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E-mail: pinkslip1988@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: New York
Occupation: Photographer/ Future Law Enforcer
Age: 20
AIM: sparkleintheeye8
Member Since: September 9, 2008
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Last Update: September 11, 2008
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me and my guy have been in a serious(long distance) relationship for two years now.. we had been in alot of fights but we always made up because we love eachother alot.. recently we came across a fight.. u see in both our FB(facebook) accounts we had put on our relationship status as "in a relationship".but recentlt my guy asked me permisiion to chnage his profile status to single becuse he had to add a married cousin sis of his whose a critic on love affairs.i understood him(bcos his cousin whose much older than him loves him like her son)... so i said ok to it and he asked me to open another new profile for him and put the staus on rwelationship.. i did as he told.. and increased his privacy settings so that his cousin sis wont find him on FB.i put on his profile info from his original profile and added a pic.. and i told him about it, he said to remove all personal info from his profile.. and i said "its ok forget about opening a profile for me then"..
and i was very hurt.. didnt talk with him properly for the whole day..and i didnt give him the reason for it.. the next day i spoke he was angry with me... anyway it went on like that and i ended up telling him "i hate you, why are you always getting angry with me, i didnt even complain about that profile but i was hurt about it".. and now he's angry with me for 2 whiole days.. i called him many times but he sounds distant.. i begged him to forgive me but he says i have crossed his limits..
i love him to death.. and i didnt mean what i said when i said i hated him :'(... i told him that, sent him an -card.. cried, begged himk back... i know he got very hurt over what i said.. bcos he has never done like this to me before. what shuld i do... i miss him so much.. how do i win him back again.. please help me out
please dont give me lectures on what i dd was wrong.. i accept that.. and i deeply regret it and i will never do anything like that again.. but what should i do now to get him back??? (link)
This questions reminds me of some people in my neighboorhood. One of the people in the relationship changed their relationship status to single and the other got real mad. They were together for years too on and off and they seem really happy. Eventually, they realized it was stupid to fight over something so miniscule and were once again happy. It's hard for me to hear about things like this because I ruined a perfectly good high school senior year but accidently letting it slip that I was in love with someone in my class and now I have to listen to everything about him and his girlfriend thanks to facebook, myspace, and so on. In my opinion if this guy of yours loves you as much as you love him he should be happy with you and anything that happens between you two. Use fights as a growing mechanism and realize that fights are just there to give you a little space so you can become closer than ever. I have learned to accept that this guy will never be mine but I have also learned that it is not a bad thing to love him forever in my heart. Good luck.


Hi this is what I plan to be for halloween

http://www.costumesupercenter.com/csc/prod/119986/i/1/product.web

Now I do not know what shoes to wear, i have really nice ankle high black boots and Peek Toe Patent Black Heels i could wear but no knee high boots that are green. Would black look gd?...or do you have any ideas of wear I could get boots that the girl in the pic is wearing.??? (link)
Wear the peek toes. Showing off more of your legs would accomplish making the costume more of a sexy military woman. Also don't wear any stockings and make sure your hair is perfectly styled. Any man worth his weight will have to take a second look to take it all in. Good Luck.


P.S Got your feedback question so I was thinking that you should curl your hair and make sure its perfect after u put the hat on. Let me know how it goes.


I've skipped breakfast and lunch and barely had anything for dinner for the past three days.
And the weird thing is, I actually look fatter to myself. I feel gross and bloated.
So why is this? I thought skipping meals was supposed to do the opposite.

I know that skipping meals is bad, just I can't think of anything else to make me look skinny. I'm only 105 lbs and 5' 4", but weight isn't my issue. I don't look as skinny as I want to be. I run, do sit-ups, eat healthy, blah blah blah. It's not working.

But I would like to know why the skipping meals is making me more bloated. (link)
If you want to look skinny without actually losing wieght your best bet would be to change some things in your wardrobe. What is your favorite color and what color eyes do you have? Sometimes just finding the best color for your eyes makes you look a hell of a lot better. Get back to me and I will help you choose some things. Good luck.


OKAY so my school serves pizza, EVERY DAY, and I'm on a diet there for I bring my lunch every day. BUT the thing is I don't have a microwave, so I can only take items that don't have to be heated! I have been taking a ham sandwich for two weeks with one small bag of sun chips.
SO my major isue is what else can I fix, that is diet appropriate, yummy, and non heatable.

Please see let me know if there's something that would be suitable for my situation.

THANK YOU :D (link)
Ok first of all buy a bag of baked lays potato chips (plain that's important) and shake nutmeg onto them and shake them up. Second, if your school serves bagels or english muffins or anything like that buy those and bring in tomatos (if you like them) mixed with mayonaise. Take the tomatoes and top the bagel or english muffin with them. If possible make the bagel a wheat bagel if not just a plain one. That will get you bread, vegetables, a little carbs, and a snack without having to worry about counting calories or anything like that. Also, it tastes great so you won't be as tempted to eat the pizza. I am a part time chef so give me a while and I will come up with some other yummy recipes for you. Let me know what is your favorite food so maybe I can work around that. Good luck.


whenever i run, my heart starts beating super fast and starts hurting really bad. what's wrong with me? it's always been like that. doctor says im totally healthy,.. so? (link)
It has to do with your breathing. You need to learn how to control your breathing during and after running. Go to google.com and type in breathing techniques and look for anything about athletes or police officers and find the easiest way for you to control your breathing. Trust me it used to happen to me as well, but since I have been training to become a police officer I have learned how to control my breathing and I feel a hell of a lot better. Good luck.


Okay so me and my boyfriend had sex over 2 weeks ago. We used a condom and everything and so i didn't really think anything of it. The condom didn't split as far as i know but now i'm really worried.

I'm probably over reacting but my period is now 3days late (i know that probably sounds silly) But i'm really worried and paranoid about it. The last 4 months have been precise and it's a bit strange that i'm not 'on' yet.

So yea.. ANY helpful advice really would be great - at least to help put my mind at rest a little more anyway!

Thanks a lot. x (link)
Is there anything in your life that may be causing you stress? A few months ago I had a similar scare. My period was late and I was having many symptoms that seemed like pregnancy, but when my doctor ran tests it turns out that my body was just undergoing shock because of all the stress in my life. However, I would get the at home test just incase because it could also mean that your hormones are just all wound. I hope everything comes out the way you wish it to because I know that I was so relieved when I found out I wasn't pregnant because I wasn't ready yet. However, if it turns out that you are pregnant I hope everything goes ok with no complications and I would be glad to help anytime. Good Luck.




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