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I have a good friend, Annie. Annie's best friend is Ashley, and Ashley never ever leaves her side! In fact, she's unhappy because Annie & I are going to Panama City beach together for spring break and she wasn't invited.

Anyways, my problem is: when ever Annie and I have plans, last minute Ashley seems to have to tag along. Annie will usually say, "Oh, Ashley is spending the night. So is it cool if she comes along too?" Even though we've had these plans for days.

I've tried talking to her, she'll say she's going to fix it but never does. What should I do?

Maybe Annie doesn't want to hurt Ashley's feelings. Have you asked her this? If Annie is afraid of hurting Ashley's feelings then maybe you could help her find a way to tell Ashley without hurting her feelings. I don't know the whole story of you 3 so I won't offer any more advice than this but feel free to e-mail me a bout it later if you need more help.

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Do you think it's really possible for a couple to last through high school and college and eventually get married? I always thought people who were married and were high school sweethearts was the cutest thing.

Also, when me and my boyfriend go to college we'll be about four hours away from each other. How hard is it to keep a relationship going in this type of situation? I don't know how I'll deal with a long term relationship. As it is we live 20 minutes away from each other and see each other every other day and if for some reason we can't get together I'll start missing him so much it hurts.

Yes I do think it's possible for highschool sweethearts to last. My aunt and uncle are highschool sweethearts and they're fine. There are ups and downs to every relationship but in te end you have to know that you love each other and you'll make it through.

I am sort of in a long distance relationship myself. I can only see my boyfriend on the weekends and sometimes a day during the week. It is hard but we've been together for 9 months and we're fine. There were times where I felt like ripping my hair out, but all I had to do was call him and everything would be fine. We stay on the phone for hours a day. If you don't have that kind of tie you can do a pen pal kind of thing so it kinda adds an excitement factor to missing him. You'll be able to read his thoughts and feeligs for you everyday or when ever he sends the letters. Or you two could write in journals everyday and ten when you do meet each other, exchange them and then you'll get to read that while you're waiting to see each other.

It is hard but if you love each truly, you'll get through it.

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how can i stop eating so much?? i used to have belimia and its always on my mind.. i keep eating LOTS every second i want food and its driving me crazy. if i dont do somethin about it now im gunna turn belimic again and i dont want to!!! plz help me! IM SCARED ILL GET BELIMIA AGAIN =[

A little thing I do is when I want a snack Idrink a bottle of water and it makes me feel full. It's a good way to pass the time between meals.

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This guy I like, J, likes another girl, A. A likes him too. Ive been talking to J for a month now and Ive known he liked A. But then tonight he told me that he really liked her and was asking for advice on when to kiss her. I dont know what to do bc a big piece of my heart wants him to be happy and a small part wants him to not like her or vice versa. Of course I gave him the advice bc I really do want him to be happy. And being the friend is about all I can do right now bc theres no way I would try to deliberately try to sabotage them. I know I can only be his friend for now but its tearing me apart inside. What do I to help him, her and also myself? Im really lost.

Me 13/F
J 15/M

Okay I swear I'm not being mean but you're wat to young to be getting in a complicated love life. my advice to you is just wait. You have your whole life to find the one and if he's not it then you'll find someone else. I'm sure by the time you get to highschool you won't even like him anymore.

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Ok im 16 years old and me and my girlfriend live like 3 hours apart ya its hard and the first time she asked me out i told her i wont be able to see her that much and everything and she said she was fine with that well now we fight almost everyday because she cant see me what do i do its hard.

I am 16 years old and my boyfreind lives pretty close, but I only get to see him on the weekends and it's usually for a day. if you really love each other you'll find a way to work it out. You just have to communicate with each other. It is hard and you do feel like jumping off a bridge sometimes but to know that you love each other is enough o get you through it. Well it is for me.

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