't know whats going on. I was fine but like now it hurts. All i can do is think baout her. I look at her and everything. I tlak to her. Can you give me some advice to get over her?
Thx
--Single :(

single..
hmm thats a tuffy. well what ive always thought is if you cant get someone out of your head maybe they are supposed to be there? have you been having these feelings for a while. maybe you need to see if she still likes you. and if not then just try to hang out more with your guy friends .. try to get girls out of your head. also if you are just thinking about this girl then you may be missing another girl. see if you notice any other girlss if not go to your guy friends..

hope i helped `xox`

Q: hey. heres my problem...
i really want to get in shape, but i don't have enough time or money to go the gym on a regular basis. what exercises can i do at home, in between gym sessions, that will help me get the results im looking for?

yea ive been trying to go to the gym more often too. umm i dont know really any things at home but if youre just watching tv or something try doing some situps or crunches while. it wont hurt. also try to go for walks and just eat healthy. also if you do get the time try to sign up to a highschool gym and you only have to pay alittle. go with a friend or something :)

hope i helped `xox`

Q: Ok, I'm a 13/F and I'm happy like 24-7. I mean everyone always comes up to me and asks me how I could be so happy all the time. I mean everyone knows me as the "happy peanut" (school nickname don't ask lol) And I mean I am. And I'm always the friend people come to if they have a problem or if they need someone's shoulder to cry on or anything. But I mean lately everything in my life's been going wrong. My dad's left my family, a kid who was like my brother just died. and I mean I don't know how to talk to anyone about it because they always come to me. And like no one else. And I just want to like SCREAM!! I don't know what to do. It's like I've lost controle of my own life and can't get it back together again. I just want someone to know what's going on. The bad stuff. Because someone needs to know or I'm going to go insane. But I just don't know how to tell anyone. I rate 5's for any answer!! Good or bad, long or short. I'm really in some need for advice. Thanks a bundle if you can help =D ♥Samm

I can understand why you might be afraid to talk to someone about this, and I think i have an answer. First, make a list of the top 5 people that you can trust the most. Some of these people may be the ones that come to you for advice most often. Next, go through the list and try to imagine the situation of you talking about your problems to each person. Choose the person that you felt most comfortable with when you imagined talking to them, and then ask them to come aside from everyone else and have a private discussion. Once you talk to one person about how you feel, it will probably be a lot easier to talk to other people, too.

Hope I helped!xo

Q: i have this best friend, and all of a sudden we are meeting all these new people who like love her and pay no attention to me. i don't know what to do, but i feel like i'm being cast aside or something. can u help me? pleez
--unloved

unloved,
ok..does your friend know that you feel this way? because if she doesnt know than how can she help you stop feeling this way. and i bet you she doesnt even know shes doing it. but i think you should tell her and then see if everything works out. if not send me another question

hope i helped `x0x`

Q: well heres the deal...

my best friend always goes out with my boyfriends after we break up. its the second time in a row and to tell you the truth it is starting o get to me. i feel like a bad friend if i tell her not to go out with them but then again, is it really fair to me that shes taking my "leftovers" is she being a good friend because it doesnt seem so to me. but maybe i might be wrong. i need some advice. also she is walking all over my other best friend and i want it to stop. should we top being friends all together or else how sohuld i work this whole problem out?

well you've probably heard of the girl code or book and it says a best friend should never go out with your ex because its just wrong, i would tell her that little girl code and make sure she knows what going on and if she acts snippy to you and gets all mean ditch her for a while or until you're over it. since she has to go out with your left overs it clearly means she's desperite and if she's walking over you other bf then tell her to stop and that you dont want to be friends with someone like her.

Q: im a guy 15yrs old yes im gay i need your advice. i like this guy well actually i think i love him and im not shore if hes gay or not. now my question is should i ask him and take a risk of him hating me. its not like hes like straight every one thinks hes gay so theres a strong possibility he is. my only fear is that i will ask him and he would say get the fuck away from me and hate me 4 ever and that would crush me. n e imput would b realy helpful.

thnx much

well i would get to know a little more and then when you feel comfortable about it tell him your gay and if he is, ask him out and it will be good because then you already have a strong relationship. also if your still not sure what to do, i was in the libary one day and i just grabbed a book and its called ive known since i was eight and it talks about a girl around your age and how shes gay. i would read if i were you.

Q: I need to start eating healthy. But it only lasts like not even a couple days. And then i just say screw it and i give up. I need something to motivate me but i haven't yet found anything. But i need advice on how to stay on a healthy diet and not give up. What foods should i stay away from? i know chocolates and sweets and other? Thanks a bunch!

heyy
ok heres some advice i gave myself to. you have to not just stay away from foods but to motivate you get a friend who can do things with you. its a great way to stay healthy and have funn

hope i helped `x0x`

Q: i need a girl
lol
im single
and i like 2 girls 1 of them like me but to make sum1 else feel good i told them i liked them(i realle dont) and said they would ask me out n shes my friend but i wanna ask the other 1 out
hit me up wiht your advice

CmPuTrGeEk53092

heyy..
you should probably tell the girl you told you liked (but dont) that you dont really like her so she wont make a fool of herself! and the other one you should just ask out. even if it does hurt the other one you can always work things out but you should deff ask the other girl out.

hope i helped `xox`

Q: Hey Erica. I am trying my best to be mature, but it just isn't working. I am hated by everyone on my bus, and by 95 percent of the school. I try to be mature and queit, but I seem to talk a lot. I try to go a day without talking, but thats just gay. I'll do weird things, without relizing it. I am trying to make friends and be a mature, nice kid. I really hate life sometimes. I don't have many friends. Can you give me advice on what to do to make friends, and keep my mouth shut?
Thanks

ok hi. i have a feeling that the people on your bus only dislike you because you dont just talk a lot you probably are obnoxious about what you are saying. they dont want you to hate life but you have to stop saying things that you shouldnt say. and sometimes they may be harsh towards you but only to make you learn that the people in school are only paying attention to you cauz you do their hw you shouldnt do that. they are taking advantage of you. just try and be a nice guy for once and keep your mouth shut by not saying things that you dont mean.

i hope i helped `xox`

Q: yo i'z whyte n jewish but i really feel like ima suposa be from teh ghettoz of harlem..i think im in teh rawng place so whut ima do yo?

wow...um...yea
i dont know how to help you there? you could change religions and become like micheal jackson and change ur color but otherwise i think you stuck like that!

hope i helped? `xox`

Q: my parents are probably getting a divorse, but i really don't want them to. i dont want to rip my family apart. what should i do?

divorces are always hard to go through..but it doesnt mean your family needs to fall apart. i cant say i know how you feel cauz my parents are still together but i have many friends that have divorced parents. i think something that will help you is to turn to your friends in your time of need..they want you to be happy and friends always pick you up when your down. if you have siblings than you can talk to them and tell them how you feel and let your feelings out.(to your friends too) You can still be close with both your parents too.. just cauz there not together doesnt mean you can keep in touch with one and be with the other

hope i helped good luck `xox`

Q: you know that guy... the one that you can never get out of your head? the one that can be a total bitch to you and you'll stay up all night worrying that you did something wrong, only to find out the next day that it meant absolutly nothing and you feel like such an idiot and you want sooo badly to hate him... but for some reason it just makes you love him even more??

yeah that guy.
well... i know a guy like that...
i saw him a few weeks ago. for the first time in a whilee... and it was like we never broke up... yet two weeks later he gives me a call and is like... hey. i have a girlfriend and my whole life just goes spinning down the toilet like used toilet paper. why do guys do that to you? they dont seem to care, but you know [or in my case just sort of sit there and PRAY] that somehow they feel the same way.

i dunno
i guess my question is what do you do when your mr. right is hundreds of miles away and has a girlfriend? what do you do when you just CANT get over your ex??

ok..

i have a friend who is going through the same thing and shes not taking it well eather..at least not that i know of. the advice that i would give you and her is that this guy may or may not be the guy of your dreams but eather way you cant let him bring you down. if he would do that to you hes not worth your time. ok thats sucky advice so im gonna have an alternitive: if you REALLY think you like this guy then you need to tell him that he hurt you and that you thought he liked you the same way you like him. it may take ALOT of guts but ya gotta do something about it♥

hope i helped `xox`

Q: OKAYY.. so theres this really annoying girl at my sxchool .. she thinks she is friends with the "popular" kids, but noone likes her. she is new to my school this year, and i know it must be hard for her, but a "uncool" girl tried to be friends with her and she was a total bitch and ignored her. she is annoying and when she follows me and my friends around she doesnt even talk, she just stands there. we dont know what to do to get her away from us, shes like a mosquito ... ahhh shes really annoying, should we say somethingto her about following us around, or keep quiet? i dont wanna be mean or anything but shes soo annoying. help!!

ok...
i think that you should tell her "lightly" that you dont want her hanging around. so that way it wont seam like your being mean. deff dont keep quiet because then nothing will happen or change and she will keep hanging with you.

hope i helped`xox`

Q: Lately, a lot of my frenz have been leaving me out of stuff they they all do together. When i tell them they say sorry we didn't know we were leaving u out, but then they keep doing it. What do u think I should do?

yea ive had this happen before. you have to really tell them that you feel left out. and if youve done that then you cant let that hurt you and if they keep doing it you just have to keep telling them. but you cant let it get to you.

hope i helped `xox`

Q: well u see... all i do is play guitar and i cant stop and its gettin annoyin and stuff.... o wise erica sage what should i do?!! (not seriously.. i luv playin guitar i only asked this stupid question cause this erica girl asked me to ask her a question..)

ha ha ur funny

i think that you shuld stop playing guitar and get a life...JUST KIDDING!!! its your "passion" so i guess keep playing it! rock on? lol

xox hope i helped

Q: I stayed over my friends house one weekend and her brother is my bestfriends boyfriend. That night me and him stayed up and hung out and played around (like hittin eachother with stuff and pushin eachother of the bed) and he said 'You know what? Dont tell Cjay(my bestfriend) this but I think I'm starting to like you. I didn't like him before he said that and I started to like him.And they are the type of couple that break up everynight and get back together sooner or later, and this was a night they broke up.Then we stayed up all night watching movies and playing around and holding hands and stuff, nothing bad. But Cjay found out and she told me to stay away from her for however long. Her b.f told me that he ment that he liked me, and not to worry b/c he'll fix everything. I don't want my best friend to hate me, but I like her b.f....Idk wat to do....

i say chix over dix but that doesnt always work out..if you really like this guy then you should do something about it.its your friends fault for not having a stable enough relationship with this guy if she really did like him. she gave him a chance to like someone else it just happend to be you. if you guys are really good friends youll get over it but you should talk to her.

i hope this helped `xox`

Q: how do you get guys to like you?

well..there are more ways to get guys attention then dressing slutty or stuff like that...you should just be you and dont act weird around them. what guys want the most i think is the real you and to feel comfortable around you. go up to someone that youve been wanting to talk to and just talk to them. they'll think thats cool and talk to you back. if they dont they are stupid and not worth your time. so just be yourself and have funnn

hope this helps xox

bio

Heyy everyone my name is erica. i got this site from my friend lena so if i dont fully answer your question you can go to her.

i love my camp.. ramah palmer! it is the most amazing this ever. i have many friends and they are all the best! i like house, greys anatomy, and one tree hill. im pretty outgoing and spring is my favorite season. i also love playing field hockey. its my sport and we wear skirts, got a problem? yeahh random stuff...

hope i help you out `xox`